I know there are people out there who will do or try anything sexually. I’m pretty open minded, but I do have boundaries. I’m curious though, as to how many of those people who are completely uninhibited sexually, are happy in their relationships. And I’m not talking about a little hitting it from behind, or even sticking your tongue where the sun don’t shine. I’m talking about wife or partner swapping, cutting and maiming, choking, roping… You know that far out crazy ----- . Can anyone really actively participate in that kind of stuff, and maintain a real relationship?
I love being in a relationship with a woman who is as open minded as I am. She may not always like or agree with the things that I rant about, but she gives me the freedom to be myself without censorship. There are times when she may even comment on something that I write, but I can also tell when she's not exactly thrilled about my curiosities, or at least my expressing them.
You see, she's a little shy in public, but I know that I really don't have to go far to explore wherever my curiosity leads me. She’s not shy at all with me, and I like that. And regardless if she's into something or not, we can always talk about it. Although so far, there hasn’t been very much that we’ve discussed that she isn’t willing to explore. And I like that, too.
To be perfectly honest, her imagination may be just as actively wild as my own. She is a writer, and some of her vivid depictions of intimacy travels routes that even I’ve yet to explore. She may not always be the first to express her own fantasies vocally, but I can sometimes tell where her head is through her writing and by the questions she asks.
What I’m most happy about, is that she’s mine. And though we’re open with each other about our own explorations, I know that she has no desire to see me swinging from the chandelier with some other woman. Nor can I bear the thought of her being with anyone else. Maybe I'm just more open minded to whatever floats someone elses boat, than to what wind blows in my own sail. So, as open minded as we think we may be, are we really in the boring majority? I'm not sure. What I do know, is that I only want to get freaky with my Baby, and that I ain't swinging from the chandelier with anyone else.
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Posted by Tue Jul 15, 2008 11:54am PDT
Report Abuselol - I'm not THAT shy! But I am completely yours. And you're right, I don't want you to swing from anyone else's chandelier. MINE!
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Posted by Tue Jul 15, 2008 1:18pm PDT
Report AbuseI think to be openminded about it doesn't necessarily mean that you want to do it yourself. Alot of the things you mentioned were not even a thought in my mind. I am not that into pain, that it could possibly bring sexual arousal, and as I've said, I would never bring anyone else into it, it's just not a good idea. I did however know a guy in college who was married, they were swingers, it was more her sleeping with other women, but the other man and him would watch etc. To me it was strange, but it worked for them. Who am I to judge!! Everybody likes what they like and as long as they are not forcing that on anyone else then I don't think there is a problem.
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Posted by Tue Jul 15, 2008 3:01pm PDT
Report AbuseI try not to judge either. But I think you have a point Terry. I mean I go to a message board site, and though I have read about some couples's adventures, there is still not too much security with a few of them. I mean even one chick that proclaimed to have friends with benefits with a few guys and girls and even her hubby has his people too. She was still furious when he got a bj from a chick she didn't like. I guess there are certain rules to such play. But I think it still has her feeling a bit insecure and what was she thinking in allowing this type of relationship to go on or something. Last I read they are seperated for now and she is taking care of the kids. So who really knows. I mean you can be freaky all day, but when it comes down to it, do people really have a firm enough grip on what holds their relationship together besides the freaky stuff.
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Posted by Wed Jul 16, 2008 6:28am PDT
Report AbuseThat just goes to show that, once we really realize what intimacy is really all about, ultimately, "getting down" is really BEST with only one specific person.
Excellent post.
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