You just got home from your first date with a guy who could pass for Ryan Reynold's twin brother. But, more than looks, his personality and behavior were so classy that you can't help but think about seeing him again. You're convinced that the feeling is mutual and that you both liked one another; however, it's two days later, and you're still sitting on your couch wondering when and if he will call you. Instead of waiting for him to make the first move, you contemplate doing it yourself.
Before jumping into anything, it's best to weigh each scenario against the worst possible outcome. There are four immediate options for reaching out to him: text, phone, e-mail, or yes, we hate to admit it, Facebook. And, of course, you also have the choice to just sit there quietly and wait for him to contact you. Or, if you can't wait, you could head on over to his neighborhood and ask him out again in person. However, we wouldn't recommend the latter! There are a lot of factors that come into play when determining if, when, and how to contact your date. Read on to discover what experts say.
1. Text: In this day and age, texting is the most common way to reach out to someone. In fact, a text message is the perfect way to send your date a little reminder about you. Matchmaker Marla Martenson explains, "Guys have told me that they were so impressed when a woman took the time to text the next day with a thank-you, even if there was no romantic chemistry. They tell me that the majority of women don't do that." So, if you want to stand out from the crowd of first dates, send a quick text and see what happens.
2. Call: If you're dating in your 30s or 40s, calling may be a better idea than texting. If you're a man, be warned that many women will send your call straight to voicemail, so they can hear what you have to say and work out a response. Therapeutic relationship consultant Crystal Rice says, "No matter what you decide to do, the immediate contact makes the other person feel special and desired."
3. E-mail: This type of communication is a little too formal. After all, today's generation uses e-mails primarily for professional reasons rather than personal purposes. If you've gone out on a date, there are more personal and casual ways to contact the person. In fact, it's unlikely that you'd even know your crush's e-mail address after only one date, unless you've exchanged business cards. But each generation is different, and some prefer email, while others like to call. An e-mail can be used to replace a phone call if you simply don't have time. No matter what, it will still make you stand-out from others who don't reach out at all.
4. Facebook: Facebook is a great tool to use to get familiar with a person before your big night out. You can discover more details about their education and career path, as well as their personal interests and group of friends. Just don't go overboard: sure, it may be tempting to picture-stalk your crush and find out about their previous relationships, but regardless of what you find on Facebook, you'll only be making assumptions. It's best to go into the date with a clear mind and get the facts straight from the source. After a first date, however, you're better off sending them a text; they're more likely to see the text right away and respond to you promptly.
5. Wait: Suzanne Casamento, CEO of Fantasy Dating Game, believes that playing the waiting game depends how you feel about the other person. "If you're eager to see someone again, let them know. Send a friendly text that says something like, 'I had a great time. We should get together again.' Then wait," she reveals. "If the other person responds enthusiastically, you'll know they're into you. If they don't, don't become a pest. Consider it an opportunity for you to move on quickly and meet the right person."
Ladies, remember: If a guy wants to see you for a second date, he'll get in touch with you somehow. Most men will actually ask you out for a second date while they are with you on the first one. The best way to end all of this guessing about how to contact him or her is to plan your second date together before you even say goodnight.Lori Bizzoco is the Executive Editor of CupidsPulse.com , a first-of-its-kind website that takes the latest celebrity news and repackages it to help singles and couples navigate their love lives. She is a sought after relationship and entertainment expert who has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Newsday, Chicago-Tribune, Working Mother, Woman's Day, Redbook, Parenting, and on Fox News, The Suze Orman Show, WebMD, Match.com, JDate, YourTango, and more. She's appeared in two books, 'No Excuses: 9 Ways Women Can Change How We Think about Power' by feminist icon Gloria Feldt and 'Cheat on Your Husband (With Your Husband)' by Andrea Syrtash. Today, CupidsPulse.com has more than one million unique visitors per month.