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    House guests and your pets – Avoiding the great divide

    Does your dog or cat have some bad habits that are so cute you can't bear to correct them? If so, you're not alone. My Yorkie loves to nip my heels in excitement when I first come home, and my pug will sit and bark until I fill up her food bowl. It really is adorable. Adorable, that is, until we have company. When guests arrive we get a sobering reminder of why it's important to make our pets behave, even if their questionable behaviors don't bother us.

    If your pets have no discipline and have been allowed to behave however they please, chances are trying to get them to behave when you have house guests is going to be a lost cause. If this is the case, be a good hostess and put your pets out in the yard, the garage, or somewhere they cannot bother your guests. Not everyone likes animals, and even those who do may not appreciate a high-maintenance, barking, jumping, slobbering pet that impedes conversation and has to be the center of attention. If you have taught your pets a few manners, though, here are some tips to help them behave when you have company.

    Barking at and Jumping on Visitors - If you have a dog, he will first encounter your guests when they arrive at the door. Before even opening it, get him in a sit/stay position. If he is barking, make him stop before opening the door. Once he is calm, give him praise and reinforce that he is to stay seated. Allow your guests to go to the dog for introductions rather than allowing the dog to go to them.

    Begging - Chances are at some time during your guests' visit you will be serving food. If you periodically share your dinner or snacks with your pets, they will probably feel free to beg from your guests as well. This can make your guests uncomfortable, even if they have pets of their own. Try adjusting your pets' meal time to coincide with when you are eating. If you're having appetizers or snacks away from a dining table, be sure the pets are not allowed to get up on the sofa or chair with your guests while they are eating.

    Nipping - Dogs nip for a variety of reasons. Sometimes it's out of fear, sometimes it's to be protective, and sometimes they may just do it for fun. Regardless of why they are doing it, however, it should never be allowed with your guests. If your pet does it as a game and is just looking for attention, offer a toy instead.

    Personal Contact - If you're like me, your pets are all over you, all the time. They sit on your lap while you're watching television, lurk underfoot while you're cooking and snuggle up next to you while you're sleeping. Sometimes it's difficult to imagine a person who does not appreciate all that love. There are, however, tons of people who want nothing to do with a dog or cat, no matter how lovable they are. Coach your guests on how to deliver a firm "No" to your pet if they start getting too cozy. Being disciplined by a stranger sometimes works better than it does from Mom!

    Grooming - Both dogs and cats groom themselves, but let's face it - sometimes it's embarrassing when we have people over. Our pets don't share our sense of decorum, so it may be necessary to intervene. If your pet starts attending to personal hygiene, call him over for a quick scratch behind the ears. Hopefully that will distract him enough that he forgets what he was doing. If not, remove him from the room immediately and avoid the awkwardness that is likely to follow if you don't.

    Regardless of the behavior, keep in mind that your guests are there for you - not your pets. Allowing them to monopolize your attention when you have company is rude and disrespectful. Try the tips offered here first, but if they don't work, remove your pet from the room and get back to enjoying your visit.

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    45 comments

    • Robin J. Sky  •  3 months ago
      Really, if you would just be responsible enough to teach your dog good behavior and socialize them properly, this wouldn't be a problem. I have two labs, and while the younger puppy is still learning, her older "brother" is as well-mannered as they come, as we've been often told.
    • Ivan  •  Newark, New Jersey  •  3 months ago
      i have 2 OLD CATS, when people visit I ask them do they like cats. If they do I let them know that the cats love attention. If they are still OK with them I let my "Kittens" stay, however if MY company is uncomfortable then TuTu and Mr Gray will be put in the bedroom until MY guest leave....
    • Tom  •  Ocala, Florida  •  3 months ago
      SEE ! dog people are in a whole different universe! fact Jack
    • Dianne  •  3 months ago
      um y not just put them outside or in another room?
      • Wise One 3 months ago
        Because they live their and the guest don't. If they don't like it, don't come over.
      • Chris 3 months ago
        The animals, or the guests? Seriously, unless they're really, REALLY badly behaved (like growling at visitors) why would I force my animal into another space? I don't see an issue with having a pet around with guests, and if a guest does... they know I have pets. Either they'll enjoy my company enough to get over it, or they can go somewhere else.
    • Tom  •  Ocala, Florida  •  3 months ago
      dog people are in a whole different universe,dogs are not the problem,its like spoiled kids,they are not the problem,the problem is the owners or parents!!
    • G  •  Springfield, Virginia  •  3 months ago
      why would you suggest for the person to approach a dog that he does not know....never heard of that one. where's cesar?!?!?!?
    • Poony  •  3 months ago
      Thankfully, I suffer from none of these. My cat is fine until the doorbell rings, then hits the high road. If you are a complete stranger, all you will see is a tail streaking up the stairs. If she somewhat knows you, she will come over for a rub and then go. She does not jump on the table, meow at people she doesn't know very well, or hop onto their lap.
      • Emolexus 3 months ago
        My cats do the same thing. They hear people and run off. Sometimes they'll stroll past the guests and then run off again. I just wish dogs could be more like that sometimes.
    • New England Babe  •  Framingham, Massachusetts  •  3 months ago
      I have an almost 3 yr old male Alaskan Malamute and his little sister just turned a yr old. They weigh just under 300 pounds combined. They are well behaved and no matter who walks in the door they want to be greeted like everyone else. They sniff and say hi and then go lay down. I keep them well groomed and my home clean. It is daily cleaning with Mals but it is worth it to me. They are wonderful additions to our family.

      If you don't like dogs don't come over. I wouldn't lock one of my children in a separate room or cage when you visit and have no intention of locking my dogs away because someone doesn't like dogs.

      My best friend was terrified of dogs and especially mine because they don't bark, they just look at you and occasionally talk. Finally I made her have them sit an a few other commands and once she got over the shock that she could control such large beasts with simple kind words she is now in love with my dogs. Then again my dogs don't bark, jump or nip at people.

      Truth be told if you don't like dogs I don't care. My home and in my home all living things are treated with respect.
      • LibertyLover 3 months ago
        Did you put your children in cribs? Locking them up is a phrase used to illicit outrage by "animals rights" freaks. Seems you might be one of them.
      • E. 3 months ago
        I don't know, I might be inclined to 'lock' my children away occassionally..but not my Puppy for sure
      • Laurel 3 months ago
        Putting a baby in a crib and keeping a dog in a separate room are two different things. The baby isn't put in the crib because the guests don't like the baby...the baby is put there to have a nap. Also, the baby isn't forced to stay in the crib. Once he or she is ready to get out and mingle again, he or she is allowed to. Not the case with the dog. I don't even really know what your point with that one was, LibertyLover. As for New England Babe: I had a similar situation. One of my best friends is afraid of dogs and she came over and was terrified of my dog. I don't blame her since I have an 80 lb Doberman and they look intimidating. Which of course the stereotype that they are evil, man-eating monsters still exist but that's for another time... Anyhow, that's why I kept her (the dog, not my friend of course... :P) in the crate while everyone settled in and then let her out to sniff and say hi. Once she got over the fact that my dog was not going to instantly attack and devour her, she was ok with her for the rest of the weekend. I think common courtesy is necessary but my house is my house. Like you mentioned...I actually don't like kids, particularly toddlers but when I go to someone's house I will play with their kids and interact with them and I would never expect someone to put their kids in their bedroom simply because I didn't like them. It's THEIR house, not mine...I'm a visitor and it was my choice to visit and I could easily choose to not visit again. The problem is that some people simply are not capable of understanding how an animal could be a part of the family.
    • KristaY  •  3 months ago
      I love my pets, but I recognize not everyone will. If I have company coming over, the yappy insecure one goes into her crate in a quiet room away from people. Better for them, better for her. The overly excitable one gets her diaper put on.... no one loves a dog who pees on them even if she is only 4 pounds. The laid back everyone's-buddy gets to stay out. He visits with the guests, then goes to sleep in his bed long before he becomes annoying. And the hairy beast? He goes to his room or outside. Bad enough all of my clothes are covered in long white hair. My guests shouldn't have to suffer along with me!

      People who act like anyone who doesn't want to be peed/shed on, leg humped, licked, jumped on, or otherwise interacted with need to quit being so selfish and rude. It won't kill your dog to go outside for a few hours. He's a DOG! He'll find plenty to entertain himself with!
    • Sandra L.D  •  Denver, Colorado  •  3 months ago
      We have two Amazon parrots. Anyone who comes to visit understands that there might be noise, and there might be mess including drifting feather bits, and if you get close enough to them or their cages, they may bite. Our birdie "kids" live here, as guests do not. (And this is coming from someone who has taken in homeless acquaintances twice, once for nine months and once for over four, as well as having a van-load of out-of-state company on a regular, annual basis.) I am not favorably impressed with the tone of this piece. (We have taken also taken our birds all over the country and they are VERY well behaved for what they are, and we have gotten a stack of compliments a mile high about them.)
    • Sonia S  •  3 months ago
      How about when people take their pets to OTHER people's houses.......lets talk about THAT!!!!
      • allears 3 months ago
        I had a visitor who put her Pekingese on my kitchen table and sweetly asked me if it was OK. Can you imagine? I wanted to throw the table out.
      • heidi 3 months ago
        agreed, we had Thanksgiving dinner at our home this past Nov..and the inlaws brought their 2 dogs who growled and barked at everything and everyone all the time..that weekend I spent hours cleaning dog urine out of my couch and repairing the furniture that they had chewed on. I now wish I had given the mother in law dog obedience lessons for christmas!
      • Mary Ann 3 months ago
        I love dogs. But even I put my foot down at Christmas dinner.The guest list was 7 adults,11 children, 2 dogs...one a bouncing Boston Terrier (15 lbs) and the other a mammoth Bernese Mountain dog (120 lbs.) When my other daughter asked to
        bring her 35 lb. mixed breed, I said no. I told the family to work it out, but two
        dogs in an apartment with 18 people was all I could take.
    • Jazz  •  3 months ago
      Yep..dogs and cats do groom themselves and often. Someone just tried to tell me their dog's mouth was cleaner than a human's. Mos humans don't clean their body with their tongue. So everytime this genius kisses his dog in the mouth...which most dog lovers do...you are kissing his bottom. The fact that most have no issue with that speaks volumes.
      • Amy 3 months ago
        Yeah. It's amazing in these days of obsessive hand sanitizer use that people still let their logs lick their face. I love my dogs but I don't let them lick my face. Although, everyone in a while the older one creeps up on me while I'm tying a shoe or something and thinks it's a good idea to tongue me in the eye or something, but it's not a generally allowed practice at our house.
      • Yes I AM Republican 3 months ago
        So Jazz and Amy - ever had oral sex?
    • KODIAK57  •  Ithaca, New York  •  3 months ago
      When company comes, the dogs go out to their yard and heated room area! Simple.
    • Nancy  •  Cincinnati, Ohio  •  3 months ago
      No one would ever make it into my house, if they had to wait for my Westie to sit. She's very excited when guests come and my friends and family know she'll be happy to see them. She just can't contain herself when the door bell rings. Must be another way....it's rude to keep people standing at the door.
    • Krackerjack  •  Houston, Texas  •  3 months ago
      If people come over to my house they will have to deal with my pets. It isn't the visitors home, it is my dogs home, so if they don't want to deal with my dog, they can stay at home.
    • rudy  •  Dallas, Texas  •  3 months ago
      What I'd like to read is an article about "House Guests and THEIR Animals". I like animals but don't want one for myself. I let it be known that I don't have animals because I don't want animals and I don't want animals in my house and yet people show up for an extended stay and bring their animals! Sometimes I handle it well and sometimes I don't. Maybe I should write to "Miss Manners".
    • then some  •  3 months ago
      If you know someone well enough to invite them into your home, chances are they know you have pets and this is their home. They do not have a choice, you brought them here.
    • LibertyLover  •  3 months ago
      It's never adorable. Put your pets in crates or don't invite people over whom you care anything about. My gawd whatever happened to manners? I'd be appalled if my pet jumped on, licked, or soiled a guests clothing.
    • Mrs. X  •  3 months ago
      OMG, this is what a crate is for.
    • wordplay2  •  3 months ago
      Yuck, I'm glad I don't have such up-tight friends!

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