As you guys know Nick and I have started talking about having another baby. I'm not really ready to get into the nitty gritty of our decision-making process yet, but I will tell you this: Barring any major cancer obstacles, we are going to go for it. And I am not the only CML mom thinking about building a bigger post-cancer family. Liv, who was diagnosed when she was pregnant, and now has a beautiful little guy, is in the process of figuring it all out. And...she's here to tell us all about it!
My son is now 3 months old and we are so blessed to have a happy, healthy baby. Thanks to you all for the sleep advice right after he was born. He now sleeps 7 hour stretches at night. Ah! We are having a blast taking him shopping, to dinners, movies, Mommy and Me groups and more. I've also started thinking about the future and the fact I'd love for our son to have a sibling. But, with the whole cancer thing, there are so many challenges. So, I'm starting to research the options for a few years down the line and I would love your help. Whether it is through surrogacy, adoption or me through a miracle, we would love our son to have a sibling.When a couple in their forties, an egg donor in her twenties and a surrogate in her thirties used science to create a child, they formed a surprising kinship in the process.
My doctor has told me I'll be on Gleevec indefinitely and the big issue is that--as you know from Erin's journey--it is very risky to go off the Gleevec for an entire pregancy. I can't put my life in jeopardy with a child to care for. And exposing a fetus to Gleevec throughout a pregnancy is not safe either. So, we met with a specialist about egg harvesting. I'm 33 and don't want to wait till it's too late. So, they recommend freezing embryos (combining my eggs and my husband's sperm) and then finding a surrogate. The success rates are about 60%, but unfortunately I am a "pioneer" and there isn't any research on egg freezing while still on Gleevec (only on rats). Will the eggs be viable? In addition, the process of In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) requires a surge of hormones be put into your body to capture the eggs and that may be dangerous as it may cause blood clots, which my doctor said I am already at risk for with my CML. And the costs of the whole IVF process are close to $25,000. Next question, does anyone know the cost of a surrogate?
The other option to consider is adoption. But I hear many agencies and countries won't let you adopt a child if you have cancer and some agencies say you have to be in remission for five years. Does anyone have any experience with cancer and adoption? And how much does adoption cost? I feel so lucky to have our son and if it's not meant to be that we have another child, I completely accept that. But, I at least I want to look into the options for the future. I'd love any insight or experiences you may have had. Thanks!
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