Over the course of most of my adult life I have seen many relationships fail. There have been a plethora of reasons for falling short, but the one that sticks around in my head the most is cheating. Having an affair is something many women have fears about. You probably know a woman personally or have someone in your outer circle of friends that has had something like this happen to her. When you experience this, it can ruin your entire life. These are some tips on helping your friend deal with an affair, and how you can support her without overstepping your boundaries.
Don't pressure her
Your friend is going through one of the hardest times in her life and adding pressure to her now will only make things worse. She is going to have to decide whether or not she is going to walk away from her relationship or stick it out with the man she loves. While you may have your opinion on which option is best, it is crucial that you keep your thoughts to yourself. Let her work through what she is dealing with in her own time and way. Having gone through something similar myself, I always appreciated the friends that stood by me without any unsolicited advice or comments.
Help her out
If you can ease her suffering at all, take the opportunity. Cook her a dinner to heat for her family, take her out for a drink, or just let her cry on your shoulder. Most of the time women will not ask for help when they need it, especially in a situation like this. Chances are there is something you can do, even if it is just telling her how much she means to you. Don't just assume because she says she is okay that it is the truth. When I was battling this out in my own life, I had some pretty awesome friends come through for me. They stayed up to talk to me, brought me coffee, and even drank with me until we all got sick. It was those little things that helped me get through a very dark time.
Whatever decision she makes, stand behind her. If she chooses to stay, that is what she wants. Don't condemn or lecture her for the choice she makes. Stand behind her 100 percent of the time, not just when you agree. This will probably be one of the hardest things she has to decide in her lifetime and there is a chance it won't be the right decision. I was the girl that made the wrong choice, but my friends stood by me. It was them that helped me get through.
Finding out something like this is enough to turn someone's world completely upside down. If your friend is dealing with this, make sure you are her rock. She will appreciate you being there, and that is what friends are meant to do.
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