5 Common Dating Mistakes You Don't Know You're Making

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Michelle, I agree with opening up your dating options but in reality, most black women have limited dating options. Most white men are socialized to date their own (blond, blue eyed). The real problem is that most men don't care to date outside the box regardless of race.

And I find it highly offensive(not from you but from articles like this in general) that women should lower that attraction requirements "just to date". Men don't...

to elizabeth, if your newbie constantly brings up his ex in every conversation you two has, then he probably have a thing for her still. you should check that out, because his ex is his ex for a reason. he should not be bringing her up, unless you guys are discussing something in regards to her. its about you now, not you and her.......

the part i am doing is branching out difference races and types this helps alot too

Thanks Justin!!

You should get to know someone by sending emails back and forth for awhile before you even decide to talk on the phone.

meeting new people is great but its frustrating sometime when you fall for the person and you dont get your things up to your expectations.but i do take things lightly and stick to my agendas,since i cant get the man fall in love with.but of course i do enjoy hes company and thats a great accomplishement,i loved it.seeing him enjoying me being around too.i totally agree with that word being confident is rocking up your flaws and not being too hard on yourself.>D cheers shine.more power

Alright, I have to say this is a really good article. It doesnt give you a bunch of stuff about "how to act" or "what guys/gals are looking for" which is good because everyone is different right? I believe that this article gives very good advice. :D

I agree with all of the advice, except for #3. You can be the friendliest, most confident girl in the world, but if your overweight, no man will want to be seen with you, never mind date you.

okay it is pretty good advice, but i'm pretty sure the majority of us kno0w this stuff already. don't be fake, be confident, don't be shallow or bitchy. get it, got it, good.

As far as the overweight comment goes. Babe, if you got it work it. there is nothing more attractive than a thick woman who know she looks good, and reflects it in her personality, apperal, conversation and confidence. If you are beautiful it will show!!!

Ugh! 'I truly believe God blesses us with...a..mate.' If there is a God as commonly perceived by the masses, said deity is wise enough to stay out of the mess relationships often transform into. lol.

Please, leave mysticism out of relationships--it only serves to further complicate matters.

OH my goodness!! People are still carping on about the whole "he won't date you unless your slender" thing? LOLOL...if he's that shallow? Who need him!!! As a woman of substance I can tell you that it's NOT true. Just got hit on by a young man half my age last night. Be yourself, and enjoy your own company, if you don't like who you are,why the heck should he??

very good advice.

great thnksz yahoo.........

p.s. Man, does that woman in the photo look phoney or what? No wonder men treat women badly. If I was a guy and had to look at women like that phoney one all day, I would be a freaking weirdo, too!

All good. I try to have no expectations and just enjoy the date for what it is. And it's crucial to be yourself although I do have to hold back on the cussing as that can be a real turn off to some men. And it's important to not reveal too much about yourself to him. Listen to him. Ask him questions about his life. Reeeeeeally listen to him. You can learn so much about his values, traits, personality by how he tells his stories.

This list forgot boundaries and inner dialogue. My single friend tells the guy too little at first, then lays heavy stuff on him after a few dates as though they've known each other intimately for years. Sex doesn't mean you're intimate, it doesn't mean you have a solid foundation of friendship and trust, and sex doesn't mean you can bring all your baggage with you and dump it on him. The great guys she dates (who all eventually run from her) get hit by a freight train of dysfunction that she needs to work on in therapy, not on unsuspecting boyfriends she's just slept with too soon. Any woman who can't "figure out" what she's doing wrong and why she's still alone in her late 30s? She might just need counseling to work out some issues, and not date until she's on her way to straightening out her situation. My friend is convinced she just hasn't heard the right diatribe from Oprah, or read the right self-hell book yet. I wish she'd get some real help, and I know she's hardly the only one.

Avoid mentioning his stack of Hustlers by the toilete. Or mention it, if you find it tacky as well.