4 Reasons Why Twilight Is Bad For Your Love Life

I completely agree. Teenage girls are getting the wrong ideas about men because of books like these (not just Twilight). It's okay to indulge yourself in fantasies once in a while, but to mix it with reality just brings your whole life in a downward spiral.

But I may be biased since I think Twilight is the worst book in the universe. It's just a completely and utter drop from classic books like The Great Gatsby. I fear for the literary world.

Hey, I fell for this stuff when I was a teen. I didn't KNOW this was all unrealistic, and neither did some of my friends. She still kept doing the whole suicide thing all the way into her mid twenties. By then I thought it was so wrong and just so... high school. So hey, it does happen. And it does teach unrealistic expectations if parents or someone who knows better doesn't explain it to you.

No one explained to me the difference between what real boys are like vs. fiction boys. For example, I never thought "too perfect" was a red flag.

hahaha the only character i like is jacob;
edward is drop dead ugly and for some retarted reason bella gets turned on wen he says "ive never wanted to kill anyone as much as i wanna kill u" okay maybe im being a critic but uhh earth to bella this dude wants to kill u and you wanna get all seductive with him (wow bella thats all i gotta say wow)

Agree 100% with you. The Twilight books are horribly written both in terms of plot and grammar/sentence structure. They are definitely leading young girls and some fully grown women (sadly) to believe that they have to be taken care of by a man. Gross.

Sometimes it is perfectly alright to live in a fantasy world. But these teens and the select few older women that I've talked to seem to believe that the world of Twilight is reality, and that a man is going to come and save them from the hodgepodge of everyday life. They are going to be thrust into a world where the perfect man takes care of their every need, and blah, blah, blah...

I reiterate: Gross.

I agree. When first reading it, you get lost in the beauty of true love knowing no bounds, but after you're finished and you take a step back, you realize all the character's flaws. I was always so disappointed that Bella never spoke up more about how she felt, letting a man tell her who she could be friends with and that she couldn't do this or that b/c of her klutziness. It was also completely tiring about how she saw herself. I mean, no one's perfect, but constantly putting yourself down is just sad. What kind of role model is that for any girl?

As an adult, I can separate the fiction from reality, but I'm concerned about the young girls who take it too far. I refused to let my 9 year-old niece read the books b/c I knew she wouldn't be able to understand what the books were saying, and that some of the scenes were too adult for her. Eventually, she got her mother to get her the first book, and luckily, and I and friend were able to convince her that the book was beyond her daughter's years, and she shouldn't be reading it for quite some time.

I think they've taken this franchise way too far. I want to see the allure of it die down.....and fast.

The books were written by a Mormon housewife here in Arizona. What do you expect? They live to serve men and have no life or interests outside their families.

On the other hand, do you feminists have to ruin everything? It is fiction, fantasy, we get it, and by presuming we don't know that, you are actually the one insulting women!

I actually enjoyed the books, BUT I'm a happily married adult. My husband 12 year old cousin is OBSESSED!!! She goes around constantly talking about how she wants to be best friends with "Alice" and she wishes she could meet Robert Pattinson (My husband drives her crazy because he calls him "Bob Patterson") It's really unhealthy in my opinion. We always try to get her interested in other things when we're around her, but many times it's to no avail.

To sit there and not pay attention to the fact that this is a book of FICTION is in itself, silly. You will not find that many guys quite like Edward Cullen, vampire. I have read Twilight, and all the other books in the series, many many times. I understand and know the difference between fact and fiction, because, as a teen, my mother instilled the differences in me.

Teenagers have their own system in how they do things. Teenaged girls will fawn over that "perfect guy", trying to make him notice her, doing silly, girly things to get his attention. Teenaged boys will trip over themselves to get the girl they are gaga over to notice them, including exactly what Mike Newton did in the book; they act dumb, do stupid stunts, make fools of themselves, just to win the girl, and yea, they ignore their friends while they do this. To not see that Bella loves to read means that you were too caught up in trying to deconstruct the book and find fault in it, than to notice that Bella Swan is 1.) shy and actually likes to not be in the spotlight, like a lot of teen girls out there, and 2.) is a smart, learned young lady. She comes from a dysfunctional family, basically "raising" her mother, and then taking care of her father. Lots of teens do this, and some actually enjoy it. Bella loves her father, and wants to make sure he is ok, even if it's feeding him. She did the same thing for her mother. Does that mean something different when it's put in that context? That wasn't even touched upon, the fact that Bella had to make sure the bills got paid, groceries were brought, and the like, when she lived with her "lovable, scatterbrained mother" a mother who would cook up the strangest foods, to the point that Bella cooked all the meals of the house while she lived with her too.

This is a work of fiction. You read it, and take away the stress of life, and escape into a fantasy world, where homework, parents, teachers, work, bosses, bills, none of life bothers you, while you run off into the wild blue yonder of your imagination. Re-read the book. Read it to enjoy it this time. Not to pick out what you don't like. You may find that the book is more than what you got out of it.

While there are some things I can definitely agree with you on - your comment about cooking for her Father is reacing a little. You totally it the nail on the head with her lusting after Edward, but since her parents are divorced cooking for her Dad is harmless. He doesn't make her cook dinner...And, yes you could reach really far in there and say that the author is insinuating that men can't cook or that men expect women to be the 'perfect housewife' but I really don't think that the author is saying that, atleast not in reference to Bella and her Father.

umm hello thats why its a fiction! duh its supposed to be non realistic....like vampires and werewolves really exist come on. How can it give a girl the wrong idea, if she is believing this story in the first place something clearly isnt right with her.

Since I am notorious wordy when responding to comments which annoy me I'll try to be brief.
Firstly Bellla has hobbies. She reads books, listens to an array of types of music and eventually gets a part time job at Mike Newton's family run business. Additionally she has friends outside of Edward (Jessica, Angela, Alice, Mike to name a few).
second, Edward is supposed to be unrealistic he's a fictional creature/character. you also have to realize he is written from Bella's perspective. If you truly look at Edward he is far from perfect.
Third, she is not brainwashed. As they say Love is blind. Early on she is blinded by the strength of her feelings for Edward. eventually she does stand up for herself against him. Particularly when she wants to spend time with Jacob although Edward is vehemently against it.
Fourth and final. Why can't she be domestically inclined and still be a modern woman. You make it sound like cooking and cleaning aren't for real women. I hold two Master's degrees and a Doctorate, I still cook for my family, bake cookies, clean the bathroom and do the laundry. Oops I guess I need to turn in my feminist card because I like taking care of my family.
Twilight is a work of fiction. People read too much into works of fiction. I never understood why people have to disect literature whether its Shakespeare or Twilight to look for the hidden meanings. Fiction is meant to be a form of entertainment. An activity to allow the mind to relax and be free. If we wanted philosophy and theology we'd read non-fiction.
Twilight is a serices of enjoyable books. Can't you leave it at that. I doubt those of us who were into Science Fiction in the '80 we're seriously damaged by the sight of Princess Leia in a slave girl bikini, I think this generation will survive Bella and Edward.

you should know that when it is fiction we know it is not real and that guys are not like that and neither are the girls so I think it was stupid to read it like that because there are other books and movies that are stupid and deal with romance and stupid crap that guys never do so stop harping on the book and movies and enjoy the fiction.

She does read...and it appears that she reads great classical novels as well.

who cares

O.k. So, I disagree. The whole point is that she feels, and states, several times in the series that Edward is a dream. She feels like he'll disappear. She feels as though she is nothing out of the ordinary, to which he disagrees. She does things outside of him, as he does too. It's just that they don't want to be apart. They love each other. She cooks and cleans for her father to care for him. She does actually do homework. She even has a job later in the series. I think that you must not have ever been in love, really in love, to not see this for what it is. Edward cannot leave or live without her, either. He tried for a long time before he met her. Why do we tell people that things like this can't happen? Finding someone to love who loves you back is a miracle. Feminism drives me crazy! My husband still opens my door for me. Yes, I know I can do it myself. I love it that he wants too, though. That someone cares about and respects me. I feel bad for woman that won't let a man do anything for them. I dare so that you are not as strong as those of us that let others care for us.

How about the part where Edward is an abusive, controlling psychopath?

Most of that stuff is true, but Bella does read quite a bit, even if it is the same books over and over. She is also in AP bio and does extremely well in her classes, so at least shes educated and intelligent, not some vapid princess...

geez, calm ur balls. it's just a book.

I mean I agree, but its fiction and fiction is supposed to EXAGGERATE what life is really like. Many girls focus all of their attention on their boyfriends, many girls do fall head over heels and if a there were any man like Edward, they would likely deserve to have any girl completely swoon. I have to say after I read Twilight I was depressed that this isn't how the world really is but it was written for just that purpose.

It does my heart good to see a female who hates Twilight almost as much as I do.