Traditionally, "bombshell" was a term reserved for only the most sexy and captivating among us. These were the legendary bombshells; women who oozed sexual energy and knew the power of seduction. Women like Marilyn Monroe , Pam Grier and Sophia Loren would definitely fall into this category. And then there are the contemporary bombshells like Halle Berry , Salma Hayek, Heidi Klum and Sofia Vergara. A bombshell can also refer to shocking news or an unexpected event, as in the politician dropped a political bombshell when he revealed his unqualified running mate.
All of these bombshells are certainly worthy but the time has come for a new movement. It is time to be your own bombshell. This is the moment to claim your power and own it.
Many of the traditional bombshells gave off the aura of being in charge but were deep down quite insecure. We are starting a movement here. You are in Bombshell Academy and there are several absolute bombshell beliefs.
For our purposes, being a bombshell is not about being a sex symbol. It's not about being a symbol of anything or anyone except for the splendor and powerful beauty that is yours inherently. The new definition of being your own bombshell that I am putting forward is of a woman in charge of herself, in love with herself and living her best life. A true bombshell is a nonconformist. It is not about blending in. It's not about being better than anyone else -- only about being better than you used to be.
My Top 5 Bombshell Beliefs
1. "No One Can Make You Feel Inferior."
Now I know what you're thinking. People always make me feel bad. My boyfriend makes me so angry. It makes me feel horrible when my boss says those things. Stop it!
No one can make you feel good or bad. People are living their lives and you are reacting. How you choose to feel is up to you and you alone. Do not choose to feel inferior .
2. "What You Think of Me Is None Of My Business."
Your best friends have an opinion of you and so do your enemies. Your family has all kinds of thoughts and ideas about what you should be doing. Even the lady on the train has concerns about your skirt. Who cares?
What they think of you is none of your business . Your opinion of yourself is most important. The best way is to live my the golden rule. Treat others the way you'd like to be treated but don't get caught up in their opinions of you.
3. "You Have a Right to be Picky."
I was once nicknamed " Miss Picky " on a VH1 reality show. They meant this as an insult. I took it as a compliment.
We each deserve to be selective in all matters of life and love. You have a right to make the best choices for you. I don't see women being too picky. I see women not being picky enough. Take it from your Head Bombshell in Charge.
4. "Speak Up and Speak Out."
We all have a voice; some of us just haven't found it yet. If you see injustice taking place and you stand silently by then you are just as guilty as the perpetrators. Stand up, speak out and be counted. My upcoming love and lifestyle guide, "The Official Bombshell Handbook" says that this is your duty and your bombshell responsibility. Own this principle and run with it.
5. "Know How to Please Yourself."
Extreme self-care is a key to your self-esteem. Knowing how to pleasure yourself inside the bedroom and in the living room is central to a woman who owns her own power. Get to know and love your body. If you don't know how to make yourself feel good, how will someone else? Pleasure is important.
We've only just begun. You haven't graduated from Bombshell Academy yet, but you at least get a starting line certificate. Be strong, steadfast and committed. This is a movement, a revolution of personal power. Even the strongest women need allies so be sure to send this to the women you know. Join us.
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