Last year I spoke to all of you about opening up to yourself and being truthful to Christ. This season I wanted to expand a little more before allowing a mate to come into your life. In order to do that, we have to deprogram some of the things that were taught to us as children, understanding the English language, and following through with Biblical terms and ways of living.
It is the New Year, 2010, and we should recognize that 10 is the number of completion. Before we are complete however, we have to look at the reasons as to why we were bound for so many years prior. I wanted to start with resolutions. I am sure many of you have made a list promising yourself to get yourself and body back on track. How many times have you made the same promise to go to the gym at the beginning of the year and stick with it for about two or three months? I'm guilty. Do you want to know why it didn't work? Here's the deal, the reason why we go to the gym is to lose weight; that's problem number one. It is not a problem in bettering your health, but it's the word you used. "I need to 'Lose' weight." Commercials and ads suggest by saying, "Wanna 'Lose' weight today?" It just will not work. The English translation for lose means misplace, drop, be defeated, fail, decrease, etc. I want to include these words with an association of phrases that you may have heard as a child. If you have other phrases you remember hearing, use them.
Word: Misplace
Associated Phrases:"I know I did not misplace my keys."
Subconscious Emotional feeling of attachment: sad, angry, frustrated, urgency
Word: Drop
Associated Phrases: "Don't you drop my glasses when you set the table!"
Subconscious Emotional feeling of attachment: scared, frightened, upset, nervous
Word: be defeated
Associated Phrases: "That's why we beat you!"
Subconscious Emotional feeling of attachment: sad, upset, angry, frustrated, less than
Word: Fail
Associated Phrases: "You got an 'F'on your paper? You are on restriction!"
Subconscious Emotional feeling of attachment: sad, upset, angry, frustrated, hurt, confused, non deserving
Word: Decrease
Associated Phrases: "We are going to have to decrease your pay."
Subconscious Emotional feeling of attachment: sad, angry, upset, worried
Now change the associated phrases with what you tell yourself and hear when it comes to weight loss:
Associated Phrase: "I am going to lose 10lbs"
Subconscious/Psychological Connection: I will be defeated if I do not lose this weight. or. Once I lose this weight, I am defeated.
Emotional Feeling of Attachment: sad, upset, angry frustrated, less than
Associated Phrase: "Lose 20 lbs in three months!"
Subconscious/Psychological Connection: I will be less than if I do not lose this weight. or. Once I lose 20lbs in three months, I will have failed.
Emotional Feeling of Attachment: I lose a part of me therefore; I will be sad angry upset worried, etc.
Confusing when you read it, right? That is the same thing your brain feels and recognizes when the phrases are used. Now fill in the words with the negative connotations that you heard as a child that was associated with a loss and think of how it in turn affects you with "losing" weight.
In our minds if we lose something, we feel we are not worthy to be happy or can accept the fact that we have "lost." Our brain does not understand how to recognize the idea and it is in constant battle. Subconsciously once in battle, we have to replace what we lost physically. What do we start doing when we feel we are not satisfied, replacing and refilling that portion of us that was gone by eating more! I hope I am not losing you guys because there is a way to fix it. The Bible says, "A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit." Proverbs 15:4. In Proverbs 18:21 it says," Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will it eats fruits." We have to retrain how we speak to one another while also reprogramming what was said to us in our youth.
In order to rethink and retrain our brain, start by saying (and looking in the mirror while doing this):
- I will "trim" down my weight by eating healthier.
- I will "trim" down my size by exercising.
- My figure is beautiful and I can "enhance" my figure by living better, walking, and eating right.
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I will "gain" my desired figure by exercising, walking, and eating healthy.
Think of it as this. How many times do you have someone trim your ends and they tell you, "Honey, this will make your hair healthier." Or you may hear a gardener say, "I trimmed the hedges in your yard, and they will grow out to be more beautiful than before." Do the results actually happen? How do you feel when you hear those words and see the results; not guilty or sad, right?
"Gracious words are like honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body." Proverbs 16:24.
Use your words wisely because they can be sweet. Smile more because it shows how happy your are about yourself and how much you love Christ. Each time we use a word that reflects growth, it is translated in our mind by allowing us to grow. Ladies this can be done and so much more will be given to all of us this blessed completed year of 2010. I pray you have a safe journey in Embracing who you are, Enhancing who you are, and Evolving into what you were predestined to be! God bless you and you are in my prayers always.
Shani
