Valentine's Day is coming. But if the day finds you contemplating a breakup instead of a brilliant night of romance, listen up. Anyone on the road to divorce knows (or needs to know) there are more pitfalls than you can even wrap your head around. Things are rocky emotionally and, usually, financially. Truth is, money woes can be crushing. Proper planning can make a big difference. Here's important information for all women whose relationships are in trouble:
Each year, nearly 2.8 million men and women go through the emotional and financial trauma of divorce. During divorce, many women are concerned about financial survival-and with good reason. Studies show that in the first year after divorce, the wife's standard of living may drop almost 27 percent while the husband's may increase by as much as 10 percent.
Many factors combine to lower women's standard of living after divorce. Child support may not be adequate to cover the true costs of child rearing, and she might have lost many important years of career growth, making it difficult for her to get back on her feet after divorce.
Advance planning goes a long way. By familiarizing yourself with the twelve financial pitfalls of divorce, you can save yourself a lot of heartbreak-and hassle-in the future.
1. Not enough cash. Expenses will begin to mushroom as soon as the divorce process starts. Legal fees, court costs, therapist bills, new living expenses, and myriad other costs will drain your financial resources. Money previously used to support one household must now stretch to support two. If you are contemplating divorce, now is the time to begin amassing the funds you'll need to stay afloat.
2. Too little preparation. Divorce is a long, complicated process that requires careful preparation. Before you jump in head first, consult with legal and financial professionals and read books about the subject. Think about the timing of the separation: Is your husband due a bonus or other windfall in the near future? Don't separate until after it arrives, so it will be community property. Think about Social Security: If you've been married nine years, you might want to stick out the last year, so you can collect on your ex's earnings record. Finally, don't just pack your bags, load up the kids, and drive away in a car that needs four new tires. Before you separate, buy the clothes you'll need, perform maintenance on the car, and fix the kids' teeth.
3. No records. The three most important words during divorce are: document, document, document. Try to obtain copies of all financial records before your divorce begins. Make a clear copy of all tax returns, loan applications, wills, trusts, financial statements, banking information, brokerage statements, loan documents, credit card statements, deeds to real property, car registration, insurance inventories, and insurance policies. Also, copy records that you can use to trace your separate property, such as an inheritance or gift from your family. These assets will remain yours as long as you can document them. Copies of your spouse's business records can be a treasure map showing you where the hidden assets are buried.
4. Overlooking assets. Don't overlook any assets-half of everything is yours! Even if you don't want an asset, it can be used to trade for something you do want. Inventory safe deposit boxes; track down bank and brokerage accounts; review pay stubs, retirement plans, and insurance policies. If your spouse's business generates a lot of cash, engage a forensic accountant to look for telltale signs of additional income. Don't overlook hobbies or side businesses that might have expensive equipment or generate income. If you have a PHT degree (Putting Honey Through), you might be entitled to some reimbursement for the cost of his tuition.
5. Ignoring tax consequences. Should you take monthly alimony or a lump sum? Should you take the brokerage account or the retirement plan? Should you keep the house or sell it now? Who should pay the mortgage until it sells? Don't ignore the hidden tax costs of divorce in making these decisions. Your situation may require some calculation by an accountant to determine if you are really getting the best deal. And, if there's a chance that your past joint tax returns omitted income or overstated deductions, you may want to seek an indemnification clause to protect yourself if the IRS decides to audit.
6. Ignorance is bliss. During divorce, ignorance is certainly not bliss-instead, it can be very, very expensive. Don't be a passive observer of your own divorce. Doing as much as you can by yourself will help you recover more quickly from the divorce because you will have a healthy sense of control over the process, be focused on practical things, and be working with your ex to get things done. Also, taking an active role in the negotiations will help you to reach a better settlement than "letting the attorneys handle it." You will have less conflict and litigation after the divorce, better compliance from your ex, and better sharing of information about the children. Your attorney may give you legal advice, but all of the decisions are ultimately up to you.
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