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Saturday, October 11, 2008

When sexual harassment is totally okay (um, NOT)

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Russian men are notoriously sexist, and one judge is actively making sure that the stereotype endures. When a 22-year old woman who hoped to "become only the third woman in Russia's history to bring a successful sexual harassment action against a male employer," well, brought it, she was shot down in court, says the Telegraph. Despite her claims that her employer locked her out of the office after she refused to have sex with him, the judge threw out her case and justified doing so with the noble cause of propagating the human species. "'If we had no sexual harassment we would have no children,' the judge ruled." No he didn't!

But um, yeah, actually he did. And if you think that's crazy, consider this evidence from a recent Russian survey: "100 per cent of female professionals said they had been subjected to sexual harassment by their bosses, 32 per cent said they had had intercourse with them at least once and another seven per cent claimed to have been raped." Furthermore, "Eighty per cent of those who participated in the survey said they did not believe it possible to win promotion without engaging in sexual relations with their male superiors." What the f$*k is going on over there!?

Conversely, the EEOC (Equal Employment Opportunity Commission) here in the States received 12,510 charges of sexual harassment last year, which seems tame in comparison, but these numbers represent the first increase in these charges in seven years, and that's not good. And is it just me or does almost every woman I know have some story about inappropriate attention from a male co-worker? It almost seems petty to complain about these instances when Russian women are experiencing such widespread human rights atrocities, but it's also, hopefully, a motivator for us to exercise our rights to a workplace sans crappy sleazeballs. Of course, maybe I'm just venting because both myself and my boyfriend work from home, so this environment is riddled with sexual harassment.

SEE ALSO: "How to handle inappropriate behavior at work"
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  • Angela's Avatar
    Posted by Angela Wed Aug 6, 2008 5:07pm PDT

    Did you have a point? You didn't write anything about why this occurs. You didn't write anything about what might be done to stop it, or if anyone is trying to do anything to stop it. You did, however, with your stupid title, suggest that it's acceptable.

    DO NOT ever belittle the feelings, emotions, needs, concerns, or problems of others whom you have no understanding of. Comments like, "It almost seems petty..." is exactly the type of mentality that keeps people from reporting sexual and/or harassment crimes against them. Women especially attempt to convince themselves that "It wasn't that bad," or "He really didn't mean it," or "Maybe it's just me."

    Stop writing ridiculous, overly sensational headlines. Stop saying SANS like it's the new hip word or something.

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  • jeanina93's Avatar
    Posted by jeanina93 Wed Aug 6, 2008 5:12pm PDT

    thats fukin stupid

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  • mabcosmic's Avatar
    Posted by mabcosmic Wed Aug 6, 2008 5:31pm PDT

    It is never petty to complain about an inappropriate coworker who is breaking the law, unless you want the problems here to get as bad as Russia's. Seriously. The root of sexual offenses against women - minor to serious - starts as conditioned thinking that women are public property obligated to entertain and cater to the whims of men. Until we all put a stop to that women will continue to be at risk of sexual offenses anywhere in society.

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  • Victor's Avatar
    Posted by Victor Wed Aug 6, 2008 6:50pm PDT

    Don't take a job offer from "Russia with Love" ladies. . . . .

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  • Big Bo's Avatar
    Posted by Big Bo Wed Aug 6, 2008 8:36pm PDT

    ya what he said

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  • tangerine's Avatar
    Posted by tangerine Wed Aug 6, 2008 8:38pm PDT

    Sexual harassment is NEVER okay, and you should change your title. I ws honestly expecting a bit more when I clicked on this.

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  • M W's Avatar
    Posted by M W Wed Aug 6, 2008 8:41pm PDT

    In all fairness I'd rather read something odd like this than another feminist yelling about how men being in the same room as them is sexual harassment. That is when they aren't trying to sell tickets to their fem-nazi rallies.

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  • wantonstew's Avatar
    Posted by wantonstew Wed Aug 6, 2008 9:44pm PDT

    actually, your evaluation of feminists is unfair, insensitive, and uncompassionate. but that is what this watered down t.v. culture we have here is all about. you don't have time or attention for the suffering that goes on, you'd rather just make light of it. it's sad when the only people who understand are those who have been sexually harassed themselves, or maybe their loved ones, if there IS a capacity for love...and understanding in the first place.

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  • Orchid's Avatar
    Posted by Orchid Wed Aug 6, 2008 9:48pm PDT

    It seems more women are flashing themselves to Girls Gone Wild than are pushing to break the many glass ceilings still looming above us. I surmise that this increasingly popular image of women drunk and jiggling themselves is not only perpetuating but also propagating sexual harassment in the workplace. Remember the good old days when women were demanding equal pay for equal work? Sadly, I don't.

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  • Orchid's Avatar
    Posted by Orchid Wed Aug 6, 2008 10:22pm PDT

    Oh wait, I should add that I don't think women are asking or deserve to be harassed because of this increasingly popular image of vapid sexed-up girls. It is INEXCUSABLE when a person of either gender sexually harasses another. I'm just saying that it certainly doesn't help. Repeated exposure to a negative image will subliminally influence our assumptions of those in said image. This is how stereotypes of all kinds perpetuate despite their falseness.

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