More Couples Sleeping Apart: Is This Healthy?

Me and my husband been married for 9 years we never sleep in the same bed for 2 months now. He's always in his man cave and I feel that he don't care at all we are always fighting. I

My fiance' & I used to sleep in the same bedroom, he snores and loves music/noise. He can't sleep if the music is off. I have to turn to radio off, so I can sleep. He found a solution... He sleeps in the livingroom. At some point, I sleep better, but I miss him sleeping next to me.

My husband and I have been together for 21 years. Twelve years ago, I realized I was beginning to hate him. I was waking up every night because he snored so loud. I observed him grinding his teeth, farting or breathing in my face. I knew it wouldn't be fair to blame him for things he does in his sleep, but I became thoroughly disgusted when I would hear him complain that HE didn't get enough sleep. When our sleeping arrangement changed, so did our sex life. It got better and better and better. The evening is the family's time so we make our fantasy dates in the afternoon when the kids are at school. Five days for us to play in between meetings or a lunch break. Because of our separate rooms, we are closer, we have more respect for our union and along with love, it's the reason our relationship is successful. Of course, it's not for everybody but everybody I know is divorced and their broken families are creating a broken future for all of us.

Sharing the same bed posed a few common complaints for my husband & me, but sharing the bedroom itself was a huge problem! My husband is a messy packrat, who virtually took over every inch of space, We are a retired couple, in our late 60's, who have adapted to our situation with each of us having their own territory. I have the upper floor to call my own, while he has the downstairs bedroom & bath. Life is good! We are both far less stressed than before and we don't bicker as much as we used to.We can be as romantic as any other couple, maybe even more so. Besides, when we do clash, I just "go home", lol.

I think each couple knows what works for them. I talk to my husband about everything, and actually get more conversation at the dinner table. So we wouldnt eat apart. He is asleep in 4 seconds, and I take way longer to fall asleep, by the time I am even close to sleep he is snoring louder than thunder. I love it when he sleeps in the chair or on the couch in front of the tv. And honestly, he is sleeping, he doesnt care one way or another.

I love it when my husband sleeps in the guestroom. i sleep better.

we have been together 15 years and only once in a bluemoom share a bed he is 6 foot 6 and i stand at 4 feet 10 and 1/2 after the third time of picking my silf up off the floor that was enough

Hubby and i sleep seperate due to a whole lot of reasons, restlessness, snoring, he can't sleep without tv on, blasting fan, etc....we definately have less sex and cuddling, but find the time no matter what...i never deny him of that, we both have needs. i feel as long as those needs are met and your not denying one another of that, it can be healthy and also very rewarding because your both getting a good nights sleep....its not all about sex, but also about sanity, and we all need sleep to attain that! the body can live without sex, but not without sleep...that's when the saying not tonight honey im to tired will become reality without your zzzzzzzzzzzzz.

i love my husband very much but when it omes to bedtime,we normally sleep separately coz snoring affect my sleep very much and i will get hang ups and headache due to lack of sleep...It is completely healthy and we still have a very intimate relationshjp during the day and in the earlier part of the nite...It is jes the snores that make me unable to sleep,,But i am very sure his snores will cease if he can lose a little weight...We still share alot of things together and trust me,nothing will change our intimacy..Bravo to this relationship

Who farted?

My husband snores so loudly that half the time I can't sleep with the noise. I know that I should be beside hime every night, but I need my sleep also, so we spend alot of nights in different rooms

I have a road life and I sleep very comfortable next to him. I like it very much that way. I snore (occassionally) He is still next to me in the a.m.

My boyfriend and I have had different bedrooms for almost 3 yrs now! These past yrs we have became closer than ever. We still do the whole "before sleep" thing. We lay with each other for 30 or more mins then as I fall asleep he simply gets up and goes to his room! Its a win win for us. Good night sleep and still the company of each other!

Normally I don't mind sleeping with my husband I like to be able to snuggle and cuddle, but since I'm pregnant honestly I'd rather sleep in a separate area for now since sweating has become an issue due to summer and me with a watermelon under my shirt there's not enough room in the bed and I don't like feeling like I just had a bucket of water dumped on me from sweating so much from being so close, plus I have lack of sleep from baby movements and inability to get comfortable add the hubs snoring when he's on his back (which I ask him to roll over all the time lol.) along with the strange noises that get made in the middle of the night and I am ready to scream.
Normally though I can handle the strange mouth smacking noises, strange whispers, snoring, and cover stealing and I like right before bed because we get in and we read and talk or whatever without the kiddo but... we do still have a furry child, or children either one or both dogs come to snuggle our feet and so does the cat.

i always sleep better beside my lover.. it makes my day for him to hold me while i sleep!.. && waking up too his handsome faces is what i look forwad too..

I absolutely agree, sleeping apart will eventually distance people.

I get tired of "experts" telling us what is right and wrong, good for us or not, blah, blah, blah. Sleep together or sleep apart. It is up to you. What works best for you might not work best for others. Who cares.

Has a study been made on the rate of divorced couples that sleep together vs. those that do not?

I only know two couples that do not sleep together and have had this arrangement for years. They are now getting a divorce after 20+ yrs. Did not sleeping together cause it??? Probably not, but it sure as hell did not help. With our busy schedules today; working, kids, house, money, medical... it is comforting to be with your best friend at the end of the day and to know you are not alone.

Come on, unless there is some real good reason being married and sleeping apart is just weird.

My husband snores so loudly that half the time I can't sleep with the noise. I know that I should be beside hime every night, but I need my sleep also, so we spend alot of nights in different rooms