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    Summer Wedding Attire Faux Pas: Are You Guilty?

    Just because you're going to a beach wedding doesn't mean you can show up in flip-flops and board shorts. We asked celebrity wedding planner David Tutera (www.davidtutera.com) and RoseLynn Micari-Fiumara from Bridal Reflections (www.bridalreflections.com) to weigh in on what you should wear to this summer's outdoor wedding. Read on to find out the top five faux pas so you don't end up committing a fashion crime at this season's nuptials.

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    1. Don't wear flip-flops
    If the wedding is on the beach, both RoseLynn and David suggest sandals or open-toed shoes for women -- but no flip-flops, no matter what. (And sorry guys, we're afraid you still have to wear close-toed shoes even if it's summertime.)

    "Even on a beach, a wedding is the most special day in your friend or family member's life, so guests should dress accordingly," says David. If you're not sure what to wear on your feet, simply ask the bride or groom ahead of time or check with the venue. It can be insulting to show up wearing the wrong footwear.

    2. Don't show up without a tie
    "Beach weddings are still weddings, and the bride and groom will be looking at their pictures and watching their video forever," says RoseLynn. So that means you shouldn't look out of place.

    RoseLynn offers a solution for the tricky "tie-or-no-tie" option men face: Bring along a tie just in case. Then, if they're the only one without one, they can quickly run to the men's room and throw it on.

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    3. Don't wear short, sheer, or bright dresses
    Remember, it's a wedding, not a Hawaiian luau. RoseLynn says one of the most common faux pas she sees women make is wearing a skirt that is see-through or too short. Overall, women have plenty of freedom and can even wear red (yes, red!) -- as long as the color is not too bright and distracting.

    "It is a wedding after all, not a bachelorette party," RoseLynn says, adding that the dress shouldn't be so short "that a breeze can lift it."

    She also notes that you should be careful not to wear dresses that are too sheer and that if you are wearing a lighter color, make sure you have the right color on underneath. "Remember that summer wedding usually means outdoors," says RoseLynn. "So make sure you cannot see through the dress in natural light."

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    4. Don't wear sunglasses if you're in the wedding party
    While guests might need to shade their eyes if they're being asked to sit in the bright sunlight for 30 minutes or so, the wedding party just has to grin and bear it.

    "For a few reception photos, it may look really cool and show the 'fun side' of the reception," says RoseLynn. But it's a big no-no during the ceremony. "They're distracting and it takes away from the bride and groom's special moment."

    Plus, with so many shutters snapping during the ceremony, they're going to want to see everybody's face.

    5. Don't sweat it
    We know: It's summer and it's hot. But even if you're wearing a suit, that's no excuse for turning into a hot mess during the outdoor nuptials. Instead, RoseLynn suggests that men wear a cotton undershirt under their jackets.

    Just choose wisely with the suit you'll be wearing. "Semi-formal weddings are suited to lighter fabrics for both men and women," says David. That means men can wear a blue or brown suit with a lighter colored tie (or possibly even skip the tie) while women can wear short (but not too short!) cocktail dresses to beat the heat. However, if it's a formal wedding, you'll probably just have to wear a darker suit or tux -- no matter what the weather is like. Chances are the bride and groom will likely hold most of the reception inside.

    Photo: Shane Carpenter

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    6 comments

    • Katie L  •  1 year 10 months ago
      The only time I'd be bothered by flip flops is if I knew there was gonna be a reception afterward, or they make noise if they have to leave the wedding ceremony during it. As far as ties, I'd think it's a given.
    • cherrylee  •  1 year 10 months ago
      I have to dissagree with the flip flops. I just went to a beach wedding this past weekend and the entire wedding party had flipflops on; including the bride. it was very casual and noone had to take their shoes off to dance. The men in the wedding party chose a very nice pair of mandals. (all were the same). it wasnt offensive at all.
    • Giz  •  1 year 10 months ago
      In my opinion, flip flops are okay for almost any, not black tie optional/recquested/required reception once the dancing starts. I've been to fancier, country club weddings where even the bride changed into flip flops to dance and greet guests. Let's face it: heels can get uncomfortable and impede movement after awhile. They are just not practical for a reception once the formal pictures have been taken. My friend got married in bare feet (her dress covered her feet anyway) and her husband wore flip flops. They both wore flip flops at their upscale country club reception. I would never show up to a wedding in flip flops, but I always have them in the car for when the dancing starts. In my experience, most women do.

      Ties are likewise optional depending on the formality of the wedding. I've been to plenty of beach/garden party weddings where a polo shirt or dress shirt and nice pants were perfectly acceptable attire. A friend got married in Jamaica awhile back and I don't even think he wore a tie. Why be uncomfortable when you are standing in front of a group of people during one of the most memorable moments of your life in 95+ degree heat, on a beach, for an extended period of time? It just doesn't make sense.

      Recently I was at a wedding (summer garden party wedding with no attire guidelines given) where the bride complained openly to her guests about the fact that they wore black (it's depressing) or colors that clashed with her wedding party colors (it looked awkward in pictures). It was appalling behavior on her part and she lost a lot of respect because of it. All of her guests were nicely and appropriately dressed and carefully avoided wearing anything too bright, too casual, too short or too close to the dress colors she had selected for the bridal party and all she could do was belittle them. This whole uptight wedding crap is so ridiculous. It's a party to celebrate 2 people choosing to spend the rest of their life together. It should be laid back and fun, not uptight, uncomfortable and formal.
    • A Yahoo! User  •  1 year 10 months ago
      The whole reason I WANT a beach wedding is to avoid all the ridiculous and sometimes ambiguous rules that go along with traditional weddings. To me, a beach wedding is a very small affair with very very few guests and the ultimate goal being to get the vows spoken so that you can enjoy the beauty of whatever island or coast you're on. If you're going to have all the stipulations of a more traditional wedding, why not just do it in a church or a park?
    • :)  •  1 year 10 months ago
      I very recently got married and can say that I had quite a few guests that wore flip flops... this didn't bother me at all... Who the hell cares? I'm not looking at their feet in the picture. Same thing with the ties... I'm pretty sure no one outside of the wedding party and family wore ties. This really didn't bother me. I didn't plan a formal affair on purpose.
    • Lindsey S  •  1 year 10 months ago
      Why in the hell would you make your wedding party wear suit/tuxes in the sun let alone for an outside wedding. ESPECIALLY a beach, the humidity is insane! I honestly wouldnt mind if the small amount of guests took off their shoes as they walked through the sand to their chairs. Thats why your getting married on a beach. And I can tell you right now the bride wont be wearing some heavy beaded dress. It's a light breezy atmosphere, I'd want my guests and bridal party to feel like theyre in paradise on my special day. Nice slacks, loose fitted cotton shirts mandals, the women in knee length, nicer summer dresses perhaps halters. It's not fair to everyone else to feel hot sweaty and uncomfortable just because you want to get married on a beach.

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