Dads are great, and on Father's Day, they deserve to be appreciated. If the dads in your life are like most men, they'd really rather not receive a "World's Greatest Dad" t-shirt or coffee mug. In fact, they probably don't want novelty ties or boxer shorts, either. One of my favorite TV episodes is the Father's Day episode of "The Cosby Show" where Cliff Huxtable, played by Bill Cosby, laments the crazy gifts his children have given him over the years. All he wants is for his children to put some thought into his gifts and give him something meaningful for once. This year, think hard about your dad, your husband or the other men in your life and come up with meaningful gifts that will make them smile. Here are some thoughts.
Books and movies
Most of the dads I know like books or movies, or maybe both. The problem, as I wrote about in a recent article, is that women often don't have a clue about what movies guys really like. That is why you will have to do some investigating. A biography about your dad's childhood hero, or an older film with one of your husband's favorite actors may be a good choice. Check out what they have been watching on Netflix or recording on their DVR for clues as to what they really like.
Dads often feel like they have to be strong, so they miss the chance to show a lot of emotion. They may be proud and heartbroken to see the little league team they coached graduate, or devastated when a family pet dies, but they are under pressure to hold it together. Sometimes an old photo can help a dad to relive fond memories and grieve a loss privately in their own way.
One of my dad's favorite photos is a snapshot I took of him lying on his side, painting the house with his old farm cat curled in the bend of his knees. I framed it and gave it to him as a Father's Day gift, and he keeps it on a shelf to remember his old friend. Other great photos could include father and newborn pictures, military homecoming shots or old photos from your dad's own childhood,
Tickets he wouldn't buy for himself
Whether the dad in your life is a sports fan or an opera fan, there are probably some tickets he'd love to have but just won't buy for himself. Tickets to an event equal money better spent on household stuff to many guys, and they just won't splurge on themselves. For Father's Day, a ticket, or better yet, a pair of tickets to a great game might be the perfect gift.
Just make sure it is a game he would want to see. Nothing is worse than tickets to a game you never wanted to see in the first place. A good way to find out without really asking is to say, "Oh, I bet Home Team versus Opponent will be a good game, huh?" If your chosen event is indeed a good choice, the response will be positive, maybe even with a wishful tone that lets you know to buy good seats.
Something special just for him
I know lots of moms who would love a spa day, but finding that special something just for dad is not so easy. Here's the trick. Figure out something that your dad or your husband loves, and then give him a gift that makes that even better. If he loves his car, have it detailed. If he loves golf, get him a new club. If he loves to cook, give him an awesome pan. Every man is different, so the possibilities really are endless. But if you figure out what the man in your life loves and make it even better, he will know that your Father's Day gift is extra special and just for him.
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