Why do children interrupt you while you are talking on the phone, or busy on the computer? In part it is because you have trained them that you will give them a response. Granted, it is not always the most pleasant response, but it is a response nonetheless. If you admonish a child for interrupting and then immediately handle the child's request, you are simply reinforcing the behavior. In order to avoid dealing with impolite interruptions teach your child to how to get your attention.
Teach the "squeeze"This handy technique completely changed how my children behave. This is by far the best thing I learned in the parenting classes I took for my adoption license over the years. No, I do not squeeze them into submission, rather if they have something to ask me but I am busy, or on the phone, they can gently squeeze my arm. I will squeeze back or look at them to let them know I now they are waiting and then get to them as soon as I can.
Prepare ahead of time
If you know you are going to be tied up for a few minutes, or longer, let your child know. Get them busy so they will be less likely to interrupt. Keeping special toys or projects for just such an occasion is a good way to ward off interruptions. Play dough, coloring books, a puzzle, or an inexpensive toy can make a big difference if you really need a stretch of uninterrupted time to talk on the phone or work on the computer.
Quick manner lesson
Teach your child to say, "Excuse me" after waiting for a pause in conversation. If they showed restraint and politely said "Excuse me" then you can take a moment to see what they need.
If you expect your child to have good manners, then ideally they will already be a part of your life. If you need to learn alongside your child, choose a few simple courtesies and work on them together. Avoid responding rudely and instead model manners while teaching your child.
There are times when interrupting is completely justified. Kids may have a hard time deciphering but you can spell out common exceptions such as when a sibling is hurt. In the case of injury it is completely acceptable to run in and interrupt without waiting for a pause in conversation.
Do not ignore
If your child is trying to follow the rules be sure to notice the times they succeed. Catch your child being good and make a point to say thank you. Good manners really do go both ways!
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