by Gena Kaufman, Glamour
While the past year brought us some amazing moments in romance, it also brought us some crap we'd rather forget. Here are ten topics we talked about this year that we're kind of hoping we don't have to talk about any more in 2013 (fingers crossed!).
"Nice Guys." We've all encountered these guys (and their offensive reactions to rejection), we've talked about it, and this month something started calling them out on the Internet at Nice Guys of OKC. In 2013, please let guys know that niceness is basic decency, not the sole qualification to get laid, and that a woman who just wants to be friends is not pure evil.
Sex to sell really weird things. We like sex, but we don't need it draped all over an advertisement for a coffin. We never want sex giving us the heebie jeebies so please stop.
Sexuality shame. Remember the man who offered money for a man to marry his lesbian daughter? Or how Cynthia Nixon hesitated to identify herself as a bisexual and felt she had to defend her choice to be in a gay relationship? We're SO over people judging others for their sexual orientation. Just stop.
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Men who just can't control their impulses. Science finally agreed that the whole "spreading their seed" stuff might be hooey, so can we please stop hearing about how we have to let men cheat or fire us if they're attracted to us because they just can't help themselves? If a guy wants to sleep around, go for it, but don't pretend you couldn't possibly make the decision to stop once committed. Grow up, dudes.
50 Shades of Grey. No offense to those who read and liked it, but we're just over talking about it. We're glad it reinvigorated some love lives, but it's just a book that's already had its moment. It doesn't need to be in every hotel room and it's not causing divorces.
Devastating celebrity breakups. Heidi Klum and Seal. Amy Poehler and Will Arnett. We don't trust many celebrity relationships, but when we fall for one, we fall hard. It's just cruel to destroy our belief in love by taking it away! I mean, I'm sure it was hard on them too, but think of us next time, won't they?
Crazy Ex Revenge. People! This one has to stay in your fantasies. Please please, do not assault your guy for bad sex or place a Craigslist ad seeking sex in your ex's name, with her address!
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Lazy or offensive online dating behavior. Not bothering to write a message longer than two words. Using an incorrect name as some kind of weird copy-and-paste disaster/scam. Saying, "I don't know what to write" instead of you know, taking a few minutes to figure out what to write before pressing send. Ugh. A little effort in the New Year, fellas.
Feeling bad about your sexual experience. We've talked with readers who are embarrassed to admit they haven't been kissed, terrified to say they're a virgin, or ashamed to acknowledge they like to have sex. It's not that we don't love talking about your concerns, because we do! But ladies, let's take it easy on ourselves in 2013, OK? All of those things are fine, and it's time to accept we don't all have to do them at the same time in our lives or with the same amount of people.
The Slut Controversy. One of my least favorite things that happened all year. Much like I don't want us to feel bad about our own sexual experiences, I definitely don't want other people trying to make us feel that way either. Seriously, I don't want to hear Rush Limbaugh or any other hothead call a woman names for wanting access to birth control, no matter what your politics.
And just as a little added bonus, want to know the one topic I should be over but I'm not? Dating tips from Ryan Lochte, ha! With no Olympics in 2013, we'll be missing out on hearing his mom's opinion of his one-night stands and with 30 Rock ending we won't get a reappearance of his Sex Idiot. Boo! That stuff cracked me up all year.
Did you hate some of these too? What other topics are you so over hearing about these days? What do you want to hear more or less of in 2013? We want to know!
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by Gena Kaufman, Glamour