Love + Sex

Okay, if you missed my first post here's the short story: I've been in love with someone for the past 6 years... and now I'm married to someone else and completely miserable. :(

"Bob" and I still talk on a regular basis and we both still feel the same way that we did when we were together: It's not over for us... we're still in love. BUT like I said earlier, I'm now married to someone else. When I met my husband "Ryan", he was great. He was so sweet, funny, and we had so much fun together without having to do anything at all. Plus, he was great around my daughter. Which is important to me. I was talking to Bob a lot then too about getting back together, but he had a lot going on and I didn't think he could get himself together enough to help me raise my little girl. So, I stayed with Ryan and ended up married to the 2008 version of Dr. Jeckyl/Mr.Hyde. About (MAYBE!) 2 months into our marriage he started becoming a bigger and bigger JERK: always yelling, cussing, and doing everything he could to hurt my feelings. He doesn't respect me at ALL. We can't go anywhere as a family because he gets pissed off at either the random strangers around us for NOTHING. They drive like morons, there are tooooo many people around, the BABY won't quit crying.... it is always something. He yells at my 18 month old like she's a grown up and even cusses at her! I can handle people fighting with me, but there is no need to cuss at a baby. It is to the point that I count the hours and minutes until it's time for him to go to work so I can have a break. I have never cheated on my husband, but at the same time I'm miserable with him and I'm always thinking about Bob. I know that my husband loves me, but I don't think that I love him as much as I loved how he used to be. So I can't see us ever being happy. I talk to Bob at least once or twice a week now and I can't even explain how much better I feel when I hear his voice! I miss him so much it hurts me not to be able to talk him all the time. BUT.. Where do I go from here? Do I leave Ryan for Bob so I can be happy? Or do I stay married and honor my commitment? Is it really a fair commitment anyway since he was basically FAKING his entire personality?

I am in serious need of advice here! :(