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Monday, November 9, 2009

You Don’t Like Your Man’s Email Habits? Well, He Doesn’t Like YOURS!

Readers, you know I have love for you. But sometimes y’all get a little crazy. Take Erin’s recent post that asked “Why Do Men Write Such Short Emails?” This led a virtual grrrl riot focused on men's alleged email mistakes. The commenter 4208 put the question to me directly:

“Can Ryan please address the strange email behavior in a future post? Earlier this week my friend and I were talking about how weird it is that guys sign their names (why?), use stiff salutations (did he mean to write a letter to his landlord but accidentally type my name?), or worse yet--the impersonal closing ("talk to you soon," should always be translated as “talk to you one day in the distant....actually never”). Would also be curious what girl email habits stump or annoy him.”

Thanks for asking, 4208—I have plenty to say about men's “strange” behavior, and even more to say about your annoying email habits!

Related: What guy mannerisms drive you insane?

Allegation #1: Stiff Salutations

Dear Readers,

Men use proper salutations because hundreds of years of correspondence writing have proven this to be the best way to open a letter. I thought you wanted us to be classy—guess not. From now on, I'm opening every email with “Hey, toots.”

Allegation #2: Shortness
Men don’t write “short” emails, we write concise emails. Efficient emails. Lean emails. Brevity is the soul of wit, people. Truth.

Allegation #3: Impersonal Closings
Do you say “goodbye” before hanging up? Do you thank your host before leaving the party? Do you flush the toilet after taking a wizz? (Cameron Diaz doesn’t!) There’s a proper way to end everything, including emails.

Sincerely,
Ryan

Now that I have successfully rebutted your case against dudekind, I have a few counter allegations to level against the women of the world.

Speaking of things we'd like you not to do: Six beauty habits men wished you skip.

Counter Allegation #1: Emoticons
I know when you’re making a joke--there's no need for hieroglyphics.

Counter Allegation #2: Needless Abbreviations
BTW, I totes h8 it when grls use lame abbreviations. OMFG, is it so hard to type out the entire word? Srsly.

Counter Allegation: #3: Rambling
OK, so you’re really into this guy but you’re not sure if he likes you because he was talking about his ex the whole time and she sounds like a total skank and he kinda looks like Zac Effron crossed with Mr. Bean which is neither here nor there and pleasepleaseplease get to the point...

I rest my case.

Are you guilty of any of these email crimes? Do you think I need to chill out? (You know I'm just being a ham!) What’s the worst email you’ve ever received? What about the best?

Related: The 5 types of women who aren't as attractive as they think.

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  • Joboo027's Avatar
    Posted by Joboo027 Tue Jul 7, 2009 1:59pm PDT

    it's not the emails that women do the things you mention, it's also IM, just drives me nutz trying to decipher what the hell she is trying to tell me. so she wonders why she gets so many ???? from me when she is rambling. thanks, David

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  • Alexander Winchester's Avatar
    Posted by Alexander Winchester Tue Jul 7, 2009 4:19pm PDT

    writers like this make me believe that the only way to enjoy life is to get a lobotomy.

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  • KittyKat's Avatar
    Posted by KittyKat Tue Jul 7, 2009 5:01pm PDT

    As I can say for me a girl I can say that I'm guilty well used to be guilty of all three now I'm only guilty of the first and last. I cant help it I love to talk and can write long letters and emails. The longest letter I ever wrote was three pages back and front. I've wrote several long emails. Luckily my boyfriend doesnt complain. He only complains when I abbrievate words when I shouldnt. lol!

    The only thing I dont like about my boyfriend's emails is that they are too short. Usually unless its important to him all I get out of him is a word or two. Luckily I get two sentences. The word of two and the second line of I love you. I write so much I wish he could do the same back sometimes. *sigh*.

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  • Elaine's Avatar
    Posted by Elaine Tue Jul 7, 2009 7:13pm PDT

    I have to say I am guilty of using emotions because I think they are cute or unlike plain text gives the e-mail a sense of emotion. I have often wondered why men make it a point to put their name at the end of an e-mail. I mean you already know who sent it!

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  • None's Avatar
    Posted by None Wed Jul 8, 2009 5:28am PDT

    I've had men who write 2 pages, so some of this stuff isn't true, it depends what kind of guy he is and if he's into you.

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  • None's Avatar
    Posted by None Wed Jul 8, 2009 5:28am PDT

    I sign my name too after every email or my initials?

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  • Beth's Avatar
    Posted by Beth Wed Jul 8, 2009 10:32am PDT

    The very best realization I've had in my entire life was when I finally got that guys are NOT talkers; face to face, on the phone, or in writing. They don't want to do it and they sure as hell don't want you to do it around them. It explains the blank stare from my boyfriend when I'm rambling on about....whatever.

    Once I fully embraced that fact life with men got a whole lot easier.

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  • Jake W's Avatar
    Posted by Jake W Wed Jul 8, 2009 10:48am PDT

    The reason guys write their name at the end is because it's proper english, and if they work in an office there is usualy a standard e mail template to make sure you are being professional. It makes you and your company look bad if your e mail is bad. There is nothing wrong with using proper english, all of the text slang is making our nation dumber, thanks ladies.

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  • Angel Morbid's Avatar
    Posted by Angel Morbid Wed Jul 8, 2009 12:24pm PDT

    This article reeks of FAIL...And believe me, men use text slang, ramble, and use emoticons to the point of vomiting as well.

    It goes both ways.

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  • tysmiha's Avatar
    Posted by tysmiha Wed Jul 8, 2009 1:26pm PDT

    Mr. Dodge,

    I 100% agree with everything you said. And I laughed myself silly.

    Regards,

    tysmiha

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