Unfortunately, not every relationship will be meant for success, but both parties in the relationship may not come to terms with this reality at the same time. There are ways to move out of a relationship and keep the friendship, but those are often in mutual break-up situations. When times are desperate and you need to end a relationship without the hassles of long term ties and problems, the best way to do so is to make the other person in the relationship feel the same way you feel. I've left more than my fair share of boys behind and I've used these tactics nearly every time.
Take Note of the Troubles
Inevitably, if there are troubles in a relationship there are bound to be fights. it's during these fights that you need to take note of the things that make your partner the most mad and uncomfortable. These will be the key elements to breaking off the relationship later on. Over time, your list will grow long and once you find the list to be sufficient enough to move on, take the break up to the next level.
Using The List of Troubles
Once you're ready to move to phase two of the break up plan, you'll begin using the list of troubles as a starting point for all arguments. Slowly but surely, add more and more of the worst argument topics within one argument. What you're trying to do is anger the other party so much that they begin to feel the same way about the relationship that you're feeling, without telling them that you wish to end the relationship. you're placing the break up ball in their court.
Kicking the Tactics Up a Notch
After the arguments become infuriating, it's time to take away all of the things your partner loves about you. There are certain things in every relationship that make things just click. Maybe your partner loves the way you sing or the songs you listen to. Maybe they love the books you read or how you cook the best fried chicken. No matter the loves in the relationship, take them all away. Stop singing, listen to music they hate and cook the most horrible meals on earth. This will surely hit them hard in the love gut and make them want to end the relationship all the more.
The final step to the break up will be disregarding the fact that you have a partner at all. Plan dates with friends and forget to tell your partner. Go out to dinner with family and don't invite them along. Basically, you're telling your partner, in a subtle way, that they are no longer a part of your life.
Repeat the Steps
Even though the break up may be closer to a realization than ever before, do not lose your focus. The most important part of the entire process is to keep up the charade for as long as it takes. Eventually, the relationship will be over and you'll be able to move along to the next phase of your life alone, just the way you wanted it to be. Make sure, however, to plan ahead if you're living with your partner by finding a place to live once the relationship ends.
Breaking up is never an easy task. For those that want to break off a relationship with someone who is a bit too clingy, the key is to convince them that they no longer want to be in a relationship with you. These steps will move along the end of the relationship with ease and you'll be free once more.
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