One of the biggest complaints I hear from women is that their guy isn't romantic enough. When I ask the last time their guy did a romantic gesture, some can't even remember because it's been that long. Everyone has their own definition of romance - for some it's receiving roses while for others it's a simple "good morning" text message. I've been with a few guys who didn't know the first thing about romance, but after awhile, they were making gestures all on their own without needing any hints at all. So how can you get your guy to be more romantic?
Express your gratitude
I don't know about you, but I wouldn't be too thrilled about repeatedly doing things for someone who didn't at least say "thank you." When your guy does something nice for you, even if it's as simple as picking up your favorite take out meal for you on the way home, tell him (and show him) how much you appreciate the gesture. Hug him, kiss him, thank him and actually tell him you appreciate it.
Reciprocate the romance
Romance isn't just for us, ladies! You can't expect your guy to be more romantic without you putting in effort as well. A guy's idea of romance might be different than ours, but that doesn't mean they still don't love nice gestures even if it's picking up a box of wings for him after he's had a hard day at work. Even if he's not very romantic, he'll likely start taking his cues from you if you kick things off.
Tell him what you like
Guys aren't mind readers and some need you to drop hints about what you like otherwise they're going to be at a loss about what to do and it'll result in them doing nothing at all. Whatever it is that you consider a romantic gesture - opening the car door for you, sending a "good night" text message, or bringing flowers for no reason - mention it in conversation. Many guys want to do gestures but have no idea where to start; point him in the right direction.
Show off his gesture
If you have Facebook, use it to your advantage. Take a picture of what your guy gave you or post a status. He'll likely feel good that you loved his gesture enough to tell all your friends about it and it could inspire him to keep it up knowing how happy it made you.
Surprisingly, it's a lot easier to get your guy to be more romantic than some may think. Often, guys get just as much pleasure from doing sweet gestures as women do being the recipients of them. Before you get upset that your guy isn't being romantic enough, consider if you've been doing what you could to get him to that point. However, know that all guys aren't the romantic type and you can't force them to change. If he really wants to make changes, he'll do it.
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