With the start of a new school year, there are some who will face an interesting dilemma: to date or not to date their child's teacher. Considering most children are in school for at least 13 years, it's no surprise that this scenario happens often. So what's a single mom to do? If you find yourself in the position of being attracted to your child's teacher but you're unsure of what to do about it, there are several ways to handle the situation to avoid as few problems as possible.
Decide what you're interested in
Be honest, do you think the two of you have long-term chemistry or do you just think he's hot with temporary potential? If it's the latter, go for someone else. Considering the difficulty that can come with dating a child's teacher, proceeding with someone you're only physically attracted to isn't worth the risk.
Keep it quiet for now
Should you decide you want to move forward and develop a relationship with the teacher, avoid shouting it from the rooftops regardless of how much as you want to. Many parents will wait months to introduce their child to a new person they're dating, and you may find this is an especially useful technique when it comes dating your child's teacher. Keep it quiet from family and friends until it's serious enough to put it out there and preferably until the child is out of the class.
Talk to your child
When it comes to who you're dating, your child's opinion matters. Ask him what he thinks of the teacher and how he would feel if the two of you spent time together. Talk to him before your feelings are too invested so if he isn't comfortable with the situation, you can still back out with as little heartache as possible.
Put yourself in your child's shoes
Before you make your decision about whether or not to move forward, put yourself in your child's shoes. How do you think he'll feel if you and the teacher don't work out? How will he handle the ridicule if his peers find out you're dating his teacher? You know your child better than anyone else, so think about how dating his teacher is going to affect him before you even agree to the first date.
Wait it out
If you're interested in him in every way possible, you'll likely find that waiting it out is your best option. It's not going to be easy, however, considering the major downfalls that can come with dating your child's teacher, waiting it out until the child is out of the class or even the school can help you prevent a lot of problems.
It's not a simple decision about whether or not to date your child's teacher. It might be tempting to just go for it if you're really into him, but take the time to consider if it's right for you and your child. If the guy is really interested in you, he'll be patient and wait it out until the timing is right.
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