Valentine's Day may be the holiday of love, lingerie and gettin' it on, but why wait till then? If you're in the mood for some red-hot action right now, get the message across instantly with tips from Claire Cavanah and Rachel Venning, co-founders of the sex toy store Babeland and authors of Moregasm: Babeland's Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex.
Give him a sneak peek.Lingerie? A schoolgirl outfit? Sure, it's been done, but there's a reason: It works. "Ask him to shop for a fantasy item he wants you to wear," suggests Cavanah. Then, to really knock his socks off, "Surprise him by having it on when he least expects it." Pull up your skirt a few inches to reveal a garter and stockings while you're sitting together at a restaurant. Pack that French-maid outfit with you when you stop by to help him "clean up" after his big party. He'll take notice. And action.
Write dirty.If you simply can't bring yourself to try talking dirty, let your fingers do the talking instead. "Write a suggestive note on the steam on the mirror after your shower," says Venning. "The fact that it's there for a only moment and then gone will make the idea all the more tantalizing."
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Let your eye wander."Flirt with another man in front of him," says Cavanah. "Better yet, flirt with another woman." Seeing you act sexual-not to mention seeing others respond favorably to you-will pique his interest and stimulate his natural instinct to have you all to himself. Just be sure to keep the flirting within reason, like a waiter or host at a restaurant-not your ex-boyfriend at a party!
Play the part of the beautiful stranger.Remember that gorgeous woman he stared at on the street or the actress in that movie he couldn't stop talking about? Don't be jealous-be inspired! Use her as inspiration for a makeover and show up to your guy's house like you're that same intriguing, tempting stranger, suggests Cavanah. Act confident and playful and, most important, "dress in a way that you normally don't," she adds. Translation: Swap your skinny jeans for something that shows a little leg, wear some new makeup shades, take down your ponytail and reintroduce him to your favorite high heels.
Tell him what you want-now.One of the best ways to turn a man on is the simplest: "Tell him how good he is," says Cavanah. Think of something he excels at between the sheets, and as you lean in to kiss him, whisper, "I love the way you _____ my ______." Chances are, he won't wait long to prove you right.
Play the naughty version of "I Never.""There's nothing like a conversation about your sexual 'bucket lists' to turn his mind to sex," suggests Venning. "You can start with "I've always wanted to…" or "I've never…" As long as you finish the conversation in the bedroom, consider it a success.
Pre-party with yourself."If you get turned on (or even orgasm) before your date, the signs of arousal, like full lips, pink cheeks and the pheromones women emit when turned on will all work on him in primal ways," says Venning. So go ahead and spend some "me time" before you see him. Oh, and don't be afraid to tell him all about it.
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Give him the remote.You know men love to control the TV remote, so why not mix it up and "slip him the wireless remote that controls the vibrating panties you're wearing," suggests Cavanah. If you're on the timid side, let him play around with it at home. If you're on the wild side, let him turn you on from across a crowded room at a party or during dinner at a restaurant.
Come on strong.If your man doesn't initiate often, take charge and see if he enjoys your being dominant. Next time he's sitting on the couch, walk over to him and place your palms against his shoulders as you straddle him, then lean in, kiss his neck and tell him what you want to do to him, says Venning.
Give him a toy.If your guy loves when you break out your vibrator, why not get him a toy of his own? After all, "Nothing says I want to have sex with you like a sex toy!" says Venning. A simple vibrating ring is always a safe bet and one that'll feel good for both of you. Explain to him how it works, and watch his eyes light up.
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