Breaking up is one of the hardest things we have to do when in a relationship. Whether you are scared of hurting his feelings, or you just need to get out of a relationship that is going nowhere, breaking up is never fun. While men don't show their emotions the same way women do, we still get hurt when we are broken up with. Use these tips to break up with your boyfriend without coming across the wrong way.
Assess Your Reasoning
Think and list the reasons that you want to break up with your partner. Make sure that you have sound reasons written down beside each item. Writing your reasoning down allows for less confusion when you start to discuss the break up, and it allows you to remember everything in the heat of the moment.
How to Begin
A breakup will not come as quite a shock to your partner if your relationship has been failing for some time. Start with the phrase: "We need to talk." While this phrase may seem cliche, it is easier than saying "let's break up." Never start by putting him down. Start by saying the positives and then move to why you are considering a breakup. State your problems and reasons, but give him a chance to give his side of the story. Everyone has their own view on the relationship, which means that both sides should be heard before just ending the relationship.
Give Him Time to Reason
When men get frustrated in a relationship, we will either tell you upfront, or keep it to ourselves. If you are someone that keeps your problems and frustrations to yourself, your boyfriend may not know that you ever had a problem. While it may seem that he is insensitive for not knowing exactly what the problem is, it is important to keep in mind that you do not know all of his problems, either. He may have similar problems to yours that are entirely able to be worked out.
Resolution
I've been in relationships that ended abruptly for reasons that I had no idea about. For instance, if you're frustrated that he hangs out with his friends every weekend, but never seems to have time to see you, you need to let him know. Men are dumb when it comes to relationships. We often don't know when there is a problem, which means we can't resolve or fix something that we didn't know was wrong. Try to fix the relationship before breaking up, if there is any way to resolve the issues in a way that is healthy to both of you.
The Breakup
If resolving the relationship fails and there is no way to get through to your partner, it is important to break up the right way. Let him know that there is no way to resolve the problems and that you need to breakup to move on with your life. Don't tell him that it's his or your fault for the breakup, rather make it a mutual decision. Don't lead him on after breaking up by calling him, texting him, or showing up to places that you know he will be at. Make a clean break by not speaking to your ex, unless you both feel that you want to give the relationship another shot.
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