Thursday, December 17, 2009

"My Parents' Bedroom"

May I say that this story, "My Parents' Bedroom," the final story in Say You're One of Them, is perhaps the most heartbreaking, if you can compare heartbreaks. I've read a lot of stories and books and articles and seen documentaries (the Frontline documentary on the genocide in Rwanda being one of the best I've ever seen) but this story really pierced the interior of my being.

I have to say all the stories that I've read did not, and were not, spoken from the voices of children. The first paragraph of "My Parents' Bedroom" begins:

"I'm nine years and seven months old. I'm at home playing peekaboo in my room with my little brother, Jean. It's Saturday evening, and the sun has fallen behind the hills. There's silence outside our bungalow, but from time to time the evening wind carries a shout to us. Our parents have kept us indoors since yesterday."

So there begins the story that so many hundreds and hundreds of thousands of Rwandans also experienced that April 1994, just before the genocide began, where it's normal...everything was normal. Life was fine, and people were doing what people do in the evenings at home. And then suddenly, their neighbors, their friends, their relatives became these animalistic, horrified versions of human beings that no one could have ever imagined and turned on them.

So this story, "My Parents' Bedroom," really is the essence of Say You're One of Them and will leave you speechless. And for the many people who I'm sure have not even opened their hearts to what actually happened in Rwanda: In 100 days, 800,000 people were killed while the rest of the world went on with its business and its life and went shopping. This is the reason for this book as a Book Club selection.

Find out more about "Say You're One of Them" and Oprah's Book Club on oprah.com.
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  • me's Avatar
    Posted by me Wed Nov 4, 2009 10:12am PST

    I'm not a big fan of Oprah's book choices in general but this one I have to get!

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    Posted by 88Gypsy Wed Nov 4, 2009 10:34am PST

    The most heart-wrenching and at the same time, uplifting story regarding the genocide in Rwanda that I've ever read is "Left To Tell" by Immaculée Ilibagiza

    However, as Oprah says, there hasn't been a story told from the perspective of a child. I'll probably pick this one up.

    Peace,

    Gypsy

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    Posted by slam Wed Nov 4, 2009 10:54am PST

    Horrible things happen all over the world everyday. What about the ethnic cleansing that went on in Bosnia/Croatia? What about the Uighers in China who are forced to put a sign on their doors denoting they are a different ethnicity and on whom China has waged it's own war on terror? How do we impel corrupt foreign governments to do the right thing when they are perpetuating these hate crimes? Women and children are abused, neglected, trafficked, and exploited in our own country everyday. Why should our altruism only extend beyond our borders. It's hard to care about somewhere else when you are struggling to make ends meet and do the right thing for your own children and families right here right now. I'm not culturally unaware or ethnocentric, I just think if I spent all my time thinking about all the atrocities the world over, I would crumble.

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    Posted by Kathy Wed Nov 4, 2009 11:05am PST

    I can't wrap my head around the "mob mentality" thing. How does anyone accept the concept of genocide as a solution to differences in race, religion or political sides? I suppose self-preservation is the motivating factor, but how could someone rationalize murdering their family members and friends to spare their own life?

    The character I most identified with in this story was the mother. She was the true heroine, and the martyr. This woman sacrificed her life to preserve the lives of her children and several others from her own tribe, although it is doubtful that they survived. In the end, the mother was the most memorable character to me because she symbolized bravery in a sea of fear.

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    Posted by James Wed Nov 4, 2009 1:42pm PST

    One thing that people forget is that there are incidences that start the atrocities. For Rwanda, it was the Tutsi rebels shooting down the President's plane. And yes, it was proven that they did it. Paul Kigali, the current President/Dictator of Rwanda, said that they did. So, in essence, he brought the genocide on his own people in order to obtain power. I do not agree with the genocide that occurred, but it did happen for a reason. And the Tutsi rebels were just as responsible as the Hutu militias.

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    Posted by rawr Wed Nov 4, 2009 6:06pm PST

    Get your facts checked djtech, there is absolutely no proof that the Tutsi rebels shot that plane down. And just because the President says so, does not mean that it is true. It has been said that Hutu extremists shot the plane down to create the genocide so the Hutu tribe could gain power. All these problems came from colonization...

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  • tin-tin's Avatar
    Posted by tin-tin Wed Nov 4, 2009 9:10pm PST

    very well said, slam!

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  • karen w's Avatar
    Posted by karen w Wed Nov 4, 2009 9:22pm PST

    I picked this book up by chance. A great read, and Oh, so disturbing! It's hard to believe, from our own perspective, that these things still happen. How sad...

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  • TheFenix's Avatar
    Posted by TheFenix Tue Nov 24, 2009 8:26pm PST

    You know slow trust me if you took the time to care about someone elses trouble even all the one you listed that others should care about maybe you would appreciate what you have and where you are. You would not crumble you would probably become more compassionate, humble and less critical and unaccepting of others unless they at least look like you. Your right trouble comes in all colors races and nations they we cannot control but we can ask ourselves are our attitudes part of the solution or part of the problem. Our trouble here in this day and age cannot compare to what these people suffered. Theres noone running around trying to chop you with a machete because of your race or what you believe but if we as a nation do not get more compassionate towards others an ourselves it could one day be our reality.

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