Why am I obsessed with her?

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  Posted by ~MIKE'S PROPERTY~ Fri Jul 17, 2009 5:53pm PDT

  I've seen this before... Don't let that get to your head, your mind just plays tricks on you to make it seem like what she has you want. Sometimes the kids can get involved by hanging around "her" and it makes you think that she will be the woman figure. And the fact that he left you for her should push you to move on and find someone better. You never know maybe she will leave him for someone else, you can't trust women like that.

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  Posted by Alejandra Sat Jul 18, 2009 12:23am PDT

  i hate homewreckers. don't worry girl, soon enough you will find a good man and he will regret ever leaving you for another woman. it might be hard now, i mean he was your husband!, but sooner or later someone is going to come into your life and sweep you off you feet... and then you'll have something to show him! in the meantime, i say you get a make-over and a whole new wardrobe - - the next time you see him when he is picking up your kids, he will be blown away, even if he does not show it!

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  Posted by another hockey fan Sat Jul 18, 2009 8:50am PDT

  Okay, I get that you are pissed at her but it's your "wonderful" hubby that cheated on you NOT her. And chances are he would NOT still be with you even if she never entered the picture. There would just be another version of her (or even several) so don't kid yourself, this guy is a loser and he deserves to be with her. In the interim the best thing you can do is never talk poorly about her or him if you want to keep peace with your kids whether or not you ever meet her. Take the high road and don't stoop to his level.

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  Posted by CrazySheika Sat Jul 18, 2009 11:05am PDT

  I think it would have happened even if it wasnt her. Your husband cheated on you with "her" and "her" could have been anyone and or one of several that you dont know about. You just have "her" in your head because she is the one that he did go to at the end of the relationship with you. Sometimes people arnt ment to stay together and I think that perhaps there is a better path for you each to go down. Even if its not with that guy that used to be in your life. I know you have invested time and have kids with him. That didnt mean anything to him. So its time for you to move on. Dont let him mean anything to you. But dont forget about your kids. Make the convo about your kids and only your kids. Dont worry about "her" and that guy you used to be with. You have an open road ahead of you. You should take it.

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  Posted by roughingit Mon Jul 20, 2009 3:40pm PDT

  Thanks for your comments. I feel like a little weight has been lifted. I really appreciate being able to blog without anyone knowing my identity. Frankly, i'm embarrassed that "she" takes up so much room in my mind. Gotta let him go,let her go, and move on. You're all right...they deserve each other, and I deserve better.

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