Everything is going great, he wants to see you every free minute of the day, answers your texts within a few seconds and has awesome date ideas. He seems completely into you and you cannot get enough. You want him to make the next step and commit to a long-term relationship, but he has not. Since everything is seeming to go perfectly, why wouldn't he just take the next step and commit? Look for these signs to see if he is looking for a long-term relationship, rather than a casual fling.
He spends every free minute of the day with you
It's Sunday afternoon, the Patriots are playing, and his friends are having their weekly pre-game party. However, instead of hanging out with his friends and watching his favorite sport, he spends the day with you. You are probably asking yourself, "If he can't commit to football, how can he commit to me?" Joking aside, if he sacrifices his favorite activities during the week to spend time with you, it is a good sign he is getting ready to commit. Guys who want a casual relationship, but don't want the commitment, will not give up their favorite activities. However, if he is considering a long-term relationship he will do everything he can to spend time with you.
He introduces you to his friends
While meeting the parents is the most important sign he is serious about you, meeting his friends is an overlooked sign he wants something long-term. He wants to show you off to his friends to gain their approval and to show off. Let us be honest, he wants his friends to get jealous of his great girlfriend. I recently went on a double date with one of my girlfriend's friends, Katie, and her new boyfriend, Dustin. After the date was winding down, Dustin invited us to a bar that his friends frequent. About 10 of his friends were there, and with a big smile on his face, he proudly introduced his new girlfriend. Two weeks later, he asked her for a long-term commitment. The point of this story is that if he introduces you to his friends, you can be sure that he is considering a long-term relationship after his friends approve.
He talks to you about your past
When a guy is looking for a casual relationship we don't want to know about your past boyfriends, or flings. However, when we are looking for something more long-term, we want to know how you treated your ex boyfriends. Ranting and talking down about your past loves may seem like it is what we want to hear, but we are actually seeing if that is the way you would treat us if we broke up. We want to know that you are not a serial dater, but rather someone that is willing to commit. Guys are more reserved than gals when it comes to a relationship. We will not risk our vulnerability to someone who does not know what she wants in a relationship.
Sex is not his top priority
Yes, it does happen. In today's serial dating world of casual relationships, sex is a top priority for many guys. However, when he is more interested about how your day at work was than getting in your pants, it is a sign he wants something more serious. Many guys confuse what a long-term relationship is. It is not about having a steady partner, but rather connecting to the emotional side of a relationship. Guy's who genuinely want a long-term relationship will have your feelings as a top priority, rather than getting in bed with you.
