When my son first started school, I wasn't worried about him going to the bathroom in his pants because he was potty trained but within the first week of school, he had an accident. What made me feel worse about it was that no one noticed and I could tell that he'd had it for a while. The problem kept happening a couple times during the next week and I knew it was time to come up with some sort of plan to help him. This article will detail a few things that I did with my son that may help with your child.
#1: Speak with the Teacher
In my case, my son's teacher didn't know that he'd had his first accident because it happened either on the playground or in the cafeteria. When they returned to the classroom, my son, who is shy, was never right by the teacher so she couldn't tell. I was willing to overlook her not noticing once because it was a reasonable explanation. I didn't go in there with my guns blazing; instead I handled it very calmly in a non accusing way since it was the first offense. Yes, I was upset that no one had noticed but it was the beginning of the school year and I wanted to have a good repertoire with the teacher in the future and if I had talked to her when I had been angry... well nothing good would have come of it. By speaking with my son's teacher, I made her aware of what was going on and she knew what to look out for and even offered me a few suggestions on how to help my son.
#2: Tell Your Child it's OK to go to the Bathroom
Some children, whether they are in a younger grade or have started a new school, may not feel comfortable with going to the bathroom at the school. They may even be to shy to ask for permission from a teacher or other staff at the school. Have several conversations with your child about how it's ok to use the restroom. Talk in a soothing, non accusing tone. Stress that it is OK to ask for permission to use the school's bathroom. My son has a hard time going up to talk to strangers, even if it is people who work at the school so I have had to work really hard with him, letting him know that it is OK to ask the people there if he can go to the bathroom. In my son's case it's a little different because he is in Kindergarten and you can't just leave the cafeteria to go potty but at some schools, your child may be able to just go straight to a restroom. Depending on the situation with the restrooms, talk to your child accordingly like "Honey, it's OK if you just go to the bathroom when you're having lunch" or "Sweetie, Ms. (name of worker) is really nice. It's OK if you ask her to use the restroom at lunchtime."
#3: Take Them to the Bathroom at School Yourself
If at all possible, personally take your son or daughter to the school's bathroom. This will allow them to get familiar with the school's restroom. With my son, I took him to the bathroom every morning for months. It helped get him used to the bathroom and established a routine.
#4: Ask Teacher to Give Reminders
Nicely ask your child's teacher if they'd remind your child to visit the restroom or even outright tell them to go. Have the teacher mention it especially during the prime potty times before or after lunch, after recess, etc. With my child, this helped cut down on accidents quite a bit.
In time, your child will stop wetting their pants at school. My son has not had an accident in months. If your child does still have accidents, you may want to contact a professional to see if there is a physical or psychological problem.