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Sunday, November 29, 2009

Why we’re not buying the Obama relationship gossip

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In the same way that tabloids, gossip blogs, and B.S. biographies plague both perfectly blissful couples and troubled twosomes alike, the focus of such outlets has finally arrived on President Barack Obama and his wife, Michelle. Despite the fact that we've rarely seen a famous couple who undoubtedly look so in love, Christopher Andersen's new book, "Barack and Michelle: Portrait of an American Marriage," searches desperately for any shred of a detail that the first couple are not as happy as they seem.

The biography claims Michelle Obama gave her husband the silent treatment because many women "pushed their bodies up against his, slipped phone numbers into his pockets" and "whispered lewd suggestions in his ear." One time, he allegedly said, "Jesus, I wish they'd stop grabbing my ass." Michelle's response: "I want to tell these women, 'Back off. Get a life.' It's just embarrassing, that's all."

Not that we condone this behavior, but the President is a good looking guy. As history has taught us, many women will stop at nothing to try and get with a man in office. So far nothing in the book has pointed to Obama being receptive of such advances, so we see no problem. Except maybe he might want tighter security.

Other details paint Michelle as controlling, saying she urged Barack to pass on Hillary Clinton as a running mate, asking him if he "could live with" Bill and Hillary living down the hall in the White House. (Really? This sounds totally ridiculous.) The books also claims she pushed for "Yes we can!" as the campaign slogan, despite the fact that campaign manager David Axelrod thought it was "childish and corny."

In the most harsh bit of gossip fodder, the book claims Obama "had grown close to an attractive young African-American woman [working for the Obama campaign] named Vera Baker. When Baker suddenly and inexplicably vanished from the campaign and resurfaced on the Caribbean island of Martinique, tongues reportedly began wagging. A jealous Michelle, it was suggested, had engineered Baker's departure." Baker herself shrugged off reporters saying "nothing happened."

We real hate when tabloids impose on celebrity relationships, particularly ones that seem wholesome and good. We wish, particularly in this case, that people would stop digging and mind their own business. Barack Obama has a country to run, and whether or not he has or has had any marriage difficulties have nothing to do with his job. Let the man--and the woman--do their work. [NY Post][Jezebel]
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  • bakerlady's Avatar
    Posted by bakerlady Tue Sep 22, 2009 12:33pm PDT

    I am a lot more interested in what Mr.O does as president than in what happens in his and Mrs. Os' personal life.

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  • Still_Rockin!'s Avatar
    Posted by Still_Rockin! Tue Sep 22, 2009 12:59pm PDT

    From what the public sees is that they have a strong, happy marriage. Mrs. Obama has to be a strong and committed woman to be married to a politician, let alone the President of the United States of America. I admire her courage and tenacity.

    Kudos to them for beating the odds.

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  • __A_YAHOO_USER__'s Avatar
    Posted by __A_YAHOO_USER__ Tue Sep 22, 2009 1:11pm PDT

    Wow. Must suck to have such a bad life that you have to make up stories about people you don't even know just to get attention. I hope this guy doesn't make a dime on this crap.

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  • elle's Avatar
    Posted by elle Tue Sep 22, 2009 1:36pm PDT

    I agree with everything you have said. Unfortunately it seems as though many people since the start of the Obama campaign have tried every way they can to bring down Obama and Michelle. I look at them as a family and see strength and love. Here's to hoping this false and outrageous claims quickly fade away.

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  • TAY's Avatar
    Posted by TAY Tue Sep 22, 2009 5:08pm PDT

    Nobody really knows what goes on when the cameras go off except the two of them. It's their business and there really shouldn't be a big deal about it. But then again, he's out in the public eye and that's what happens when people end up in the spotlight. Their life is no longer private. They don't get to decide what gets seen and what doesn't. Occupational hazard I guess.

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  • None's Avatar
    Posted by None Wed Sep 23, 2009 5:33am PDT

    While morals are a big issues among people about their president's to me, Clinton's PRIVATE life was his own, and he cheated and he's a dog for it, but as long as he runs the country fine, I will lose some respect, but he is doing his job. Black Monica Lewinsky's are all lined up now! For some reason, though, I think Obama & his wife are truly in love and he wouldn't risk his family. He seems very sincere, but then again, I don't know him personally & everyone is capable of things, but people are trying to start s--- that hasn't even begun. Go Obama!

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  • allie's Avatar
    Posted by allie Wed Sep 23, 2009 6:54am PDT

    I agree with you and I'm not buying the gossip. They look like a nice family. Plus this country has way bigger issues to deal with right now! I wish us all peace and prosperity.

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  • springtime's Avatar
    Posted by springtime Wed Sep 23, 2009 7:20am PDT

    The two years Barack Obama was on the campaign trail must have been very tough for the entire family. Staying connected by phone and email only goes so far. It appears they are all happily connected again under the same roof. Like most married couples with fast and furious agendas every day, there must be stressful moments. But if women were really grabbing the President's ass, it would be all over youtube and ET. I'm not buying this smear.

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  • katie's Avatar
    Posted by katie Wed Sep 23, 2009 7:30am PDT

    Even though I really couldn't care less about their personal life, I really wouldn't be surprised if it were known that Michelle was controlling. I don't know why, but I just get that vibe.

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  • opiniononly's Avatar
    Posted by opiniononly Wed Sep 23, 2009 10:23am PDT

    Let's shift this just a bit and consider a different perspective....

    Michelle Obama is an intelligent, capable, highly successful woman with her own opinions. If she voices them to her husband/president, why does it have to interpreted as controlling? He has stated on numerous occasions that he values and asks for her opinions; it appears to be part of the foundation of their marriage/partnership.

    If the Obamas have a marriage based on respect, the free exchange of opinions, and open conversations that include public and private concerns, couldn't it be that she (and he) are communicating in the same manner as they always have?

    Why do opinionated, intelligent women seem to bear the label as 'controlling', when the same behaviors from a man rarely seem to be as negatively perceived?

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