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  Posted by Fuentes Mon Jun 22, 2009 3:02pm PDT

  good housekeeping i understand u i am a housewife and have 4 kids 8,6,4 and 2 marrige isn't easy and let me tell u what drives me nuts when hubby here grabs things and don't put them back where it belongs i see u're point and yes sometimes u have to remind yourself about how there's other womens out there that r living a sucky life compare to your's or mine my hubby is a wonderful husband and father but there is just those times when he drives me nuts especially those times when i'm watching tv and he decides to wanna play video games but like u said at least he's at home and not going out there with he's buddys or even cheating i'm glad that god blessed me with 4 beutiful kids and a wonderful hubby god bless u and u're family.

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  Posted by W!LD CH!LD Mon Jun 22, 2009 3:55pm PDT

  Yeah i think people need to carefully read the post!! The writer is not complaining simply saying in other words dont sweat the small stuff and be grateful for the life you have...and Nkele no disrespect but we are in america, women are no longer limited to housewives!!

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  Posted by Andrew Mon Jun 22, 2009 7:47pm PDT

  i am 43 years old never married and i have a learning disabity

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  Posted by Shiv Mon Jun 22, 2009 8:46pm PDT

  I. Completely. Agree.

  I didn't even finish reading this before I started agreeing with you. People need to get their heads out of their butts and realize that we live the lives that others dream of.

  To everyone out there that takes everything we all have for granted, grow up.

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  Posted by Teena Tue Jun 23, 2009 3:52am PDT

  I agree that many women (and men) in fortunate countries still have the audacity to whine about not having a big enough house, hot water or cable channels as if their lives are going to end without these measly un-necessities. We watch episodes in soaps and many reality TV shows and wonder how gravely important it is to have dental coverage when getting a job, when people in other parts of the world just want to put food on the table, literally. We watch how some are used to filling their pantry to the brim while others just have enough for the day. We watch how homes are made into garbage dumps because of overstocking, unnecessary purchases while some literally have to live on the dumpsite. We love watching how people like Oprah and Ellen DG can easily give out trips, cars and expensive gadgets and call it their stimulus package or their favorite things, while on the other side of the world, cannot even afford to send their children to school.

  So before you sleep tonight, look around you and be grateful, think about how you just simply don't know what is going on in other people's live and then stop complaining.

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  Posted by Sunshyne Tue Jun 23, 2009 5:55am PDT

  Okay let me start off by saying I completely understand what the writer is saying. Basically, she is saying that women are stronger than what they think and instead of complaining about everything be thankful for what you have and if there is something that you don't like recognize your own power and change it. Stop b****ing and get up off your butt and do something about it. My personal way of thinking of things is when you think you've got it bad there is always someone out there that has it worse. That's not to belittle your own situation but to remind you to thank God for what you do have because you could have "Mary's" husband who refuses to work, help with the kids, take out the garbage, cut the grass, gets drunks, cheats, and beats on you.(worse case scenario). I'm old fashion and I think a man is the head of the house hold, but I also know a woman can make or break it. Either way marriage is designed as a 2 person partnership. You have to work together. If he is doing something that irks you, try finding out why it irks you so much, how you can work with him to either deal with that particular habit or how to eliminate it, if that can't be done learn to pick your battles. Is him leaving his dirty socks on the floor more important than the fact that he rubs your feet when you come home from work. Somethings are worth complaining about. If you spend the majority of the time concentrating on the things he doesn't do then you don't have enough time to enjoy the things he does do.

  I personally feel that people take marriage and vows too lightly. People, not everyone, seem to view marriage like a lease on an apartment, if you no longer like your neighbors, you move or if you no longer like the appearance of the apt. you look for a new one. Marriage is not suppose to be something that you jump in and out of. I'll be the first to say don't settle or if he treats you bad don't stay, but all of these things are things you should look at and think about before you say vows before God. There is always some article in a magazine or on the internet saying is this or that a deal breaker. These are all questions you should ask before the vows are taken. All I am asking is whatever happen to 25 and 35 year marriages? Nowadays if you make it to your 5th year, you're considered an old married couple. What happen to through sickness and health, better or worse, til death do us part? This day and time people get divorced over not putting the toilet seat down. It's just sad.

  Now for the person that said the writer sounds like she is not greatful for her kids please know that reading is more than being able to identify a words. You have to be able to read with comprehension. That woman said nothing about being upset that she has her kids for the summer. If you read the whole article she said she would kill for her children. I get so sick of you childless people always automatically jumping to the conclusion that somebody don't want their children because they imply that they need a break. That's just like needing a break from your man, pet, mother, job, etc. Does that mean you no longer love your man, going to put your dog in the shelter, divorce your mom, or quit your job. No. So it does not mean that you don't love your children or are a bad parent, it means you are human!

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  Posted by GRACE Tue Jun 30, 2009 2:07am PDT

  I love my husband, we are not rich, but we are happy. My house needs painting and floors,my car has no AC(we live in South Louisiana BTW), but we love eachother and our son and what we have accomplished thus far. The writer is correct, we fall into a trap sometimes wanting what we cant have and whatnot, but we must remember that life is fragile and precious. Stop and tell your spouse that you appreciate them. They might realize the same about you and you know what happens after that? A long night of "appreciation".

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  Posted by Boo! Thu Jul 2, 2009 6:22pm PDT

  Thank you.

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  Posted by Faby G Sat Jul 18, 2009 8:14am PDT

  lengeft-- YOU SAID IT!

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