Sunday, November 29, 2009

Eight easy ways to update your look in 2009

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At different stages of our lives and weights, we can all fall into a style rut; the kind of place where we're sick of everything (our hair, clothes, handbag, bras, all of it) but have no vision for what to do next. Even if the situation doesn't feel so dramatic, subtle—and sometimes enormous—changes are always good for one's self-esteem (and I'd argue appearance). They show that you're nurturing yourself, you're taking pride in who you are, and you're living in the present (not some frowzy past). Here are eight ways to modernize your look in this year. You can call them fashion and beauty resolutions (or, maybe don't because that's cheesy).

1. Change your hair*
This can be an understated difference or a full-blown transformation, but do something new. Things to try:
Cutting bangs
Attempting a bob
Coloring your hair two shades darker or lighter
Getting chunky, fun highlights
Going to a trusted stylist and saying "Do whatever you think."
*Understand that this "change" requires a little fearlessness. If you don't love it, your hair will grow back. This is what's awesome about hair.

2. Buy a new bra
Even if you have brassieres that actually fit you—though I'm guessing 75 percent of you, like me,  do not—you probably need a new one. If you haven't yet, go to a store that will measure you and find your correct size. Buy a bra accordingly. Also? Try something new. Go for a sexy black bra if you have none like it, try push-up bras, padded, etc, etc. Having boobs is one of our great privileges as women. We should dress them up.

3. Wash and moisturize your face every night, seriously
It's small, but important. You'll notice a change in your skin in like a week.

4. Make time each week for one inexpensive beauty ritual
Years ago, when I was barely earning enough money to pay my rent, a male friend attempted to help me create a budget. "Eyebrow waxing DOES NOT go in 'necessary expenses'," he balked. "Yes it does," I replied. "It costs $10 and it makes me feel good about myself."
These tiny indulgences—like cheap manicures, pedicures, and waxing—are important. They have the power to make us feel pampered and more confident, which, to me, is completely worth the price of three coffees from Starbucks.

5. Stop wearing clothes that don't fit you or that you hate
I harp on this one a lot, I know, but really, just get rid of everything that causes you to feel fat, or lumpy, or out of style or in anyway does not flatter who you are. We can all get so caught up in a fear of scarcity that we forget that the filler pieces in our closets have been tried and tested and will never become satisfying garments we actually want to wear.

6. Go out and purchase one pretty top, one pair of earrings, and an entirely new lip shade
This doesn't have to be an expensive outing—you can get a good version of all three for around $30 total. But this triple buy is my trick for curing fashion depression. Usually, I buy a top, a pair of earrings, and a new lipstick, take a shower, do my hair, and go out with my friends.

7. Attempt a new accessories style this year
There are so many fun things to try: Skinny or wide belts! Patterned tights! Boots! Wedge heels! Tiny vs. big purses! Big cuff bracelets! Long chains! Bangles! Just pick one (or two or three) that you've never worn before and give it a whirl...

8. Invest in one piece that you've wanted for a long time
I know, it's horrible for me to say this, given our economic climate, but I'm going to anyway. You deserve one fancy thing—be it a great bag, a beautiful pair of shoes, a well-made coat—that you've always wanted. Think about what it is (within reason) and save for it. Look for it on sale. Purchase it. Feel happy every time you have it on.
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  • Veronica's Avatar
    Posted by Veronica Mon Dec 22, 2008 7:39am PST

    I think these are great suggestions that can work with nearly every budget.

    I don't have my nails professionally done but it's possible to turn a do-it-yourself manicure or pedicure into a treat with a new bottle of polish in an unexpected color or scented lotion or just by pumping up some great tunes, putting on a fluffy robe, and enjoying it.

    Back in my 20s, a stylist tried to sell me on the idea of having my eyebrows done, telling me they would open up my whole face. I was insulted! I thought my heavy brows made me look like Brooke Shields! Wrong! When I finally started shaping my own brows in my 30s I learned that stylist was absolutely right. A small change that made a big difference.

    Finally, a great way to experiment with new looks is to hit thrift or consignment stores. You'll see different sytles than you see at retailers and be able to explore a new look on the cheap.

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  • kristin's Avatar
    Posted by kristin Mon Dec 22, 2008 7:41am PST

    thiry dollars would buy a pair of faux earrings. the top and lipstick with it would top out about $1oo

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  • Jezabel's Avatar
    Posted by Jezabel Mon Dec 22, 2008 8:10am PST

    I agree with the hair statement. The women in my family ranging from child to pentioner always keep up with the latest hair in hair. We can date our photos based on what style we had that year. Its one of the few things you can "wear" the same as the celebrities. You just need to get a stylist that is up-to-date on fashion.

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  • Catherine's Avatar
    Posted by Catherine Mon Dec 22, 2008 9:38am PST

    Great Article! A little beauty pampering does help to build our self esteem and it does not have to be expensive!

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  • V.H's Avatar
    Posted by V.H Mon Dec 22, 2008 9:39am PST

    I guess I am cheap. I wear drugstore make-up, have the same 'do since forever, my clothes are clean, neat and from the thrift shop, and my shoes are knock-offs from Payless. But I decided long ago, that I would be the happiest if I was happy with who I was. So I take classes at the community college (Cheap!), attend free book lectures at the bookstore, and have a library card. Because, my looks will fade, my hair color will grow out, I can pluck my own eyebrows, but nothing can take my education! I can "hold my own" in a conversation with anyone from a scholar to a nerd to clergy. I can watch the news and know exactly what "implications of the bailout are". But that is just me, I would rather be smart than fashionable.

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  • Amberla's Avatar
    Posted by Amberla Mon Dec 22, 2008 9:57am PST

    Don't forget that spending money is helping the economy. There's no reason to be so scared and hang onto every extra penny. If we all did that, the economy would be even worse. Spend and do so smartly!

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  • Jennifer Romolini, Shine staff's Avatar
    Posted by Jennifer Romolini, Shine staff Mon Dec 22, 2008 11:10am PST

    Wait. Who's saying you can't be smart and fashionable? The idea that the two are mutually exclusive is not only silly, but offensive. Just because I dye my hair doesn't mean I don't read! Just because I put on earrings and lipstick doesn't mean I'm not happy with who I am!

    However, I am pleased to see that your quest for knowledge has led you to read—and comment on—a blog about being fashionable.

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  • Johanna's Avatar
    Posted by Johanna Mon Dec 22, 2008 11:17am PST

    this article is great! there is nothing wrong with pampering yourself from time to time, iam a single working mom of a beautiful 7 month old baby girl, and i buy a new piece of garment every month when i can and am actually going to get my hair done for christmas and it does make me feel good.

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  • Donna's Avatar
    Posted by Donna Mon Dec 22, 2008 11:41am PST

    My idea for the coming new year is to change my wardrobe. I am 59 years old and feeling a little frumpy. I have blonde hair and green eyes and I feel as though my hairstyle is still a good choice for me. I do wish that my wardrobe would be different. I seem to be stuck in the tee shirt and jeans style. I need something to dazzle me. I am handicapped. Am on oxygen 24 hours a day so this makes me feel pretty ugly, even though my family and friends say I am just fine the way I am, I don't agree. Well, I will see if I can get some new ideas and have a different style for the coming year.

    Donna

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  • HM.Hou's Avatar
    Posted by HM.Hou Mon Dec 22, 2008 12:50pm PST

    I think these are great suggestions that every woman should do for herself--change up her hairstyle, the "inexpensive beauty ritual", and even buy one expensive, well made piece for the wardrobe.

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