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Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Why Guys Cheat in the Summer

During the warm-weather months, men are more likely to be unfaithful. Find out why and how to spot the signs he could be two-timing you.


     Remember when you were a kid and summer meant no school, freedom, and fun? Well, that attitude carries over into adulthood, leaving us with the sense that during these months, the usual rules don't apply. "Some men take this to mean that it's okay to cheat once the hot weather rolls around," explains Daniel Kruger, PhD, evolutionary psychologist at the University of Michigan at Ann Arbor.

     And let's not forget the obvious: When the temperature goes up, clothes come off. Since guys are so easily turned on by all the female skin they see poking out of sundresses, tank tops, and short shorts on the street and at work, they're in a constant state of heightened desire. As a result, it may be easier for them to succumb to lust should an opportunity arise.

3 Signs He Could Be Straying

  • Watch out if he doesn't invite you to a work event that other coworkers' partners are attending, like an office picnic or rooftop drinks. "Not inviting you implies that he doesn't want his coworkers to know he has a girlfriend so he can flirt with someone else," says New York City therapist Diana Kirschner, PhD, author of the forthcoming Love in 90 Days.
  • Though it's normal for guys to check out other women for a second or two, even if you're right there with him, be concerned if he's taking "more than a quick glance in front of you. It's a sign he isn't concerned with appearing faithful and may be open to playing around," says Kirschner.
  • Take notice if he tells you that he wants to use his summer vacation to take a guys-only trip and doesn't set aside any time off to spend with you. True, he could really just want to hang out at the beach with his buddies. But he could also want to mess around out of town, where he's less likely to be caught.

Read more signs he's being unfaithful and find out how to cheat-proof your relationship.

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Comments 31-38 of 38
  • Robert's Avatar
    Posted by Robert Mon Jul 6, 2009 7:18am PDT

    Cheating is never a good choice, regardless of whether you are single or married. If you're single and (sexually) unsatisfied in your relationship, at least have the decency to end it before walking into another intimate relationship. If you're married and are tempted to cheat, relationship counseling might be for you. One way or another, you should find a way to inform your partner that you're not satisfied with the physical intimacy that you share. We could also talk about the common STD's that you are exposed to each time you are intimate with a new partner... but you already know about those, right?

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  • Jeannay's Avatar
    Posted by Jeannay Mon Jul 6, 2009 7:25am PDT

    I would cheat for revenge...

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  • JC's Avatar
    Posted by JC Mon Jul 6, 2009 7:19pm PDT

    Like Nelly said. " Its getting hot in here so take off all your clothes"

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  • yogie's Avatar
    Posted by yogie Mon Jul 6, 2009 8:52pm PDT

    who's all these men cheating with(WOMAN)

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  • Leo  Bloodfang's Avatar
    Posted by Leo Bloodfang Tue Jul 7, 2009 12:01am PDT

    hey now there are decent guys that would love a compatable female, and will NEVER cheat. im one of them, its the other way around for me tho (they usually cheat on me, and i assure u i give them no reason to at all). if u don't want your man to cheat, cater to his needs, mental, spiritual, and physical. and PLEASE, PLEASE don't nag at him 24/7.

    ladies, be patient and actually take your time and look. u might find your soulmate in the most unlikely places, like your closest friend or something. try asking your best friend how he truly feels about u, u mite be in for a suprise.

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  • graCe's Avatar
    Posted by graCe Tue Jul 7, 2009 5:23am PDT

    cheaters never win!!!!

    dont cheat on your partner!!!cheat on the paper!!!

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  • TJ S's Avatar
    Posted by TJ S Wed Jul 8, 2009 9:41am PDT

    Wow, yeah cosmo because WOMEN don't cheat...ever...

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  • Aj's Avatar
    Posted by Aj Wed Jul 15, 2009 10:36am PDT

    ah no there is another Aj got darnit!! lol I rather find this article insightful and saddening.. Oh well, people cheat, but something must be done about it! Eh lol

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