Everyone who starts up a relationship with someone they really like is going to have some worries about how things are going to go. There are no guarantees with anything, especially a new relationship, but the key is to not let these concerns send the guy running for the hills. I've talked to many guys who told me about experiences where they met a fantastic woman, but as she let worries and insecurities get in the way, it put a damper on the relationship and he moved on. So what are some of the most common new relationship worries and how can you deal with them?
He'll think the sex is bad
If he's still having sex with you, chances are he doesn't think the sex is bad. However, if this is a worry of yours, make sure to keep things exciting. Predictability is evil, so keep changing things up. Have sex in different places, wear lingerie he likes, try out different positions and have quality sex as often as possible. Just remember the biggest key to avoiding bad sex - keep it fun! Sex is supposed to enjoyable, playful and hot so throw aside all the self-doubt and insecurities and just go for it.
He's not as into me as I am into him
I know this is a major worry of many, but the truth is there's always going to be one person who has more feelings than the other. As long as there's a balance where both of you treat each other well and one isn't making a substantial amount more effort than the other, this is one worry to push aside. Be happy with how things are going and don't push too hard otherwise you're going to send him running.
He'll get bored of you
If you're worried about a guy getting bored of you, then all you have to do is stay interesting. He was attracted to you for a reason so he obviously doesn't think you're boring. Keep learning different things, don't give up on your hobbies just because you're in a relationship, don't keep doing the same things with him over and over, talk about topics both of you are interested in and learn from each other.
He's dating other women
You may not like what I have to say about this concern. Many women make the unfortunate mistake of assuming that just because she's dating a guy that she's the only woman doing so. If you didn't have the talk about exclusivity, he's entitled to date other women just like you're allowed to date other guys. You can't do anything about it until you have the talk about not seeing other people. Until you do, avoid letting jealousy come out to play otherwise you're only going to freak him out and push him away.
He'll pull a fade away
If you've had the unpleasant experience with a guy pulling a fade away, you know how miserable it is. There are times when, yes you may have had something to do with him pulling away from you, but there are quite a few times when that's not the case at all. Some main reasons I got from guys about why they previously pulled a fade away is that they got scared, met someone they clicked more with or no longer felt a connection. Rather than be honest, they just faded out of her life. Basically, they were cowards. One thing you can do to prevent a fade away (caused by you) from happening is to make sure you don't smother him with too much attention. In the beginning of a relationship, quite a few women make the mistake of texting too much, hanging out with him too often and acting like they've been together for years. Even if you want to, don't pick up every time he calls, don't cancel your plans to go out with him, don't always ask to make plans and don't spend time with him every time he asks. Guys like a bit of a challenge.
Having a couple of concerns in the initial stages of a relationship is natural, but they're actually completely worthless. They do nothing but cause you to stress out and put pressure on the relationship. Be happy with the way things are going rather than worrying so much! Things will work out the way they're supposed to so just enjoy the ride.
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