Dealing with a break-up around the holidays is never easy. Emotions and stress run high, and ending things can be difficult to cope with. If it has happened to you or is happening, you will know how badly it hurts. Getting through it will take time, but in the end you will be stronger. These are some tips on getting through the holiday season after a recently becoming single.
Fake it until you make it
After a recent break-up, things may seem bleak. There are very few reasons to smile and sometimes even getting out of bed is a project. The saying "fake it until you make it" is one to live by. If there is a holiday party you were going to attend with your boyfriend, attend anyway. Pretend you are feeling better and make sure you look your best. Allowing yourself time to have fun without having him or the situation cross your mind will help you in getting over it. Always wear a smile on your face, even when your heart is breaking.
Return the gifts you bought for him
Immediately return the things you have bought for him. Keeping items like that lying around will only give you extra incentive to talk to him again. If you had wrapped them already and took off price tags or threw away receipts, you could always give them to a charity or give them to someone else. Make sure your holiday is reminder-free of the relationship that once was. Take this time to spend the extra money on a new dress for an office party, or a spa day.
Allow yourself to grieve
Grieving a relationship is something everyone should do, no matter the time of year. You need to be able to get out your emotions and feelings. Make sure you take the proper time you need to be able to move on. There is no set schedule on how you should feel or when you should be "over it." Still attend your holiday gatherings, and try to keep your life as normal as possible. If you slip into a rut and become stuck, it is hard to get back out.
Going through a break-up around the holidays is never fun. Remembering to keep yourself together when at joint functions or while being with your family is important. Allow yourself time to cry and mourn the loss, and then move on. Perhaps at one of the holiday parties you will meet someone new. Things sometimes happen for a reason, and finding out he was not "the one" is better than not knowing at all.
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