Every woman wants to find her happily ever after. Some will find it with the first guy they fall for, and others will spend their lives looking for it. After many failed attempts at my own personal love story, I decided that the relationship I have is supposed to be "the one." I had all these hyped-up expectations about falling in love. The magic was not there right away, and we definitely have not only had happy times. These are some things I missed from my happy ending, and why I believed such things would happen.
This is the wedding that will never happen. If marriage is in my destiny, it will be a courthouse ceremony. I used to dream about what I wanted my dress to look like and who would attend such an event. Here I am, twenty-something, and still not a wife. I am a little disappointed that I won't get to wear the white dress and walk down the aisle. It was a fantasy I have carried since I was a young girl. A few of my friends have experienced the same thing, and I take a little comfort in knowing that they have had happy times even after a courthouse marriage.
As a little girl, I watched all the Disney fairytale stories. I always favored Cinderella, and often dreamed my husband would look just as hers did. When dating began, I was shocked at how unfair it was. The guys weren't picture-perfect, and the other women out there were catty and competitive. It was a shock to me, and I quickly realized that I would never have my Prince Charming. Instead, I met a wonderful guy in my mid-twenties. While he is not the epitome of what I expected, he is what I need.
I was under the impression that once you find "the one," your relationship would be mostly blissful. That was definitely not the case for me. While we have definitely had our share of good times, there have been some pretty bad times as well. I was not prepared for the kind of arguments we would have, and other issues that come along with being in a partnership. All these romances featured on television and movies are all filled with love and adoration. I am happy with how things are and grateful for being able to experience hardships with the man I love, but I wish things would have been laid out for me a little better.
Growing up I had too many unrealistic expectations about life and relationships. Even though things didn't turn out the way I envisioned, I think I did pretty well for myself. The little girl inside of me still yearns for more on occasion, but I wouldn't trade anything for what I have now.
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