Grandparents have been around the parenting block. Often, they extend parenting lessons to their grandkids. There's nothing wrong with that unless they step out of bounds. Grandparents are wise but they may not realize parents have a right to raise their kids as they see fit. It's not always about being right or wrong. Sometimes its about respecting your grown kids and their parenting choices. Do be respectful toward them. Be careful about the example you set for your grandkids, as well. Shun the five things grandparents should never teach their grandkids.
1. Religious beliefs that conflict with their parents' - Never assume your kids wish to raise their kids with the same religious beliefs you have. Would you have wanted someone to push their conflicting beliefs on your children when they were young? It's OK to tell your grandchildren what you believe and why, but only if they ask. Otherwise, leave religious training up to their parents.
2. Politics that conflict with their parents - Once again, your children may have a very different view of the world from yours. You don't push your politics on grown friends and relations. Hopefully, you didn't push them on your children, either. Political agendas have no place in parenting or grandparenting. Teach them right from wrong, not how to argue over who's right or wrong.
3. Disrespect for their parents - This may seem obvious. Still, it's surprising how many grandparents teach their grandkids to disrespect their parents. It's quite easy to slip up in this department. Kids learn best through example. By criticizing your grown kids in front of their children, you send a clear message. Your grandkids look up to you. Don't abuse that fact by teaching them a lack of respect for their parents.
4. Prejudice - Perish the thought you say? You don't have a prejudiced bone in your body? Not so fast. What about that bum on the street corner asking for hand-outs? How did you react to him in front of your grandkids? Hopefully you expressed sympathy for his plight, rather than telling him to get a job. Prejudice happens when we prejudge someone according to their appearance. It's not always a black and white thing.
5. Hopelessness - By the time you get to be a grandparent, your view of the world may be jaded by your experiences. Try to display a positive outlook, despite your disappointments and misgivings. Don't take away your grandkids' youthful sense of hope with your curmudgeonly ways. They have a right to look forward to a bright future. Not only that, they deserve one and might just attain it -- that is, if you're smart enough to avoid teaching them the five things grandparents never should.
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