After getting cheated on, many silently wonder or actually ask the cheater if it was just physical or if there was more to it. Some will hear the truth, others lies, but the answer is never easy to hear regardless of what it is. There's no doubt that getting cheated on is miserable any way you look at it, but what happens when your guy tells you he fell in love with the woman he cheated with? Which is worse, if he fell in love with her or fell in lust?
Fell in lust
If your guy fell in lust with someone, he made a huge mistake and had a severe lack in judgment. Whether it happened once or several times, the cheating was all about sex and physical attraction. Should there be any type of cheating that's likely the easiest to get over, cheating that stems from lust is probably it compared to if there were feelings involved. However, if the guy cheated with more than one woman, the hatred about the situation might continue to grow as the knowledge about the number of women he slept with comes to light.
Fell in love
I found out a guy I was dating cheated on me with his ex, and he also told me he had feelings for her. I felt like my heart cracked when I first found out he cheated, but it felt like it shattered when I found out there were feelings involved; it was no longer just about sex. If he told me he was in love with her, it would have been a hell of a lot worse. There are other women who feel differently -- depending on the situation, they might be more forgiving if the guy developed feelings for one woman rather than if he cheated with numerous women.
Both are equal
To some, there's no difference between a guy who cheats for love and one who cheats for lust; they're on equal level with each other and cheating is cheating regardless of the type it is. The women who believe both are on equal level are no more or less forgiving and they're hurting just the same.
Some would say a cheater can prevent fooling around or having sex with someone, but no one can prevent developing feelings and falling in love. Personally, if a guy I was dating developed feelings for another woman, it would hurt more than if he just cheated physically, but I still wouldn't be able to look at him the same regardless of whether he fell in love or in lust.
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