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Saturday, December 5, 2009
Why Should Only Men Give Valentine's Day Gifts?
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Women shouldn't be the only ones to get V-Day treats
February is here, ladies - the month of candy-coated hearts and
lacey lingerie. Some of us look forward to this month all year
long, anticipating a romantic Valentine's date, while others
dread it, afraid of what our boyfriends will concoct in the
kitchen.
Whether we love it or hate it, we are accustomed
to being on the receiving end of the "gift giving
process."
To most of us women who are involved in relationships, it's
definitely a nice feeling to know that when Valentine's Day
arrives, we should expect some sort of token gift, even if it's
a sweet and sentimental card. But where in the unwritten
rules of the holiday states that just the woman should expect
something special on February 14?
When recently discussing this holiday with a group of my
friends, they all seemed to agree that even though times have
changed regarding women's roles, men are still
"supposed" to be the ones to purchase gifts, send flowers
to the office and make extravagant dinner reservations.
To read more
about men and V-day treats, click here.
Related: women, woman, valentine's day, relationships, men, holiday, gift giving
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Posted by DAVID G Wed Feb 4, 2009 9:43am PST
I think it is just greed and selfishness to think that only a man should buy gifts. Women work just like us and earn a living just like us and they can pretty much do any job that we can do so why should buying your man a gift on valentines day be any different. We like to feel special too. I would think that it would make the day more special if both of you can feel special and loved. And what better way to do that then to give to each other. Maybe we don't need flowers but a gift to show how much you care and that you appreciate us being in your life. Sometimes it makes me feel like she thinks that she is superior to me and deserves so much more than I do. A person that really loves you should want to give to you not see what she can get. Gender rules only ruin relationships. It leads to one person feeling taken for granted because he/she are made to believe that this is his/her job and they shouldn't expect the other person to do it as well. Love is about giving.
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Posted by sanity_is_irrelevant Wed Feb 4, 2009 6:59pm PST
I'm with the article. However, it's not easy figuring out what to get a guy for Valentine's Day, as they're unlikely to appreciate flowers, chocolates in a frilly red box, or stuffed animals. Am I right?
However, that's no excuse to neglect our men purposefully! Bake him some homemade goodies, get him a cute card and write a cute little note, or buy yourself some nice lingerie and surprise him for a change. Love is about giving as well as receiving, and both guys and girls should get a chance to feel special.
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Posted by Angel Morbid Wed Feb 4, 2009 8:21pm PST
hmm so there's some kind of unspoken rule that only men should buy women gifts for V-day? Well that's stupid AND selfish. I think you should at least do something sweet or off the beaten path if you're short on money, either that or make it clear that you won't spend money on each other. If you got money to spare or aren't very creative, the best thing is to just ASK your SO and know what they want. Not every woman or man for the matter wants chocolate or flowers or any of that cheesy crap.
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Posted by ANTHONY Sat Feb 7, 2009 2:24pm PST
Is there only one heart involved with this holiday ? It is a two way street,im not expecting flowers or chocolate or even a dinner. BUT ! If I cannot even get a card out of this day, what makes her deserve anything.
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