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    6 Essential Tips for Talking Dirty

    We talked with sex-pert and Booty Parlor founder Dana Myers on how to ease into dirty talk that'll have your lover's heart racing this Valentine's Day.






    Tips for Talking Dirty

    #1. Talk Softly. "Use your voice the way you're moving your body. Talk softly, look at each other or close your eyes if you feel more comfortable. You don't want to be laughing hysterically while you describe what you're about to do to your lover, but it's okay to be silly and giggle a little if that's how you feel."



    #2. Start Small. "You don't need to jump in with anything extreme. Something that can read as innocent as 'I love the way your tongue feels on my skin' obviously means a whole lot more. If that's still too much, just whisper into your lover's ears. The heat of your breath and a few sultry words is incredibly scintillating."


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    #3. Use it Outside the Bedroom. "When you use it as foreplay completely out of the bedroom, it's fun and saucy and gets mental stimulation going on during the day. It's important for women to think about sex outside the bedroom so by the time you get in there, you're warmed up a bit."


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    #4. Just Read. "The absolute easiest way to get into it is to buy a book of erotica and take turns reading to each other in bed. The really shy woman can literally hide behind the cover. Pass it back and forth and the nervousness breaks down. It becomes this sexy story time for the two of you that might lead to you writing your own and sharing."


    #5. Practice Alone. "Just think back to the sexiest scenario you've ever been involved in, and go over it play-by-play, putting words to it. Narrate it. Or use a dream situation with some hot Hollywood actor; it's a great way to come up with fantasy language. Trying it solo takes the fear factor out of it. You're alone, in your own world, with no one to judge you."


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    #6. Easy Ways to Start. "Ask for more. Describe what he's doing. Encourage him with words like harder, faster, or slower. Give instructions along with positive encouragement. Gently guide him. One of the most empowering aspects of dirty talk is describing what you're about to do. You'll feel like you're taking charge and that you're about to treat him to something very pleasurable. You hold the power! You'll end up feeling like a bit of a rockstar in the bedroom."



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    Reprinted with permission of Hearst Communications, Inc.

     

    19 comments

    • missy  •  Livingston, New Jersey  •  3 months ago
      the man i am dating lives an hour away and we both have our own kids so weekends are the only time we have together for now. During the week we talk alot on the phone but we both have "other ears" ease dropping on our conversations so we relate our sex talks to food or other items that if heard would not seem sexual. Words like: I want to push ur button and then explain how to push the "button". It makes for very imaginative conversation that is very errotic and then when it comes to the weekend we can't keep our hands off each other and makes for very interesting new ways for having great and always exciting new sexual encounters.
    • LBC  •  3 months ago
      This was the single best article I have ever read both on the subject of how to talk dirty and on Yahoo Shine period. The article has substance, good advice, is well written, and aligns with the headline. Well done! And good tips - thanks!
    • Alexandria  •  3 months ago
      Help! I 'm no good at this. I usually say something like this

      "Honey...............make me a sandwhich.........*moans* LOL
      • Michael R 3 months ago
        One sandwich on the way. What would you like on it ?
    • Frank  •  Ellensburg, Washington  •  3 months ago
      What? Grunting and making yummy sounds isn't talking dirty?
      • Silencio 3 months ago
        Grunting....yummy sounds....yes it can be very dirty and hot, if done at the right moment.;-)
      • Andrea 3 months ago
        LMAO. Well some people may think so. My exbf, all he had to say is, "Come up here" and I was completely his lol. To me that was the sexiest phrase to hear.
    • Froggy  •  3 months ago
      My wife talks dirty to me. She says, "Get off me you fat @#$%!"
    • Andrea  •  Boynton Beach, Florida  •  3 months ago
      A few years ago I bought a book about the art of dirty talk and I found it humorous. If you're not comfortable saying those words then don't say them. I have a go to phrase I like to use and it seems to work lol.
      • Tom 3 months ago
        and the phrase would be for inquiring minds on Shine?
      • Andrea 3 months ago
        "Master f*** me!" I like to be direct and to the point lol.
      • Michael R 3 months ago
        WOW, straight, direct, and to the point. Nice one Andrea. I bet your guy follows orders without any backtalk. Have fun.
    • Amanda  •  Traverse City, Michigan  •  3 months ago
      I try to talk dirty, but he normally laughs at me, he said its cute when I try.
      • Tom 3 months ago
        well Amanda try just "whispering" in his ear next time. and he should never be laughing at you. Whispering makes it much more fun as you can't see the person but yet it's very intimate.
    • Gregory  •  Compton, California  •  3 months ago
      Sharing of verbal thoughts like talking dirty brings a extra erotic sexuality to the joy of sex. I introduce the ideal of erotic talking to my Lady over a year ago cause she was so quiet during our romps. Now she out talks me in the bed !! So it will highlight the passion & give each lover direction in pleasing their lover. Express yourself & your Passion !!
    • Planner  •  3 months ago
      It amazes me how two people can tear it up so fantastically under the sheets and yet they are like frozen chosen when trying dirty talk. My wife is tremendous but yet it pains her to say many things, and we've been married 39 years? She will do anything with me but that? I wonder why? We;ve read the same books, we've watched the same porn movies, we're just great in the bed, we love to flirt? But for her to say something "dirty" is beyond her grasp? I wonder why? Anyone know?
      • Heather 3 months ago
        People naturally have different turn-on triggers. Some its visual, others aural, some action/touch, smell etc. If she is more visual/touch than perhaps when saying it she feels less meaningful, forced or silly. You guys can in the middle somewhere...
    • Silencio  •  3 months ago
      I love it how Ward can "talk dirty" to me in a room full of people and without using a single "dirty" word...those he whispers into my ear ;-) make me tingle all over just thinking if it..dirty talk is great if both people are into it :-)
      PS this is going on the fridge ;-)
    • Kimberly  •  Fayetteville, North Carolina  •  3 months ago
      I can't bring myself to talk dirty, I think dirty but it feels funny trying to say those things.
    • George Jetson  •  3 months ago
      when my mother says booty she's talking about baby shoes, or at least i hope so.
    • George Jetson  •  3 months ago
      why turn on the stove if you don't know how to cook. these are the same people who tell ME about sex.
    • George Jetson  •  3 months ago
      If you can't dance just sit on the side line and listen to the music.
      don't step on my feet.
    • Stephen  •  Atlanta, Georgia  •  3 months ago
      These are all good ideas. I especially like #6. Don't be afraid to say when something feels really good. I always find that really sexy.
    • Tom  •  Minneapolis, Minnesota  •  3 months ago
      Talking dirty is so subjective and "time" appropriate, the timing is more of the key. By time appropriate I mean he is way ahead of you sexually so in my mind the best policy is just to whisper things in their ear and react to how they respond. First by doing that your "not looking into each other's eyes" that's for later when she is more ready and it allows the other person to just absorb it with out having to "react to it". With women you have to ramp it up slowly and besides whispering is much more sexy and intimate.
    • Kandb05  •  3 months ago
      The best kind of sex is not pre planned or already thought out! Great sex cannot be recreated or forced! It depends on the kind of intimate connection you have with your partner. The most sexy things i/he has said have just been in the heat of the moment! I would be freaked out if he tried to say something that he read on the internet..it wouldn't feel right.
    • Sherry Berry  •  Honolulu, Hawaii  •  3 months ago
      Interesting! I picked up a couple of things I'm gonna have to try :)
    • George Jetson  •  3 months ago
      I like number 4, she says im in the mood for love, he says ok lets read a book.

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