Have you ever asked yourself why you stay with your partner when the relationship isn't moving forward? A relationship with the right person promotes goal setting, happiness and maturation. Many people stay in relationships because they feel comfortable with the status quo and don't want to change their habits, even if their relationship isn't progressing. Should you end a stalling relationship, or can you rejuvenate it before you break up?
Why is your relationship stalling?
Before deciding whether to stay in a relationship that appears to be going nowhere, it is important to take into account why the relationship is stalling. Factors such as lost ambition, lost attractiveness, comfort and sex life are important examples to consider. When we are comfortable with our partner, we tend to take the relationship for granted. Weight gain, dressing down and overall attitude can contribute to lost attraction and sex life. Why do we suddenly let ourselves go in a long-term relationship? It's simple; once we are comfortable with our current partner, we have no need to attract someone new. In order to understand why your relationship is stalling, you must take into account the reasons you lost that initial spark with your partner.
Have you ever heard the phrase: "I have less sex now that I'm married than I did before"? While marriage offers its own set of complications, the basic rule applies here. When we are comfortable with our partner and our surroundings, we tend to think less of attracting that partner to ourselves on a daily basis. When guys let themselves go, our better halves tend to have reduced sex drive. The same also applies for woman who let themselves go. Try taking time off for yourself and putting time in your appearance to bring the spark back to your relationship. Sometimes we sacrifice our career and life goals because of our comfort level with our partner. If you were ambitious or adventurous before the relationship, it doesn't mean you have to give up your dreams because of your newly found comfort level.
Have you ever wondered why men start working out, dressing up and take better care of themselves when they have an affair? The answer is simple; they want to impress the new person they are having the affair with. However, if both partners are willing to work on the causes of the stalling relationship, it can avoid cheating and spark a fire within your relationship. Ask your partner what s/he wants you to improve on and vice versa. The constructive criticism may lower your self-esteem, but it will tell you exactly how to improve the relationship.
Should you break up?
Relationships end for a variety of reasons including cheating, money issues and lost attractiveness. While there are many reasons why a relationship fails, it shouldn't fail because the relationship is stalling. Sit down with your partner and take a toll of the relationship. Look at what needs to be fixed and what you both want for the future. Once you and your partner figured out what would spark the relationship back to what attracted you two in the beginning, it is easy to fix what is making the relationship stall. However, if both partners are not willing to make necessary changes to improve the relationship, then a breakup may be necessary to move on.
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