Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Eight easy ways to update your look in 2009

Getty Images

Getty Images

At different stages of our lives and weights, we can all fall into a style rut; the kind of place where we're sick of everything (our hair, clothes, handbag, bras, all of it) but have no vision for what to do next. Even if the situation doesn't feel so dramatic, subtle—and sometimes enormous—changes are always good for one's self-esteem (and I'd argue appearance). They show that you're nurturing yourself, you're taking pride in who you are, and you're living in the present (not some frowzy past). Here are eight ways to modernize your look in this year. You can call them fashion and beauty resolutions (or, maybe don't because that's cheesy).

1. Change your hair*
This can be an understated difference or a full-blown transformation, but do something new. Things to try:
Cutting bangs
Attempting a bob
Coloring your hair two shades darker or lighter
Getting chunky, fun highlights
Going to a trusted stylist and saying "Do whatever you think."
*Understand that this "change" requires a little fearlessness. If you don't love it, your hair will grow back. This is what's awesome about hair.

2. Buy a new bra
Even if you have brassieres that actually fit you—though I'm guessing 75 percent of you, like me,  do not—you probably need a new one. If you haven't yet, go to a store that will measure you and find your correct size. Buy a bra accordingly. Also? Try something new. Go for a sexy black bra if you have none like it, try push-up bras, padded, etc, etc. Having boobs is one of our great privileges as women. We should dress them up.

3. Wash and moisturize your face every night, seriously
It's small, but important. You'll notice a change in your skin in like a week.

4. Make time each week for one inexpensive beauty ritual
Years ago, when I was barely earning enough money to pay my rent, a male friend attempted to help me create a budget. "Eyebrow waxing DOES NOT go in 'necessary expenses'," he balked. "Yes it does," I replied. "It costs $10 and it makes me feel good about myself."
These tiny indulgences—like cheap manicures, pedicures, and waxing—are important. They have the power to make us feel pampered and more confident, which, to me, is completely worth the price of three coffees from Starbucks.

5. Stop wearing clothes that don't fit you or that you hate
I harp on this one a lot, I know, but really, just get rid of everything that causes you to feel fat, or lumpy, or out of style or in anyway does not flatter who you are. We can all get so caught up in a fear of scarcity that we forget that the filler pieces in our closets have been tried and tested and will never become satisfying garments we actually want to wear.

6. Go out and purchase one pretty top, one pair of earrings, and an entirely new lip shade
This doesn't have to be an expensive outing—you can get a good version of all three for around $30 total. But this triple buy is my trick for curing fashion depression. Usually, I buy a top, a pair of earrings, and a new lipstick, take a shower, do my hair, and go out with my friends.

7. Attempt a new accessories style this year
There are so many fun things to try: Skinny or wide belts! Patterned tights! Boots! Wedge heels! Tiny vs. big purses! Big cuff bracelets! Long chains! Bangles! Just pick one (or two or three) that you've never worn before and give it a whirl...

8. Invest in one piece that you've wanted for a long time
I know, it's horrible for me to say this, given our economic climate, but I'm going to anyway. You deserve one fancy thing—be it a great bag, a beautiful pair of shoes, a well-made coat—that you've always wanted. Think about what it is (within reason) and save for it. Look for it on sale. Purchase it. Feel happy every time you have it on.
Syndication:

From the Community…

Comments 11-20 of 193
  • *~boop~*'s Avatar
    Posted by *~boop~* Mon Dec 22, 2008 2:23pm PST

    yea it's true a small change does make a huge difference,

    this is a great and effective article.

    Report Abuse
  • vixenvena's Avatar
    Posted by vixenvena Mon Dec 22, 2008 2:36pm PST

    I agree with someone who posted earlier. Where's the workout and diet part? Ie? Get in shape and lose weight? That's one hell of a great way to improve your looks in 2009!

    Report Abuse
  • Vee's Avatar
    Posted by Vee Mon Dec 22, 2008 2:57pm PST

    Optiva, this is not about what men notice, but about what makes you as a woman happy. I love getting my eyebrows threaded and I allow myself the time and money to do that twice a month. I buy organic and I go to the gym and I splurge and I don't do it for men to notice. I do it for myself because I like it.

    Report Abuse
  • 's Avatar
    Posted by Mon Dec 22, 2008 3:57pm PST

    Guys might not notice nice eyebrows but they sure as hell stay away from ugly ones. HINT HINT optiva.

    Report Abuse
  • :)'s Avatar
    Posted by :) Mon Dec 22, 2008 5:08pm PST

    Alright ladies, if you find it so repulsive to spend money on yourself, please dont comment on these blogs then. :) It's offensive to everyone else, so keep your negative comments to yourself.

    Report Abuse
  • Katie's Avatar
    Posted by Katie Mon Dec 22, 2008 5:56pm PST

    i think im going to try 2 do all of the steps. it will only thoes that want the help

    Report Abuse
  • Ms. Lil Bit's Avatar
    Posted by Ms. Lil Bit Mon Dec 22, 2008 6:47pm PST

    I BET ALL OF YOU THAT ARE DOWNING DOING SOMETHING TO YOUR OUTWARD APPEARANCE ARE ALL HAVING TROUBLE LOVING WHAT YOU SEE IN THE MIRROR ANYWAY. I'M SURE THIS ARTICLE WAS NOT MEANT TO SAY "BE PRETTY AND STOP THERE!". FOR THE IDIOT THAT SAYS THAT MEN DO NOT NOTICE WAXED EYBROWS...MEN OBVIOUSLY DON'T NOTICE YOUR FACE. ALL MEN NOTICE A WELL GROOMED, NEAT, AND CLEAN WOMAN.

    Report Abuse
  • Victoria's Avatar
    Posted by Victoria Mon Dec 22, 2008 7:47pm PST

    this could work if i had any hair products or anything like that

    this is awsome

    Report Abuse
  • Sarah's Avatar
    Posted by Sarah Mon Dec 22, 2008 9:32pm PST

    Optiva's comment was annoying. Hello? This is about what makes YOU feel good, not what men want. "Men dont notice waxed brows" is missing the point..and btw, men dont notice if you eat organic food either! the point of this is to encourage women to take the time to do something for ourselves. if you dont like earrings or new clothes--BY ALL MEANS go buy a jug of soy milk and some hemp shampoo! but please dont lay some guilt trip on the rest of us who enjoy a new lipstick.

    Report Abuse
  • sapna's Avatar
    Posted by sapna Tue Dec 23, 2008 3:38am PST

    i liked the entire idea.i also do love to pamper myself time to time and this new year i would love to renew myself in a new light,i think that my hair isn't o.k so i'll try some new hair do.

    Report Abuse
Comments 11-20 of 193

leave your comment

You must sign in to post a comment

Sign In for personalized information

New User? Sign Up

holiday gift byte

The greatest gift exchanges require thoughtfulness, listening, and really understanding who another person is and what they like and need—that's what I always strive for in giving and it's the only thing I hope for in receiving.