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Monday, November 30, 2009

Why Dating Bigger Men is Better

Size does matter
-Emily Porter, BettyConfidential.com

I never thought I'd date a "fat" guy. As an athlete (I swim several times a week), I used to only be attracted to svelte, trim men. I was so focused on finding a guy who worshiped his own body that I neglected to look for a guy who worshiped me.

So imagine my surprise when I began dating a chubby, cuddly guy. He didn't compete in triathlons, he never counted calories, he rarely wore fitted clothes. At first I grew nervous that we wouldn't work together. I worried that everywhere we went, people would judge us for being an inter-weight-cial couple.

But after a few weeks, my fears melted away. Instead of staring at his plump tummy, all I could see was how much he cared for me. Despite my initial prejudice against hefty hunks, I realized he pretty much rocked my world. Sometimes bigger is definitely better.

I'm not the only one jumping aboard the junk-in-the-trunk bandwagon.

The New York Times reports that several leading men have packed on pounds as of late. Russell Crowe, Jeff Daniels, John Travolta, Denzel Washington and Hugh Grant have all recently made full-figured film appearances. And Fox is planning a dating reality show called More to Love, which will feature overweight contestants.

Here are four reasons why dating a "Big & Tall" boy will give you the most bang for your buck.

1. He'll never criticize your weight or your food portions. If you want that extra slice of pizza or that extra scoop of ice cream, he's not going to raise an eyebrow.

2. You know how women's magazines always claim that men prefer women with a little meat on their bones, because their bodies feel better to the touch? Turns out the reverse is also true. Heavier men are softer and more squeezable than skinny studs.

3. His belly = your own personal, portable pillow.

4. Weighty guys enjoy life more than thin men. They never stress about diets or workouts - they instead spend their time tasting the pleasures of life. Like you!

How about you Bettys: Have you ever dated an overweight guy? Is bigger really better? Or are heavy men a turn-off?

Send us a photo of your big guy and we'll include it in our Bigger is Better roundup! E-mail it to editorial@bettyconfidential.com along with your name and your guy's name.

Read more about love from BettyConfidential.com: 7 Ways Male Birth Control Will Change Everything and Dating the Alpha Male

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  • Missy's Avatar
    Posted by Missy Thu May 21, 2009 10:21am PDT

    i completely agree with that. some skinny guys think too much about their own bodies to worry about the girl. but most sweet cuddly guys are chubby, and they are totally worth the time.

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  • Brianne's Avatar
    Posted by Brianne Thu May 21, 2009 10:22am PDT

    You know - a lot of these also go for shorter guys. I used to think I wanted a man who towered over me. Then I started dating men who were around my height.

    It seems to me that they try a little harder and aren't as self absorbed.

    Low and behold I'm gearing up to plan my wedding with a man who is about a half inch taller than I am. :)

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  • Geri's Avatar
    Posted by Geri Thu May 21, 2009 10:31am PDT

    Have to agree with the author said & what Brianne posted. My boyfriend, who I adore, is chubby & the same height as me. While I may fret over my weight & know that he will never complain, lol.

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  • Aj's Avatar
    Posted by Aj Thu May 21, 2009 10:42am PDT

    Hmmm some big guys give the best hugs!! Well I knew this cute cuddly big guy.. He had the cutest smile ever and I enjoyed getting hugs from him whenever we would see each other around town. Sadly we never did talk about a relationship or being more than friends but I still have the memories of his good warm bear hugs....

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  • None's Avatar
    Posted by None Thu May 21, 2009 10:52am PDT

    Point 1: He'll never criticize your weight or your food portions" is untrue, some of these fat men are the same as a fit guy, and expect the woman to be skinny. I've found unattractive guys as stuck-up and more of assholes than some of the good-looking guys. But personally, for me, I love a guy who is a bit chubby, that doesn't bother me, their hugs are so sweet, I like to hold onto something, don't get me wrong, though, of course all women want some buff guy with large pecs and some hard abs, but personality is very important to me, so I like me some teddy bears.

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  • Cynthia's Avatar
    Posted by Cynthia Thu May 21, 2009 10:57am PDT

    BIGGER IS ALWAYS BETTER. NO WHY??? BECAUSE IT IS TRUE THAT MEN WITH A LOIILE CUSH TO THE PUSH ARE NOT SO SELF ABSORBED WITH THEMSELVES...... ALSO BESIDES BEING EXTRA SENSUAL IN BED THEY MAKE GREAT PARTNERS FOR LIFE......

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  • Laura's Avatar
    Posted by Laura Thu May 21, 2009 10:57am PDT

    omg I so agree the bigger the better!

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  • thegothic22's Avatar
    Posted by thegothic22 Thu May 21, 2009 10:58am PDT

    I weigh 285 My Girlfriend(yes I capitalized Girlfriend) like my Queen. After reading this comment what do you think

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  • CARLA's Avatar
    Posted by CARLA Thu May 21, 2009 11:02am PDT

    I have been married to a chubby teddy bear for thirteen years, He is worth it all thirteen years of it.

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  • DeadlyPoison's Avatar
    Posted by DeadlyPoison Thu May 21, 2009 11:17am PDT

    LoL @ None's "I like me some teddy bears." Cute. Fat guys can be the same as fit ones JERKS! Just out there to get as many women as they can. They are all the same!!!!

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