10 Things Guys Include On Their Online Dating Profiles...But Shouldn't

So I should lie about wanting kids and then disappoint her when? 6 months later?

10 things girls shouldn't put in their profiles
1. The Interests

Everybody likes music, and art, and traveling, and the outdoors, and sunshine, and having fun. These are not things that give any insight as to who you are as an individual. I wouldn’t even really describe them as interests but more just standard features that come with any human being. It’d be like shopping for a used car and coming across an ad that says “Great vehicle, runs on gasoline, tires are round, has matter and density.” I still don’t know the make, model, year, milage, accident history, horse power etc. If anything I view the vaugness as a trap into buying a lemon.

2. I’m shy but I’m not shy

A lot of girls can’t decide on what they are. “I’m shy but I can also be very outgoing.” “I’m just a jeans and t-shirt kinda girl that loves to get dressed up and go out too.” “I’m a realist but I have a bit of a hopeless romantic side. . .” When filling out your “about me” section you should use a “Which of the following best describes me?” approach. Like an SAT question, choose the letter that best answers the problem, don’t fill in every bubble.

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The no children answer should be honest. If you don't want kids, don't say that you do.

I agree w/nc about posting yourself as "divorced" when you are only seperated. (My stbx posted himself as "divorced" the day after he walked out on me on an online profile). If you can't wait until you're legally divorced to start hooking up, then you're just insecure... we all know that breakups take time to get over, and if you got "over it" so fast then we wonder how easily you will change your mind w/us???

I have also browsed a few of the doosies (although, I would never actually use these sites to meet people) and I'd add a few items:

Don't take pics of yourself driving in your car (how childish and unprepared is that?), especially if you have dark sunglasses and baseball hat on-- how are we supposed to know what you look like? Same thing with using your cell phone to take your pic in a bathroom mirror-- ugh!

Don't post pics of yourself holding drinks in your hand in a bar, especially with sleezy women in the background... we can tell it didn't work out for you there, so why do you think WE would be interested?

Don't show how "adventurous" you are by posting pics of you climbing rocks, or skydiving, or hiking on Mt. Everest-- nothing is more intimidating than a guy we can't keep up with who's always looking for the "next thrill."

Don't pretend to be something you're not (the truth comes out eventually, and when it does, we will see you can't be honest and wasted our time).

My stbx has a profile up on a dating site that claims he "loves watching a chick flick drinking a bottle of wine"-- hmmm, I guess if you think Dumb and Dumber is a tear jerker, and he hates wine with a passion... listed himself as active in "baseball, basketball, racket sports-- you'd think he's some athlete, when he paid for gym membership and hardly ever went, and didn't even have time to play ball with his own son while he was married. He also comments that he "needs an honest woman, and he has no time for games" when he was seeing other women behind my back, and left me for a woman he is now living with. Irony.

Everyone's entitled to their own opinion, and this article is her opinion. Some agree and some don't. I found it highly entertaining and laughed out loud. I am on a dating site, and I too, will disregard someone who says "i don't want kids" because I look at it like this: I have a kid and he is a package deal, not baggage I bring. One that was left out that I filter out is that I clearly have an age limit to the man I want to date yet males 10 years OVER that bracket STILL contact me. I do wonder if the guys even READ the profile or just skim through pictures and if she's cute, he sends a wink....(rolling my eyes)...

Not wanting kids does NOT equal hating children. If you know for certain that you don't want kids, you should be honest about that fact.

Marry Foreign Women: Just like when you see a picture of a bare chested woman you don't know, when I see a picture of a bare chested man, I may think he is an attractive object I would use for sex, but I also assume he is shallow, vain, insecure and that he doesn't have much to offer past being a piece of meat. In other words, his bare chested shot has just told me that he's not dating material and since I am not into casual sex, he's worthless to me except as a nice fantasy dream where he doesn't ever open his mouth to talk.

One more thing: I still read books. Everyone I know still reads. So, stop the crap about no one reads.

Wow! You sound a little bitter. I personally think a guy looks great in a suit and to believe he's never been to a wedding before is just ridiculous. Almost as ridiculous as you stating "Also you're drunk" because he has a picture of himself in a tux.

Just for the record, I used to always mark "don't want kids" and yes, I don't like kids. Never have, never will.

Wow, what a load of terrible advice in the article, and what a bunch of sad? desperate? misguided? women agreeing with it!

Here's the thing, most of the things mentioned on the list (posting pictures showing their good bod, their abundant friends and frequent parties, not wanting children, describing themselves as laid back and not wanting anything serious, listing "cool" popular movies, books & TV shows that they like, and making a "charming" wink, wink comment about how they're humbled to have a profile on the dating site) paint a clear picture. A man who does all these things is A MAN WHO IS LOOKING TO HOOK UP WITH AN EASY WOMAN AND HAVE SOME FUN. He's NOT a man looking for a serious relationship leading to marriage and family. And if you're a woman looking for a man who wants a serious relationship leading to marriage and family -- this guy is NOT FOR YOU! Guess what, sweetie, if he really values all those things and really just wants a casual good time, lying about it on his profile isn't going to make a lasting relationship with you happen. It's just going to make you fall for an illusion and become a pathetic stalker driving all your friends crazy with your obsession with him and constant crying about not understanding why he won't commit. No matter how much you may value yourself, nothing about you is going to make him ready for a serious relationship if that's not what he wanted in the first place. And if you're too stubborn to pass on by the "hot" guy with the profile that's obviously designed for one night stands and look to the average guy (and let's face it -- you're just as average yourself) looking for a serious relationship who has a lot in common with you; then you deserve to continue to fail in your quest for Mr. Right. And that's exactly what will happen. Encouraging men to be dishonest in their profiles is not helping anyone.

Sorry if I sound a bit harsh, but I think what I said is a truth that far too many women (and the same goes for men in reverse -- you all know the difference between a party girl who's just going to cheat on you and a real girl who could be your ideal girlfriend, yet many of you average guys make the same mistake these average girls do) need to finally realize. And I do have a bitterness about it because I have too many friends who are doing the same thing and chasing after these guys who don't want relationships and crying to me about it. And those same friends just can't believe that I met my husband online and we're actually happy together -- no matter how many times I tell them that the *reason* we're happy together is because neither of us LIED on our profiles. We genuinely have the same major beliefs and life plans in sync and enjoy being with each other. Shocking!

i only disagree with number 6. i have kids and might want more. i would rather know immediately if a man doesnt want kids so i can walk on by.

"First. "Fight Club" and "The Hangover" are "Twilight" for men."

I sort of agree. I lot of really dumb guys love Fight Club, but on a very superficial level, which is kind of unfortunate because Fight Club really *is* a very good film. Most of the women I've known who disliked Fight Club never actually saw it. They thought it was just about guys beating each other up since they only saw the commercials. lol. Fortunately, plenty of intelligent women appreciate it.

But Twilight... Twilight is hysterical! Guys don't know what they're missing by avoiding those movies. They're a riot. Especially if you watch them with the Rifftrax commentaries (from the Mystery Science Theater 3000 guys).

(Considering the amount of undeleted spam in these threads, I don't feel bad about going off topic here)

My ex used to b---- constantly about me reading two newspapers every day, and maybe one or two books a week. So I like to read and be informed and entertained, nothing wrong with that, is there? Guess that's one good reason she's my EX. She went off to find herself, and after 20 years she's apparently still looking. But I got three great kids out of the deal. So if I ever advertise for a date I will be sure to say I like to read and am not looking for more kids, as much as I like them.

#6 - No Children, Should be an honest answer.
If a guy doesn't want children for whatever reason he should not pretend it's something he's open to just because it will lead to more responses.

#7 "I'm not looking for anything serious, just seeing what's out there and having fun." is also about being HONEST.
If a girl is looking to "settle down" , have a serious Long-Term Relationship or is on a mission to get married then she can skip his profile. At least he's not one of these guys just saying what he thinks women want hear. Besides most (serious relationships) begin as "casual" and evolve along the way.

Never discourage honesty especially online.

Oh....is it OK for me to like what I like and want what I want, or do I need a woman's approval? Please let me know, so I can live my life in peace. Wouldn't want to upset anyone.

And if you don't like what I like, my suggestion is to kiss my @$$. I'm better off without you and your infantile attempts at wit and sarcasm.

BTW, the type of woman who wrote this tripe is clearly dumb as a post, so is also in NO position to judge a single soul.

What is the problem with guys who don't want kids? For me, a guy who wants kids is a massive turnoff because I want to be his priority, not someone else. Besides what is the problem with people choosing to live a different kind of lifestyle from the 2.5 kids, house in the suburbs, two car family?

How about not adding "wants to travel to country A-Z" when you really only want to go to, say, only two countries. Or how about not saying you want a particular type of woman when that particular type is right in front of you. Or saying you are doing one thing as a profession when you clearly are not.

Also come with a disclaimer that says "If I deem necessary, I will disappear on you even though I lead you on to believe that there's still something there even though I have one foot out the door"

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Funny. :)

Marry Foreign Women: If a woman posts a bare chest picture it is considered posting private body parts... I can tell if a guy has a good physique through a regular, clothed picture. A self portrait style, bare chest picture screams vanity, too much time spent at the gym, over compensating, insecure.