We talked with sex-pert and Booty Parlor founder Dana Myers on how to ease into dirty talk that'll have your lover's heart racing this Valentine's Day.
Tips for Talking Dirty
#1. Talk Softly. "Use your voice the way you're moving your body. Talk softly, look at each other or close your eyes if you feel more comfortable. You don't want to be laughing hysterically while you describe what you're about to do to your lover, but it's okay to be silly and giggle a little if that's how you feel."
#2. Start Small. "You don't need to jump in with anything extreme. Something that can read as innocent as 'I love the way your tongue feels on my skin' obviously means a whole lot more. If that's still too much, just whisper into your lover's ears. The heat of your breath and a few sultry words is incredibly scintillating."
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#3. Use it Outside the Bedroom. "When you use it as foreplay completely out of the bedroom, it's fun and saucy and gets mental stimulation going on during the day. It's important for women to think about sex outside the bedroom so by the time you get in there, you're warmed up a bit."
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#4. Just Read. "The absolute easiest way to get into it is to buy a book of erotica and take turns reading to each other in bed. The really shy woman can literally hide behind the cover. Pass it back and forth and the nervousness breaks down. It becomes this sexy story time for the two of you that might lead to you writing your own and sharing."
#5. Practice Alone. "Just think back to the sexiest scenario you've ever been involved in, and go over it play-by-play, putting words to it. Narrate it. Or use a dream situation with some hot Hollywood actor; it's a great way to come up with fantasy language. Trying it solo takes the fear factor out of it. You're alone, in your own world, with no one to judge you."
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#6. Easy Ways to Start. "Ask for more. Describe what he's doing. Encourage him with words like harder, faster, or slower. Give instructions along with positive encouragement. Gently guide him. One of the most empowering aspects of dirty talk is describing what you're about to do. You'll feel like you're taking charge and that you're about to treat him to something very pleasurable. You hold the power! You'll end up feeling like a bit of a rockstar in the bedroom."
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