Thursday, November 26, 2009

Millionaire Matchmaker: The best places to go on summer vacation... single and solo!

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So you want to go on vacation and it’s that wonderful summertime of the year?  You are about to lose ten pounds and show off that bikini body - but you have no one to travel with… does that mean you derail your plans because you’re single?  Um, NO!! 

Okay girls, as I’ve said before, ‘those who travel in packs do not attract’.  Let’s be honest - you’re more likely to meet a great man on vacation when you’re all by yourself, sitting on the beach, smiling, reading your favorite tabloid, than hanging out in a coffee clutch of clackers… which, by the way, most men will not respond to (this often signals to them that there are hens in the hen’s house).   A good hunter male, a.k.a. a good rooster, patrols the beaches looking for a great woman to court – not a pack of them.

If you want to be proactive on vacation (which you should be), the best place to meet great men are at the local or hotspot pub - anytime between 4:30pm and 6:00pm - as they are winding down the day drinking a cold one.  If you feel uncomfortable sitting at the bar by yourself, DO NOT WORRY - as long as there is a sports game on the television and you know the score, or you brought a neutral gender book to read - someone is bound to come over and say “who is winning” or “what are you reading”?  Either way the ice is broken!   If you’re a shy girl, you can also use one of the techniques from my book, Become Your Own Matchmaker, called – THE FIVE SECOND FLIRT.  If you look down the bar and see a cute guy you want to talk to, smile at him while holding a gaze into his eyes for five seconds (make sure you use the Crest Whitestrips first of course!).  If the guy comes over to you, then he is interested!  If he doesn’t, well, it could be because he is married… move on!

Now, if you’re a guy - the universe is your oyster.  Women are everywhere - from the grocery store, to the drug store, to the salon. They are practically lined up… waiting to get picked up.  It is up to you to be the initiator - walk over to her, introduce yourself, talk to her, buy her a drink. Once the ice is broken, ask her out.  Take her to a nice dinner at a quiet restaurant in an optimal setting where you can dine and laugh over a bottle of Vino.  Be old fashioned… it works!

For both men and women, picking the right destination is VERY IMPORTANT!  For the girls, the best destinations to meet quality men are in mountain communities such as Breckenridge, Colorado, Jackson Hole, Wyoming or almost anywhere in Montana or Alaska!  In these small towns the men outweigh the women three to one. They go fishing and mountain biking… so should you!  They enjoy skiing and sports… so should you!  It’s worth it!  Do the math!

If you’re a guy, any beach community will do - as most women like to lay in the sun, getting a boost of vitamin D while looking at the ocean.  As a bonus you get to see the goods before you buy! Oh, and DO NOT forget, even on vacation, stay in shape – and by staying in shape I mean try jumping into a quick yoga class – remember ,in yoga ,women outweigh men 5 to 1.  After the class, if you need a refreshing treat, a fro -go place is perfect as women love frozen yogurt!

Now, if you’re traveling on a budget – and you want the most for your dollar, I recommend singles packages and cruises.  They can be a blast, and a GREAT way to meet someone special.  Just be sure you do your homework and be certain the travel arrangements are top notch and the man/woman ratio is appropriate.  A great company that does this is Jdate!  They offer quick and inexpensive summer getaways - the upcoming one is at New England's #1 Sports and Adventure Resort in the Berkshire Mountains. There are fun games and sports, classes, parties, and plenty of quality time with fun-loving singles. See http://www.jdate.com/clubgetaway for more details!  If you mention my name, they may even give you a discount!  The best part is, you don’t even have to be Jewish to go!  My best friend got married off Jdate and she wasn’t Jewish!  Plus, Jewish men do make the best husbands… *wink*

And for all you who think the plane is just to get you from point A to point B… um, NO.  My mom met my stepfather on vacation on the plane when he was on his way back from Hong Kong and she  was going to Florida - it just so happens they were reading the same book and began chatting. No sooner than you can say The Da Vinci Code, he asked her out, got her number, sent her roses the next day and BAM!  Love knows no boundaries or miles! No matter where you are in the world you can find your soul mate!

For more of my vacation dating tips, pick up my book “Become Your Own Matchmaker” available at Amazon.com or bookstores everywhere, and tune in to my radio show every Sunday on XM Pink 24 or Mix 22 at 3PM Pacific called PS I LOVE YOU!

For more information on Patti, visit www.PattiStanger.net or www.MillionairesClub123.com .

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  • Kelita's Avatar
    Posted by Kelita Mon Jun 22, 2009 6:58pm PDT

    Men have it so easy they can meet great women on the beach, but women need to go to Alaska to find a great guy! It's great that I have always wanted to there.

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  • Maan's Avatar
    Posted by Maan Tue Jun 23, 2009 12:36am PDT

    love is crazy!

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  • None's Avatar
    Posted by None Tue Jun 23, 2009 6:12am PDT

    "kelitabuttercup" What's in Alaska? LOL!

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  • TJ S's Avatar
    Posted by TJ S Tue Jun 23, 2009 6:18am PDT

    Kelita, sorry to say but men don't have it easy at all. I'm not sure why this writer makes it sound like it's so easy and simple to approach women these days but it's not. Women make it way more difficult than it should be and "players" pretty much give good men a bad name and a rough road to travel. If it was that easy, we wouldn't be getting advice from everyone and their mothers and STILL having problems connecting. And why is most of the advice conflicting on top of that LOL???

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  • ana m's Avatar
    Posted by ana m Tue Jun 23, 2009 7:10am PDT

    Alaska? the great outdoors? fishing?

    "They go fishing and mountain biking… so should you! They enjoy skiing and sports… so should you! It’s worth it! Do the math!"

    and then you marry the guy for him to find out you hate all those things and that you are actually a couch potato.

    Nice try Patti!

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  • *GoldenGirl*™'s Avatar
    Posted by *GoldenGirl*™ Tue Jun 23, 2009 8:40am PDT

    Lol...ana m, thats so funny and true, if you dont already do it, dont start doing it just to meet someone unless you have an interest in it also! If you are a woman and know how to ride a motorcycle, rent/borrow one and go on rides there are alot of guys on bikes and they dig a girl on a bike, from a sportbike/superbike to a Harley. I ride and there are guys everywhere single on them.

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  • sxebtch's Avatar
    Posted by sxebtch Thu Jun 25, 2009 11:28am PDT

    WOW!! Im a single mother of three and have been out of the dating game for about 6 years now. I want to get out there again and mingle ;) but Im just not willing to go to alaska to find someone. I guess Im just nt looking in the right places because when ever I do go somewhere Im always around players. What to do?

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  • Justine's Avatar
    Posted by Justine Thu Jun 25, 2009 11:29am PDT

    There are a lot of great places to meet a great guy. One major factor was left out. FINDING A GUY WHO IS AVAIABLE EMOTIONALLY!! Many times women meet men who just aren't ready for a commitment to just one. So, you would like to pick threw the men who really do want a long term relationship.

    The SEVEN SECRETS to loving a man and keeping his interest and attention

    The signs to look for and what to do to keep him

    Maybe you have a man that has wondering eye's

    What keeps a mans attraction and what turns him off.

    What goes on in a man's mind and what gets his attraction going

    You'll also find what keeps a man from cheating

    How to make lasting love

    http://justinenupp.blogspot.com/2008/08/understanding-men.html

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  • Rebecca G's Avatar
    Posted by Rebecca G Fri Jun 26, 2009 3:21pm PDT

    not ready to pack it up and head out west or north to alaska. I want to find a man around here. I guess if they move to my town that would be great.

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  • Stellamojo's Avatar
    Posted by Stellamojo Sun Jul 19, 2009 10:06pm PDT

    This is just a useless, moronic article.

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