11 Reasons Guys Are Afraid To Commit

Hey committment is hard for me and I can totally understand this post.

I think women also afraid of commitments. Like myself, my commitments are more on my work, my loving parents, my mangas and animes (yeah I don’t mind others are calling me otaku). Few men did ask to be my partner, and I refused because I was afraid I won’t be able to give the best in relationship. And I love being single and yeah I read your post because I need to know the psychological problem in relationship before being a good physician.

Has anyone brought up that he's not stupid?

Maybe he is just smart enough to "Not Commit"! other than religious convictions marriage serves no practical purpose in today's world and the least beneficial to men!

Wow

Men don't want to commit because after two years woman start taking a shit with the bathroom door open...Hey can you hand me a napkin! are you freakin serious sounds like your bobbin for apples in there..ouch!

The real reason guys don't want to commit is because more than one pussy is always better than just one thats why all this other stuff is crap its just the fact that more is always better

that chick in the headline page has a nice rack!! talk about keeping the cow...

To N, when you get married your POST-marital assets are considered community property. Your PRE-marital assets are yours even if you don't sign a pre-nup, at least that is the way it has been in several divorces that I know of.

Unless you're a nimwit I don't know why you would marry a woman at the age of 28 who wasn't working. Ergo if she was working then that "half of your life savings" thing that you are talking about is partly hers.

Also, a woman normally only gets "rehabilitative" alimony these days, meaning she only gets alimony until kids are old enough to go to school and she can get back on her feet with a job. And if there are no kids and she never stopped working, then guess what dude, ka-ching for you, your off the hook with alimony, although you're still on the hook for child support if there are kids.

It cracks me up the way that men think that all of the material possessions, investments, savings and money in a marriage belong to them regardless of the contributions of their spouse.

or maybe ur just a pain in the x and he is afraid u'll make his life a living hell!

CR wrote," To N, when you get married your POST-marital assets are considered community property. Your PRE-marital assets are yours even if you don't sign a pre-nup, at least that is the way it has been in several divorces that I know of."

This is usually only true if there are enough assets, that when divided, will leave the "mother" financially solvent. If it appears that the man won't be able to provide sufficient income for child support the judge can seize those assets even in a no fault state.

" Unless you're a nimwit I don't know why you would marry a woman at the age of 28 who wasn't working. Ergo if she was working then that "half of your life savings" thing that you are talking about is partly hers."

Marrying a woman who works is one thing. Marrying a woman who continues to work is quite another. Wife has a kid and quits her job for a month or two to take care of baby. Ten years later she's still at home with kids and decides she can get the same deal without setting a place for hubby at dinner.

" Also, a woman normally only gets "rehabilitative" alimony these days, meaning she only gets alimony until kids are old enough to go to school and she can get back on her feet with a job. And if there are no kids and she never stopped working, then guess what dude, ka-ching for you, your off the hook with alimony, although you're still on the hook for child support if there are kids."

Not true. Depending on the state alimony can be for life depending on duration of marriage and age at time of divorce. Then there is also maintenance and child support. In our country child support is set artificially high so to make it a de facto alimony.

" It cracks me up the way that men think that all of the material possessions, investments, savings and money in a marriage belong to them regardless of the contributions of their spouse."

All? No. But if he's the only one working and she stays home and watches TV and does a little cleaning then certainly she's not entitled to half. And I say half but in truth once the lawyers get through she will get about 50%, he will get 30% and the lawyers will get 20% or more.

But the real pay out is in child support. At only 6k a year a man will pay out almost 120k before the child turns 18. And if the child wants to go to college he can be made to not only pay for that college but also continue to support the child up to his early 20's.

And of course , the area where women have the same problem, is not on here
i am a guy, commitment is no probelm for the woman who was now my wife,
but the fact is if we do not have the warm fuzzys, we are immature, if you the woman dosent not want to commit, it is fine. Men have to foot the bill the rest of there life. if you women leave we are still screwed in court, if you cheat and have a kid, you can play the DNA thing you still might win
if you want to take Half, you can , you want to take the house you can, women have ruined dating
in this point, i commited, but when you know it is right, it is right, most men want the perfect
woman, i did not , i chose and she chose me out of the same journey in life, we lucked out
God blessed we are one, half the crap on here is like a gosip page for the sick loosers in america
and yes i was sucker enough to get involed this time, but.........commitment is a 2 way street as love is, later peace out.

i wish, i would have never committed, i wish my parent's would have warn me like i warn my kids but.

Awesome typo, Theresa. Fix it while you still can ;).

its good advice to know from a guy's point of view and some of the poins are the same for girls also.

For me it's fear of divorce. In court men have to pay. I have seen many end up in the poor house and living in a efficiency apartment while the wife gets the house till the kids are 18. When this stuff changes than we'll see.

I was in a relationship on and off for 6 yrs. The man is 63 now. We are no longer together. He's got severe mental problems......certifiable (he spent some time a couple of decades ago in a mental hosp). He was very much attached to his comfort zone, his routines, his close friends but those were separated from me. I was always on the outside. Finally I broke it off permanently when his drinking took over and he couldn't be with me unless he drank. Good riddance.

Here's a caption:
woman: what? what's the problem? why don't you wanna marry me?!
Guy: Jesus Christ, you are stressin' me out man!

I think it takes two people to commit to a relationship. My BF and I are working on this right now. Everything else is so good between us, except for our lack of commitment issues. I love him I really do, and he loves me but once we try to take it to the next step it gets so complicated. He would give anything if I would leave everything and move in with him, but I can't do that it's terrifying to think of living without a job. Believe me when I say I am not there yet. But he's financially set, like I told him before that's all yours not mine. I can't expect anything from you. I told him last night that he needs to give me money if I live with him or if he's my man. That is just how it goes in life. If your envolved with someone then they should feel the need to pay for some of your needs of let you go. I want to commit to my man, but I feel like I need to do when we are both ready in every way.

In response to "N"... women DO have alot to lose when they commit. For the past three years I have been supporting a man, both financially and mentally, while he still hasn't decided , for every reason listed in the article above, to commit to a relationship with me. I am emotionally exhausted and I know it is my own stupid fault, thinking that he will any day now put our relationship before his (grown) children and ex-wife. I have lost money, emotional security, and personal happiness and feel I have lost the past three years of my life. So yes, women do have as much to lose as men