You and your guy are starting to get serious and he tells you to go ahead and leave a few things at his place. While that's wonderful news, it doesn't mean bringing over half your closet and bathroom. It's still his place and you want to make sure it doesn't seem as if you're taking over his space or staking your claim. While it's a great idea to leave a few items for convenience purposes, there's some that you're better off keeping in your purse and out of his home.
Feminine hygiene products
A guy friend once told me that his former girlfriend used to leave unused, wrapped tampons all around his place, presumably as a way to "stake her claim." He found one under the sink, in his pants draw and under the bed. He wasn't very happy about this, especially when his guy friends used to joke that they were his. I full believe every woman should carry feminine hygiene products in her purse anyway, so instead of leaving them at his place, keep some in your purse or overnight bag.
Granny panties
For the love of pretty lingerie everywhere, please leave the granny panties at home. I've been in long-term relationships with guys who didn't even know whether or not I owned a pair. Nothing good ever came from a pair of granny panties. If you leave underwear at his house, make sure they're sexy but comfortable.
Hair removal products
Many men prefer to have the illusion that women are naturally hairless for the exception of what's on their head. They don't want to see your razors, tweezers, wax strips and any other hair removal products all over the place, especially not in their bathroom. Deep down, he obviously knows you use them, but just let him pretend that you don't.
Personal care products
Shampoos, conditioners, perfumes and any other lotions and potions should be left in your overnight bag. It's tempting to leave them at your guy's house so you don't have to lug them around with you, but buy travel sizes so it's easier and just keep refilling them with your favorite products. To guys, it's all just clutter on the counter.
Dirty laundry
Asking him to wash an item or two with his laundry is one thing, but it's another if you make a habit of it or throw in several outfits. A lot of guys get annoyed when they keep finding random pieces of their girlfriend's clothing in with their wash. They start to get the impression that their girl is taking advantage and treating him like he's a maid rather than a boyfriend.
The only items you should leave at his place are a toothbrush, deodorant and a pair of underwear. If you wear contacts, a spare pair wouldn't hurt either just in case. Put the items in a small pouch and leave it under the sink or in a drawer where you have easy access to it but it's not in his way. Although you may see such few items as an indication that the two of you aren't that serious, that's not necessarily the case, it's just not leaving a bunch of your stuff around until the two of you are officially living together. Practically living together doesn't count either. He'll appreciate you having respect for his home and his things probably more than he'll even let on.
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