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    Controversy over 'fatties' sparks apology

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    Can one blog post spark a national debate? It happened yesterday, when Marie Claire writer Maura Kelly published a story titled "Should "Fatties" Get a Room?"

    The post was first published on the magazine's web site as well as on Yahoo! Shine, a content-sharing partner with Marie Claire and several other female-oriented websites.

    Kelly's piece centers on the question: "Think people feel uncomfortable when they see overweight people making out on television?"

    It's an issue raised by viewers of the new CBS show "Mike and Molly," about a heavy-set couple who met at their Overeaters Anonymous group. After considering the question herself, Kelly answers yes.

    "I think I'd be grossed out if I had to watch two characters with rolls and rolls of fat kissing each other ... because I'd be grossed out if I had to watch them doing anything," she writes. "To be brutally honest, even in real life, I find it aesthetically displeasing to watch a very, very fat person simply walk across a room."

    That statement sparked a tirade of angry comments, 28,000 emails to Marie Claire, and a call from the magazine's readers for Kelly to be fired.

    "Do you think all of the people who read your magazine are a size 6?" wrote one reader. "People like you 'contribute to the obesity problem' with being so shallow," fired another commenter. "I have an overweight little girl who does not sit in front of the TV for hours, or constantly eat. She is adorable, smart, funny and will be a wonderfully productive member of society," added one angry mom on Shine. Another reader dripped with sarcasm: "Dear Maura Kelly, I sincerely apologize for my disgusting body and all the various rolls of fat on my person."

    [Photos: The cast of 'Mike & Molly']

    [Rewind: Magazine defends retouched Kelly Clarkson photo]

    Over at the women's web site Jezebel, blogger, Sadie Stein was also outraged by Kelly's post. "What the hell were they thinking?" she writes. "As if the title 'Should Fatties Get a Room? (Even on TV?)' wasn't bad enough, there's the article itself."

    After watching the public outcry boil over in a matter of hours, Kelly posted an apology to readers. "I would really like to apologize for the insensitive things I've said in this post…a lot of what I said was unnecessary. It wasn't productive, either," she writes. While content updates and redacted facts may be common in blog posts, it's rare to find an apology on an opinion piece.

    Her apology has triggered a second wave of reactions from readers. Some commenters think she should stand her ground, while a majority feel her sentiments are too little too late.

    "While I do respect her apology and am glad she did it, I'm still disappointed by the article's shortsighted-ness," says James Zervios, director of communications for the Obesity Action Coalition, an advocacy group for obesity education. "You'd never see an article like that about a cancer patient. It saddens me that those who suffer from obesity aren't treated with the same respect."

    Zervios worries Kelly's message that over-weight people are "gross" sends a damaging message to the 93 million Americans affected by the epidemic, many of them children. "It's bad enough that magazines Photoshop people's bodies to look more unattainable, now you have a writer at one of them saying they can't stand to look at an obese person. A young over-weight girl should never have to read that kind of article."

    He also takes umbrage with another statement Kelly makes: "I think obesity is something that most people have a ton of control over. It's something they can change, if only they put their minds to it." Kelly, who goes on to cite specific dietary regimens for weight loss, takes a cavalier approach to weight loss that irks several readers.

    "It's not something as simple as you shouldn't eat certain foods," says Zervios, pointing out psychological and biological factors that play a role.

    In her apology, Kelly agrees. She also points out that she herself has struggled with eating disorders, which may have clouded her judgment. "A few commenters and one of my friends mentioned that my extreme reaction might have grown out of my own body issues, my history as an anorexic, and my life-long obsession with being thin," she writes. "As I mentioned in the ongoing dialogue we've been carrying on in the comments section, I think that's an accurate insight."

    While some detractors consider Kelly's confession a sympathy ploy, projecting personal body issues on others is a very real phenomenon. "A lot of people struggle themselves with their weight, and the same people that tend to get very angry at themselves for not being able to manage their weight are more likely to be biased against the obese," said Marlene Schwartz, Yale's Food Policy director, in a 2009 Newsweek article citing her research on the topic.

    But Zervios blames the media at large for the growing intolerance of the over-weight. "I think the word 'fatty' should be stricken from magazines and TV in general," he says. "Anytime obesity is brought up in pop culture people think it's okay to go for the jugular."

    Marie Claire editor-in-chief Joanna Coles is also concerned with the way obesity is tackled in media. But in an interview with Fashionista yesterday, she points to the show, "Mike and Molly," not Kelly. "I'm concerned about a show that makes fun of large people."

    Clearly, it's a topic that's ripe for debate. Today, Coles opened up the discussion to her stable of Marie Claire writers, with the launch of a series of counterpoint posts to Kelly's original piece. The first counterpoint, posted today by Leslie Kinzel, is called "Yes, Fat People Exist: A Vote in Favor of More Diverse bodies on TV." It's already received it's own mixed bag of comments.

    As for Kelly, whose inflammatory statements launched the debate, Coles says, "Maura Kelly is a very provocative blogger. She was an anorexic herself and this is a subject she feels very strongly about."

    That's one thing everyone can agree on.

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    3,035 comments

    • Valery  •  1 year 7 months ago
      I read the original article earlier this evening and it left a bad taste in my mouth...The whole article seemed to me, to be a hate article against overweight people. And then she started talking about how she has "overweight" friends....Yeah, not for long. Really, there was no reason for this article to ever see the light of day, it was hateful and hurtful and all her eating disorder excuses aren't going to change that. In fact I see it as her thinkng "My disease is prettier than yours"....
    • chris t  •  1 year 7 months ago
      i love mike and molly its hilarious! and i think someone like this writer should stand in front of a mirror and think twice before writing something so thoughtless! why does the weight even matter anyway??
    • Elle  •  1 year 7 months ago
      Fortunately this disease that has effected a high percentage of the population, did not exist back when I was growing up. As I recall there were 2 people in my graduating class that had the disease.
    • Samara  •  1 year 7 months ago
      I am very surprised that someone who was an anorexic would not be more sympathetic. How would you feel if someone looked at you and said oh she can cantrol her anorexia if she would just eat. We all know it's more to anorexia than just eating and their is more than not eating to being overweight because you can be thin and still have rolls and maybe thats exactly what you should do.ROLLLLLLL and BOUNCE
    • Charles Caz  •  1 year 7 months ago
      Phat people are BEAUTIFUL too!
    • JJ  •  1 year 7 months ago
      IF you dont like it dont watch
    • jei  •  1 year 7 months ago
      Sydney G.. unless they have a disease that keeps them from losing weight.. then yes, exercise and eating a healthy diet IS how you lose and maintain a healthy weight. MOST PEOPLE DO NOT HAVE A DISEASE. They are just fat, because they eat like crap, and don't exercise. I don't understand how people are so stupid.. Let's come back to the real world, and stay out of PC land, because PC is nothing more than a lie to make people feel better about their crappy lifestyles. You can be compassionate, an sensitive all day long.. and then keep being that way when these people die early from the countless diseases they bring on themselves from being overweight. Yeah, who really cares? the person calling it like it is, or the people that want to play make believe games and watch them die?
    • Crystal  •  1 year 7 months ago
      I personally love the show Mike and Molly. Simply- they are hilarous. They make light of a very difficult issue. I was not grossed out by their appearance when kissing or anything. I enjoyed their interactions and I am excited to see more of their show in the future. Please notice that they are human and they aren't saying being out of shape is the way to be. They are saying that they to struggle like everyone does with self-esteem and appearance. For the first time we see real people and for you who are saying lose weight, please note- they are trying! They certaintly aren't alone and it is fun to see it in a light, entertaining, and hilarious way.
    • Storm Shadow  •  1 year 7 months ago
      My problem isn't so much with the word "Fatties," but with the writer's juvenile, ignorant attitude. Her usage of it tells me a lot about her. Maybe she's just trying to get attention by stirring up fake controversy. It sure seems like that to me.
      That's what "journalism" has come to these days -- intentionally say things that will upset people just to get attention, just to get people to click on your link.
    • blakem  •  1 year 7 months ago
      fatties should just stop eating so much food. like drunks need to stop drinking, druggies need to stop getting high, abusers need to stop hurting people, abuse-es need to stop enabling, angry people need to calm down... oh wait what's that? we have certain predispositions based on our genes, upbringing, and early life choices? putting a burger down is just as hard as putting down a bottle, because it's something your body or brain thinks it needs or you have a deep-seated predisposition to do it. "fat people are ugly" who cares about appearances? what really matters is on the inside, like being trustworthy, dependable, smart, loving... (although being pretty is always a plus, because we all like seeing pretty, it just shouldn't enter into our evaluation of a persons worth. unless we're evaluating them for a modeling job)
    • Holman L  •  1 year 7 months ago
      The author is doing this for Attention. Nothing more, Nothing less. Enuff Said
    • letyourthoughtsdrain  •  1 year 7 months ago
      Quit trying to normalize obesity. It is a self-imposed, aesthetically displeasing and destructive illness, and should therefore be neither tolerated nor encouraged. Shame and derision are the appropriate responses.
    • Richard  •  1 year 7 months ago
      If you are fat you are fat, skiney you are skiney. How stupid can people be? Everyone has problems it is up to them to deal with it and not be ofended by chance comments, there are real good people that are skiney,fat,or in between. People should enjoy the one life they have it will be over soon enough.
    • Bear  •  1 year 7 months ago
      Being fat is unhealthy and unsightly. We wouldn't be so quick to jump on the author if she was talking about two smokers or two people addicted to crack. An unhealthy lifestyle is just that. I know first hand how difficult it is to lose weight and keep it off but I also know for most of us it's a choice. I've lost 70 pounds in the last year and will have to agree that fat people are unsightly. I know I was. The difference between obesity and other "disabilities" is that most people have the choice to change that aspect of themselves. If you feel bad about yourself or your daughter because of an opinion piece about fatties then do something about it for yourself. Calling for this individual to be fired won't solve your problem. You'll still be fat. I wish people would have been honest with me 20 years ago. After losing 70 pounds my bones have remained the same size. I guess the big boned theory was nothing more then a means to spare my feelings. To heck with my feelings and yours for that matter. I'm saving my life. I have no sympathy for obese people who get offended by something they did to themselves. I was obese for 37 years and will be the first to admit I was disgusting.
    • Russell  •  1 year 7 months ago
      ok I understand that some people suffer from certain disorders and ailments that lead to obesity but there's no way that in the last 20 years there is that big of a increase in people who suffer from them. When you walk in a gym, how many overweight people do you see in there? When you see someone jogging on the side of the road, is it normally someone in fairly good shape or someone with half of their body flapping out the bottom of their shirt? The people you see working out have the same choice as fatties. We could just bum around the house and eat potato chips while watching hours and hours of reruns on TV but that’s not a healthy life style. Don’t play yourself like its not your decision to be 300+ lbs. It's not a onetime decision, it’s a commitment to better yourself and set a good example for those around you. Be real people
    • DP  •  1 year 7 months ago
      I'd like to know why she's watching a show that makes her uncomfortable in the first place. The whole show is centered around an overweight couple yet this writer complains that simply watching an overweight person walk across a room is disturbing. Why is she watching the show with a premise that she finds disturbing? If something makes you uncomfortable, don't watch it.

      She has every right to post her thoughts on her own personal blog but I think it was a mistake for Marie Claire to post it anywhere else. It doesn't take a genius to figure out that she would alienate a lot of people from the magazine as a result. The fact that the writer was anorexic makes me wonder if she was just projecting her unresolved body image issues onto others. I doubt she'd be okay with someone speaking ill of anorexic people the way she has spoken ill of overweight people. It's one thing to draw light on an issue and another thing completely to flat out insult those that are dealing with it. What annoys me is the way she's handled this situation. The apology is silly and unnecessary because at the end of the day she's still going to feel the same way about overweight people. It's likely that she was just unprepared for the backlash and apologized because she was backed into a corner. But if you're going to be a "provocative blogger" be prepared to stand by your statements. Don't run and hide when people call you out.
    • brigham  •  1 year 7 months ago
      Fatties are disgusting...I know because I was one. I ate crap and didn't exercise (this is why 99% of fatties are fat...just a fact). So I got sick of being disgusting and lost 80 pounds...I'm glad I did. All you fatties should lay down the cupcakes and take a walk. The truth hurts sometimes.
    • MissSubliminality  •  1 year 7 months ago
      Ya know, it's when people say things like this that I have to think to myself...you can't call a rail thin person a stick, or they get ticked. Where's the difference? Everyone needs to quit hating on fat people and learn to except it. America is fat.
    • Chill Bill  •  1 year 7 months ago
      Tough luck, FATTIES! If the hoof fits, wear it, PORKERS!
    • suitelady99  •  1 year 7 months ago
      It not as if Marie Clare is the outstanding literary magazine. Yes "Your best orgasm ever" is hardly Pulitzer prize material. We talking about a woman who starves her self. Shot me for not missing a meal. She has an eating disorder?! What do she think obesity is. A walking skeleton is disgusting! Skinny bitches will always be evil. Maybe if she ate some food and relaxed she wouldn't have to worry about what fat people are doing.

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