Younger Men, Older Women. What gives?

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  Posted by Lynn Thu Jul 17, 2008 12:50pm PDT

  I am 48, let me tell you, I have dated men my age and younger men. I prefer younger men. They are much more attentive. They are not so into themselves. They take the time to get to know you. They don't take you for granted. They learn who you are and what makes you tick. Most men my age are going through there second childhood and are searching for their lost youth. Women my age, are more settled and don't play the games that the younger women tend to play. We have gotten to the point where we know what we want. Life is no longer a drama. Our careers are built and so we can enjoy more out of life.

  Not all younger women have their careers built and are stressed by it. They don't always feel in control. So they try to control what they can and sometimes, only sometimes that means the guy in their life. So the men their age tend to look at the older women because of that fact.

  So yes, I would prefer to date younger men and always will.

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  Posted by legomyego Thu Jul 17, 2008 4:07pm PDT

  I think its an excellent idea and something should be done-

  this instant!

  Um, I am seeking funny and 40-not a take charger-not too bright-

  not a sex maniac. Polite polished and perfectly gentlemanly.

  Pillow fights, shared desserts, footsie, a friendly go along type-

  Oh and throw in alittle "EXTRA" for good measure-

  I mean a girls' gotta have it and eat it now and then, right?

  December May relationships ROCK!

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  Posted by josieh Thu Jul 17, 2008 4:07pm PDT

  Yes i love to be with younger men and i always will. They are into you more than men your age are closer to your age.

  Heart3

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  Posted by KarenS Thu Jul 17, 2008 5:19pm PDT

  I'm 51. He'll be 31 in September. We've been intimate for six years. I guess we're really bfwb as we live in different towns and only see each other a couple of times a month, but are on the phone constantly.This has been the most satisfying relationship-physical, emotional, intellectual,etc.-I've been in for nearly 17 years. We both understand that the other is free to seek others (hopefully "THE ONE"). We connect on so many different levels, it's almost scary!Should he find some one, I'm sure my heart will break, but love him enough to only want him to fullfill his dreams and be loved. I believe he would wish the same for me.

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  Posted by medieval eyes Thu Jul 17, 2008 5:44pm PDT

  Well, I was dating someone who was 9 years younger and I'm 31. Next month would've made us one year, but we just decided to call it quits because he felt that he was not ready to be with a single mom. On top of that, he was Asian (I'm West Indian). What gives? I thought everything was good between us until recently. This age difference thing is starting to give me second thoughts but, then again, guys who are my age are so childish and uncommitted!?! Where did I go wrong?

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  Posted by christelle Thu Jul 17, 2008 5:59pm PDT

  this is what i think although u may not think about the age difference in a certain point of ur realtionship. at a certain point of time its going to come up. and there is going to be some issues. i just don't agree with it. now if its between 1-5 year difference then its fine but 10 years and up that is defitnitly too much.

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  Posted by christy Thu Jul 17, 2008 6:36pm PDT

  I have been married to a guy who is 8 yrs younger than me for 7 years! He is a wonderful husband and a awesome husband! I would not have done it any different! I don't think it has as much to do with age as it does the people involved! I dated a lot of guys who were my age that were not as mature, dependable or as stable as my husband!

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  Posted by joshsmom Thu Jul 17, 2008 7:48pm PDT

  For over a year I dated (i should say slept with) a younger man. It was great. He made me feel like a teenager. The sex was awesome and he made every effort to be romantic. He was passionate and attentive. He wanted the relationship to last a longer but I was not ready to settle into anything serious.

  Unfortunately my experiences with men my age was quite different. Men my age (35) can be jerks and very self lovers.

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  Posted by Cursed Romantic Thu Jul 17, 2008 9:39pm PDT

  Well I'm a younger woman and see nothing wrong with it. I say more power to older women that like the younger guys. I have sort of always been attracted to older guys, because the guys around my age(21), I have found to be highly immature. I can be a bit silly and goofy too, but not all the time, and I hate when some of the guys I have come across around my age can go from super silly, to wanting to have sex. I'm still a virgin, and though I'm not officially waiting for marriage to have sex, I don't want to just dive right into bed with any guy either. So I just don't like that specturm. I just enjoy with the older guys the different experiences I want to have in my own life and its refreshing to talk about differen things without so much pressure to get it on right away.

  However and in a way this is my only exception about it all, is the fact that some way older women, like in their 50's or so are starting to go after 18 year old guys. I don't feel any jealousy or anything, but at the same time I really do think anyone, older man or woman should let that young person grow up more. Just because they seem kind of mature for their age at 18, I really don't think its wise to pick that "fruit" from the vine so early on. I mean should let them mature in more ways, like finding out what they want from life, before marrying them and being too serious. I know from my own experience though I wasn't considering dating the guy, but a guy I met once was in his 50's and we would talk, but then he would talk about spending so much time together and all that. I mean he was nice sure, but still at my age I don't want to settle down and retire ever after. I barely know all of the things that I want to do with my life right now, and I think I and anyone else my age deserves that chance of figuring out who they are before getting into a major commitment. I also advise this to some older people as well, again another experience of mine, this guy I had met and started talking to was in his late 20's and was going to be turning 30 pretty soon. And though we had quite a bit to talk about and laugh about when I was 18 or so, it seemed the age difference really bugged him ALOT. I was cool with it, but he kept taking things to when he got older and I would still be somewhat younger than him, and then the whole race thing came up too as I'm black and he was white. And there were just so many doubts from him, that it gave me doubts. So really if you are going to get with a younger person make sure you are well aware of who you are as a person, and that they have a good enough idea of who they are too. Or it can be a bunch of doubts going back and forth.

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  Posted by c Fri Jul 18, 2008 7:12am PDT

  Cursed Romantic, you have a beautiful mind. Stay that way. =]

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