Tuesday, February 9, 2010

What's the worst thing your kid has done in a restaurant?

I remember the first time I took my son LBZ to a restaurant. He was 3 months old and I was out of my skull with worry. What if he howled like a banshee? What if I couldn't make him stop? What if other people snarled and shot us get-away-from-my-Sunday looks? I wasn't so far from my childless days that I couldn't remember my own flicker of annoyance at having a whiny kid interrupt my lunch.


Fortunately I had the good sense to go with another mommy. Unfortunately, Noa also had a 3-month-old and skull full of worry. We sat for exactly 25 minutes, wolfing down tough strips of seitan because neither of us had bothered to notice the restaurant was vegan until we tried to order. When we talk about it now, we do it in shorthand.

"Remember that time?" we say, shaking out heads. There was so much to fear that day. So much to learn. It wasn't just a matter of knowing how to manage our kids in a restaurant, it was also knowing how to manage ourselves as parents (or as I like to think of it in pseudo-legalese: the party to blame if the smaller party is annoying).


Clearly, as demonstrated in this video, the prospect doesn't really get easier as the kids grow. Still, I like   the tips these moms have, and the idea that even if things don't go as planned, everyone can still have fun.

When was the first time you took your kids out to eat? What's the worst thing they've ever done in a restaurant?
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  • Mo B's Avatar
    Posted by Mo B Mon Nov 23, 2009 1:07pm PST

    I have never thought about this as an issue that would cause worry. So long as you go to more family establishments what is the problem? My daughter has cried through almost an entire diner and at around 2 she crawled under the table and had a total melt down. I stuck through all of them, being at a family restaurant with other kids I thought nothing of disturbing other families. Now she is 6 and loves to eat out and is always very good no matter where we are.

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  • Angel's Avatar
    Posted by Angel Mon Nov 23, 2009 1:35pm PST

    I would never sit and let my kid have a melt down in a restaurant (even a family one) I have had my daughter lose it and I excused my self and she and I went out and sat in the car til she calmed down... I usually take a small toy to amuse her with (she is 3yrs. old so blocks are a fav. choice currently)and things go smoothly... and I always make sure it doesn't interfer w/ nap or bedtime to avoid the "sleepy grumpies" It is rude to let you kids wail and flip out in a restaurant...

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  • Mo B's Avatar
    Posted by Mo B Mon Nov 23, 2009 1:49pm PST

    No it was not rude when my daughter started crying at a restaurant with other children crying and making way more noise then she was and it's not like I just let her do it and do nothing about it. It would of been rude had I gone to nice restaurant and let her throw a tantrum, which I would never do.

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  • Laura's Avatar
    Posted by Laura Mon Nov 23, 2009 1:54pm PST

    I agree with Angel. Even if it is a fmaily restaurant, no one wants to hear a kid screaming.

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  • lil-thumper23's Avatar
    Posted by lil-thumper23 Mon Nov 23, 2009 2:02pm PST

    it is very rude to let your child to have a melt down in a restaurant! family or not!!! why would anyone want to go out to eat and hear a kid scream through a whole meal, you go out to enjoy yourself. if you have kids you deal with that enough at home!!! i also find it rude to let your kids trash the place!!!

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  • lil-thumper23's Avatar
    Posted by lil-thumper23 Mon Nov 23, 2009 2:04pm PST

    hey mo b so your saying its ok cause everyone else was doing it?

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  • Mira Jacob, Shine staff's Avatar
    Posted by Mira Jacob, Shine staff Mon Nov 23, 2009 2:10pm PST

    Of course no one wants to hear a kid screaming in a restaurant, but I understand Mo B's point about being in a family restaurant where everyone is loud, and using that time as a teaching moment. We went to one kid-oriented restaurant last week and it was such a relief! The noise level would have split a non-parent's brain, but as it was, with the little ones screaming collectively, all the parents could just relax and enjoy their meal.

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  • Angel's Avatar
    Posted by Angel Mon Nov 23, 2009 2:37pm PST

    I didn't intend for this to be a bash on Mo B thing!! it's rude of me to call some one I don't even know rude for a situation I never even witnessed...

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  • JenniferW's Avatar
    Posted by JenniferW Mon Nov 23, 2009 3:03pm PST

    I see Mo B's point. It is kind of hard to teach kids how to behave in a restaurant if you never take them. The best place to do it is in a restaurant with lots of other noisy kids. No one is going to go there if they don't want to hear noisy kids because they know there are always noisy kids there. Then when your kids get older and learn how to behave you can take them to nicer restaurants and know that they won't disturb other people there.

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  • Theresa's Avatar
    Posted by Theresa Mon Nov 23, 2009 3:39pm PST

    I don't remember because I've perminately supressed the memory. hehe.

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