Author Amy Beth O'Brien shares her tips on avoiding Mr. Wrong and finding Mr. Right.
-PJ Gach, BettyConfidential.com
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There always seems to be three types of men: Mr. Right, Mr. Maybe and Mr. Wrong. How many times have you thought you found Mr. Right only to find out that after all that time, he's Mr. Wrong?
Author Amy Beth O'Brien loves movies. She likens dealing with a relationship like watching a movie from the audience's perspective. "Everyone loves the movies," said O'Brien. "We get to lose ourselves in a story and live vicariously through the main character. I encourage women to be the main character in their own life story by stepping into their starring role as leading lady and stop playing extra or best supporting actress to someone else."
Here are three tips that Amy Beth feels can help you not only avoid Mr. Wrong, but also help you take control over your own life.
1. Embrace your inner screenwriter
Every woman has some version of the story they want to live. We can write our script based on fears of what would happen if we made any changes or out of faith that taking control of our lives, and being our most authentic selves, is the best story we could ever write.
2. Listen to your director
While the screenwriter spins the yarn, the director delivers the vision to guide the story. When the players are acting out of character, or the story seems to take a wrong turn, the director guides us to make the best choices to put us back on track. Listening to your director means understanding that our intuition is our best friend and guide.
3. Become the "star" in your life
If we looked at our life as a movie, would we see ourselves as the leading role in our own movie, or an extra or supporting player in the lives of those around us? We all have family and friends we support, and for whom we make sacrifices. How much of our time is spent on those responsibilities and obligations, and how much is dedicated to living the scripts of our own lives? Many of us live with the guilt-ridden thesis that if we spend time on our own goals, we are somehow neglecting others. That's patently false and we need to ensure that we don't spend our lives playing roles in other people's movies, to the extent that we're unable to star in our own.
"Your dreams, values, passions and creativity are meant to be expressed," O'Brien added. "Relationships may challenge us, but they should never turn us into people we are not, suppress our talents, or squelch our dreams and desires. I encourage women to stop acting - to stop conforming to another person's tastes, keeping silent when they have something to say, compromising their spirit, or staying in a bad situation out of fear. Move forward with faith toward the life of your dreams."
To learn more about Amy Beth and to check out her newest book, Stuck with Mr. Wrong, visit her site.
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