Is Your Partner Cheating On You Financially? 31% Admit Money Deception

It's the LOVE of money that is the root of all evil. FYI.

The best way of preventing and avoiding situations such as these is simple. Don't get married.Problem solved. See how simple that was. By the way, marriage is so overated. Too many headaches, too many bills and too many damm problems.

My husband financially cheated on me for years. He arrived home from work before me every day and would delete messages from bill collectors and hide the mail. I finally discovered how bad things were when a strange woman knocked on my door while I was preparing for a family party and offered to buy my house to prevent it from going into foreclosure. Even then, my husband denied it, saying it was a mixup, blah, blah, blah. Then he calls me at work a week later and tells me I need to take off work the next day because we had to meet with an attorney and file bankruptcy. Seriously, if I could have thought of a way to kill him and get away with it, he would be a dead man right now. I was so angry, betrayed, terrified, and hurt. I even told him that I WISHED he had cheated on me with another woman, because I thought it would have been less painful.But we learned A LOT from that experience.

We did file a "wage-earners" plan type of bankruptcy. Our debt was consolidated and negotiated and we paid it off through a trustee. That allowed us to keep our house. We had to get rid of all our credit cards, and if we couldn't pay cash for it, we didn't get it. I had to take some responsibility for sticking my head in the sand and allowing him to handle all of the bills and money. In the back of my mind, I knew something was not right, but I didn't know how to get the truth out of him. He was afraid to tell me because he didn't want to tell me "no" if I wanted something. Mind you, we weren't living high on the hog, or taking awesome vacations. We were just living irresponsibly and it caught up with us.

In the end, I am grateful for the experience. It was very rough for a few years, but we had to get through it together, because we couldn't even afford to get divorced! Ha! We are so much stronger and smarter for it now. I don't agree with all the comments to keep money separate, because if you're married, it won't matter. You will both be responsible for the debt. If there is lying about money, it's a symptom of a much bigger issue.

Why are people married to people they can't trust and that doesn't have what's best for their family in mind? My husband and I know exactly what the other makes each week when it is direct deposited into our joint account. Makes it much easier to keep a room over the bed we share, just as we share everything else in our life. I though that is what marriage was, an equal partnership.

I had a SO in 2007-8 and 9, She was the love of my life and i soon was paying her school loan, for her one hr face lift, her spa's then when the bottom fell out in 2008-9. I found out the truth, she was living on my money and stashing her deceased husbands SSI of 1799.00 a month in a secrete account and when I was off at work, she was off playing and partying , there is more, however were talking about money deception. I personally carry 200.00 in cash in my wallet for emergency, she knew it was there and if i used it i replaced it. Soon after MY money was gone she was too. Cleaned me out of all things of $$$ value in my home and left me paying the bills, loosing my home and more..
So i feel its more the woman that will have the hidden bank account (if only for a perceived rainy day or a way to buy her SO a gift with out them knowing what was paid) but Disclose it please. Remember the Truth will set you free.

I find myself lying to my wife about small things. Right now I work and go to school, and up until a month ago my wife just went to school. She is having a hard time finding a job so I have been the only one bringing in money for quite a while, and I am fine with that. The problem comes in when I try to buy small things for myself, such as swing through the drive-thru instead of packing a lunch to work or even just renting a $1 movie for us to watch together and she jumps all over me. I understand her point of view because we don't have a ton of money but at the same time I feel like I deserve a small vice every now and then.

So, if I Redbox a movie I will sometimes make up a lie and say I was emailed a code for a freebie or if I get fast food I will make sure I eat it and get rid of the evidence before she finds out. Yeah, I am lying to my wife, but they are small lies and I honestly think our marriage is better for it.

I broke up with my girlfriend after she was unemployed for over a year - some people say that I was coldhearted but just about EVERY woman I ever knew would leave a guy who was unemployed. What's the deal?

My ex wife was stealing from me from the day we got married. I was giving her 500 dollars a month to pay household expenses and her gas. She was in turn supposed to put her small weekly paycheck into our joint savings account. After 4 and a half months I had not seen a bank statement and just went to the bank to see what was going on. I discovered that she had been putting my 500 dollars in her own savings account and still paying the bills as she had been doing before we got married. I even found out she had used some of the money to start another savings account at a bank that isn't not local. I confirmed this by my own bank providing me with the transaction records. We had dated for 5 years and I never would have dreamed she would steal from me. I hope the "black widow" has a good excuse for what she did because she will have to answer for it one day. God doesnt miss a thing.

The western civilisation become worse by their living style. Islamic religion teaching is the best for the family. Please see the video about American Airforce major Dr Laurence Brown , eye specialist who embraced Islam and his comments. In Islam wife shall be a house wife. Husband earns and his duty is to look after his wife and chidren. It is unlawful for the Husband to use his wife's earning.Sympathy, harmony.humanity, love, responsiblity, generosity,and peace found only in Islam. Seek for it.

I dated a man who lied about his income .... I liked him from the beginning because he was funny, but would think twice about dating someone who is not paying his bills and has tons of debt. It filtered to other areas of his life and once I got to know him I could not run fast enough.
However these are not things to discuss on the first, second or 50th date,,,,oh well, lesson learned. Now he is back on dating website lying about his income and his age....good luck to him!

my money is mine , his money is his - bills down the line equally - as long as the bills get paid why worry- that works -try it

jk

Of course I have to have a hidden fund--what am I suppose to pay the hooker with a check???

Many of the comments I've seen on this article state to have separate bank accounts, separate money... what happens if there is only one source of income and the one earning it is the one who is hiding the fact that ALL of the "extra" is being spent on frivolous things?
Most people I've met don't go into a marriage these days with the intent of living in a single-earner household but yet that's exactly what has happened in these last couple of years. "Spend what you want from your own bank account" simply doesn't work anymore when that happens and if that's your habit, the lies may (are likely to) start.

I would have loved to have had financial teamwork with my husband - but as it is, he is VERY lucky that I contributed to a superannuation scheme my entire working life.
Somehow the $450 difference between his take home pay and what he contributed to household expenses equalled no savings.

Money is the root of all evil but when you lie to your spouse about it you may as well start packing your bags. Lies are lies and a marriage or relationships with lies are ones without trust. Without trust what's left to build on? If you're in a relationship that is fostered on deceit, get out while you can still afford it.

A friend was moving too quickly into marriage. I told him to slow down. Shorty after the ceremony she showed up, without communication, with the most expensive VW from the show room. I suggested he insist she return it. The short marriage ended with her demanding 1/2 of the increased equity in the house. I told him that the house was bought as a home and not an investment. Rather than pay attorneys he copitulated. We all know where that huge equity went.

you people are idiots

Guess love isn't worth much, eh?

Tell me about it!! Number 1 modern marital problem.